28/08/2026
We’re always asking what we need to do more of to reach our goals.
And sometimes, yeah, maybe there is something you need to add.
But what if progress isn’t always about adding more?
What if there are also things you need to let go of?
Maybe it’s the all-or-nothing mindset that turns one meal out into “stuff it, I’ll start again Monday.”
Maybe it’s the belief that a workout only counts if you give it 100%.
Maybe it’s constantly telling yourself you have “no self-control” around food, without ever getting curious about why food feels so hard to control in the first place.
Maybe it’s waiting until you feel motivated before you take action.
Or maybe it’s the belief that if you could just lose the weight, then you’d finally become the person who trains consistently, looks after herself, feels confident and prioritises her health.
But what if we’ve got that backwards?
Instead of only focusing on what you want to have, start thinking about who you want to be.
Who is the woman you’re trying to become?
How does she speak to herself?
What does she do when she has a s**t day?
Does she give up because she missed a workout, or does she adjust?
Does she wait until she feels motivated, or has she built ways to show up without it?
What decisions does she make most of the time?
And maybe most importantly:
What beliefs about yourself do you need to stop carrying with you if you want to become her?
Because I think we can become so focused on finding the next strategy that we forget we’re bringing the same beliefs, behaviours and expectations into every new thing we try.
That doesn’t mean mindset is the only reason you’re struggling, or that you can simply think your way to your goals.
It’s just another piece worth getting curious about.
Sometimes we’re so focused on what we need to gain that we forget to ask what we might need to lose.
