03/10/2026
To my dear friends on the path,
After the yoga workshop last Friday, I ran over a wombat - in my own driveway, just 10m from my front door. At 9pm, there I was, lying face down on the grass in tears.
It was the third animal I had hit in four weeks. I was beside myself. Completely gutted. My mind kept replaying what had happened, searching for an explanation. I wasn't doing anything wrong. Why me? What's wrong with me?
And then I noticed something familiar beneath the grief. This belief that if I do X, Y and Z, then A, B and C should be the result. Cause and effect. There is, of course, some truth in this. Our choices matter. What we do influences what happens. But life isn't a formula. And neither is health.
For years, I believed that if I just did all the things - ate well, slept well, hydrated, meditated, moved my body, journalled, practised gratitude, managed stress, took the right supplements, expressed my emotions, lived with integrity, read the research, followed the experts, optimised... I'd feel great. Surely, if I did everything “right”, I would get the result I wanted. Earlier this year, I learnt that it doesn't always work that way. No matter what I did, I wasn't feeling better. I felt depleted, somewhat depressed and deeply frustrated.
I kept searching for the missing piece. Maybe I just hadn't found the right formula yet. Maybe if I tried a little harder... researched a little more... optimised a little better... I'd finally crack the code.
The harder I tried to replenish, restore and harmonise myself, the further away from myself I seemed to get.
There is a Taoist concept called wu wei, often translated as “effortless action” or “non-forcing.”
Not doing nothing. Not giving up. But learning to stop fighting what is. To respond to what is actually happening, rather than imposing what one thinks should be happening.
And honestly, I find this incredibly challenging.
Because the mind wants certainty. It wants formulas. It wants guarantees. It wants to believe that if we do the right things, the right things will happen. But we are not machines. What nourishes us one day may deplete us the next. For today, ask yourself what do I really need?