25/07/2026
Proof is in the pudding💕 Nearly 7 years of being loved like this has changed me.
For a long time, I didn’t know a relationship built on mutual respect, care & genuine reverence was even possible. Before Jesse, I believed I was too sensitive, too much, & asking for something unrealistic. I genuinely thought the kind of relationship that I longed for only existed in my imagination.
I didn’t grow up with healthy examples of love or relationships.. in many ways it was the opposite, which left me deeply confused about what was normal, what was acceptable, & even how I was showing up in relationships myself.
I remember asking my therapist whether it was actually possible to find a partner who would treat me the way I hoped to be treated, or whether my expectations were too high (I certainly wasn’t asking to be knelt before & praised 🤣) & I’ll never forget his answer, which was of COURSE it’s possible, & that i definitely wasn’t asking for too much.
That reassurance (& I guess permission even) was a huge reason as to why I was continuously motivated to seek what I wanted, & not settle for anything less. Why I could believe that I deserved better, while also recognising that I wanted to become a better partner too.. I knew I had my own growth & healing to do, but I also knew I didn’t have to accept anything less than what I wanted from a partner.
I was 33 when I finally met someone who made love feel like the priority, not something to fight for or earn. For the first time, I felt safe enough to soften, to trust, & to truly relax into being loved. I had actually gotten to place in my life where I felt happy to just have lovers & friends, not really bothered about 1 single partner or primary partner, & then Jesse came along & I haven’t looked back.
That being said.. we’re both human & aren’t perfect by any means. But being consistently met with kindness, respect, & care has transformed the way I experience love, & it’s something I’ll never take for granted.
I’m sharing this to give you permission to feel worthy of what you want, as you may also, like me, not feel like it’s possible, or like you’re asking for too much, when it
