Carla Da Costa

Carla Da Costa 𝘊𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘢 𝘋𝘢 𝘊𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘢
▷ Divorce Coach & Author
♛ Women’s Healing

Happy Father’s Day … 🤷🏼‍♀️The hardest respect to win back, is the loss of it from your children when they eventually see...
05/09/2026

Happy Father’s Day … 🤷🏼‍♀️

The hardest respect to win back, is the loss of it from your children when they eventually see through you.

xx

03/09/2026

1. Break up with your patterns that lead to your marriage ending. What your ex did was irrelevant. What did you do?

2. New life. New goals. If you bring your old goals, wants and desires to your future you will simply recreate the emotional circumstances from the past again.

3. Take accountability and responsibility for any mistakes or wrongdoings you’ve done. It will follow you like a creeper and you will stay stuck in the old if you don’t.

4. Stop looking to the opposite s*x for validation, love and attention. It’s a sign you’re wounded which means you’ll attract wounded which will leave you feeling…more wounded 🫠

5. Your emotional slate needs to be clean and clear. Fresh starts don’t begin from muddy waters.

* For enquiries about working with me professionally please DM me “New Life” to explore. My available coaching spaces for new clients for the remainder of 2026 are now limited.

When a client reaches this inner point everything begins to work out favourably for them.Some of my clients have experie...
03/09/2026

When a client reaches this inner point everything begins to work out favourably for them.

Some of my clients have experienced some of the most horrible, abusive and toxic experiences from the hands of someone who “loved” them.

Your experience can be shifted into something wonderful for you.

Please DM me to enquire about my group and 1:1 professional coaching services.
This is not therapy or counselling.

01/09/2026

This is a special and unique journey. Not everyone walks it. I’m sure you’ve met that person- they seem immune to self-reflection!!!

They don’t grow or change at all!!!

In this 4 minutes I outline:
• The difference in length of time for men and women
• Why men have to really lose themselves first
• Where men and women get stuck on this journey

For enquiries about how to work with me if you’re navigating this life changing experience please DM me “AWAKENING” to enquire.

It’s not about going back in time. There’s nothing to undo. It’s taking what you’ve been through and weaving it into a n...
27/08/2026

It’s not about going back in time. There’s nothing to undo.

It’s taking what you’ve been through and weaving it into a new feminine version of you.

Comment RETURN below to join us from this Sunday for my newest 9 day activation.

$77 AUD
9 days.
Daily 20 min voice activations.
Private Telegram channel.
Starts Aug 30th - Sep 8th.

A lot of women tell me they’re trying to get out of their masculine energy.But here’s the part I think we need to talk a...
24/08/2026

A lot of women tell me they’re trying to get out of their masculine energy.

But here’s the part I think we need to talk about more:

For many women, the marriage didn’t put her there.

She entered the relationship already energetically leading it and carrying it. Some women, quietly manipulating it even to keep it together.

And very often, the relationship simply organised itself around her capacity to carry.

She became the driver.

The more she did, the less her partner needed to do.

The more she took responsibility for the relationship, the easier it became for somebody else not to.

Until eventually she wasn’t just in the relationship.

She was keeping the relationship alive.

And then divorce or heartbreak can reinforce the pattern even further.

So when women tell me they want to “come out of their masculine,” I don’t think the answer is becoming less ambitious, less independent, less successful or less powerful.

God, no.

Keep that side.
Just not in love.
In love you need to bring a whole other side.

Keep the woman who knows how to lead herself.

The woman who receives, who lets her guard down, who’s vulnerable.

Who trusts her intuition.

Who allows herself pleasure.

Who desires.

Who rests.

Who lets herself be supported.

Who doesn’t measure her value by how much she can hold together.

🌿 This is exactly what we’re exploring inside The Feminine Return.

A 9-day activation for the woman who is ready to make room for these parts of herself again.

We begin August 30th.
Investment is $77 AUD.

Comment RETURN below and I’ll send you the details.

You don’t need to lose your strength.
It’s about awakening another side of yourself.

🌿 THE FEMININE RETURN ACTIVATION IS NOW OPEN.A 9 day activation | Starts Sunday 30 August | $77 AUDComment RETURN below ...
22/08/2026

🌿 THE FEMININE RETURN ACTIVATION IS NOW OPEN.

A 9 day activation | Starts Sunday 30 August | $77 AUD

Comment RETURN below and I’ll send you the details.

For the woman who became so good at being strong that she didn’t realise how much of herself she was giving away.

You became the capable one.

The independent one.

The giver. The organiser. The one who holds everything together.

And somewhere along the way…

It took away from you on the inside.

The Feminine Return is 9 days of breaking up with the version of strong that has left you over-giving, controlling, do’ing all the time and disconnected from the feminine core of yourself.

We’re returning to a different way of being.

More peaceful.
More relaxed.
More receptive.
More playful.
More trusting.
More empowered and successful.

All the things at once.

This isn’t about becoming less powerful or independent.

And it’s definitely not about becoming more feminine and subservient for a man.

It’s about returning to your feminine core — perhaps for the first time in your life.

ALL the sides of you.

You didn’t lose your feminine.
You lost that side of yourself in everything you were doing for everyone else.

🌿 The Feminine Return
9 daily 20 minute activations.
Held within a private Telegram channel.
$77 AUD
Starts Sunday 30 August

Comment RETURN and I’ll send you the link to learn more.

I wa talking to my accountant recently. Going over business tax and ATO things.I said to her “I think I need a husband.”...
21/08/2026

I wa talking to my accountant recently. Going over business tax and ATO things.
I said to her “I think I need a husband.”

Her reply was rapid fire.

“You don’t need a husband.
You need a wife.”
😆😆

And honestly I get it.

So many women ended up carrying their ex-husbands emotionally for way too long.
To the cost of themselves.

Compensated for them. Filled in all the gaps of the things they didn’t do. Covered for them.

To the point some women felt like they were carrying a man child or Peter Pan who refused to grow up.

It was a wholly disappointing experience.
That they don’t want to repeat.

If this is you, you should listen to my podcast on de-centering men 🎙️

It might open your eyes.

Comment PODCAST below or link is in my profile x

Comment PODCAST below and I’ll send you the episode. 🎙️Women are decentering men.But I’m seeing two very different reaso...
19/08/2026

Comment PODCAST below and I’ll send you the episode. 🎙️

Women are decentering men.

But I’m seeing two very different reasons why.

One woman is doing it from hurt, disappointment and self-protection.

The other from a very different place for very different reasons.

🎙️ Comment PODCAST below and I’ll send you the episode.

16/08/2026

Is this your marriage? Or was it? 💔 Is a friend trying to leave a marriage like this?

I have more clients than ever coming to me sharing a version of this story.
And the theme:

• How much they self-abandoned, lost themselves or lost their way to keep the marriage together.
• The personal price and cost to self to stay in a marriage like this but a price they’ve also paid to get out of it.
• Healing and moving on from such a marriage while carrying guilt, shame, regret, hurt, anger.
• Navigating the flow on effect they’re seeing in their children.

If this is your story, and you’re wanting to leave the pain and emotion of it resolved and behind in your past, please DM me “SUCCESS” so I know you specifically came from this post to enquire.

Yours is a particular nuance of conditioning to overcome that you were trapped in. And leaving the marriage doesn’t end the emotional load and price of being in one.

With love C x

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