29/08/2026
If you feel you’re in a dead-end job, or your career has changed since you started, or you feel miserable in your current position or feel there’s more to life — I know how you feel.
I spent the last few years of my professional career as an international businesswoman dying a slow death. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my job, and I was well entrenched in the bigger, better, more pathway, and one goal was reached after another, and yet, it all became pretty hollow.
You see, when I embarked on that profession, I had a lot to prove and a burning desire to be somebody. It was a good life, and yet I felt isolated, and it came at a cost. It didn’t matter that I had a business, travelled, lived overseas, had money and was a leader in my field.
Losing my husband changed my world. When he told me he loved me but wasn’t in love with me, I was devastated.
It took me a while to realise why he felt like he did and why he was leaving me for a woman I felt was nowhere near as “good” as me...
I was shocked, numb, physically sick and couldn’t function as I began to process the news...
The saddening realisation that the career I once enjoyed had metamorphosed into something that had brought me to my knees was devastating. To think that I had invested over 3 decades of my life in a relationship and 28 years in a marriage that I thought was great, but my husband was now leaving me, made me feel nauseous.
Looking back, I could see that we were going through the motions day to day as a couple and had a beautiful family, but I had a hollowness inside me that I hadn’t even been aware of at the time.
It was him being brave enough to step out of the cycle that ultimately gave me the opportunity to hit “reset” on my own life.
When I made up my mind to use our marriage breakdown as the reason I had to re-evaluate my life, I immediately took action to take steps to change my life.
I stepped down as Managing Director of my company, handed over day-to-day management to my team, and took time to work on myself and build a new life.
It was the summer our youngest daughter began Uni that I decided to move overseas and live in China.
I met a man who came with me, and during this time I began to shed layers of myself, both mentally and physically, as unhappiness permeated every cell of my being. I tore down the mental walls that protected me from being present and had kept me so driven, and I finally began to feel free.
I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and studying since then to find clarity. Sometimes I wonder why I did not see what was happening earlier, and whether I could have changed it had I addressed the issues sooner. Maybe it was the payoff or the benefits I received that kept me stuck, or maybe it was fear of leaving the familiar for the unknown… but once I realised the blocks holding me back, there was nothing that could’ve changed my decision & I’ve never looked back since.
Since then, I’ve left that relationship, rebuilt my family, changed my career, sold my business assets and met the man of my dreams.
I had to take action to change what wasn’t working in my life and address what I wasn’t focusing on to bring about the massive changes I’ve created.
I had invested a lot of money in a project that failed, but I was determined not to let it stop me from rebuilding. I believed in being brave and moving forward to create a new life, and I looked forward to it.
The anticipation of finding my purpose kept me going. I wanted to discover why I was on earth and how what I had been through was part of the “grand plan”, and that was what gave me the strength on the dark days to get out of bed and keep going.
If you can relate, maybe my story will inspire you to keep moving forward. Please know you can rebuild and reinvent yourself.
It’s been an exciting new journey, and I can truly say I’ve found my calling as a Divorce Recovery & Life Transition Coach, as I love helping people transition.
I specialise in helping people find their happiness and to create a new life that fulfils their dreams and brings them joy.
It’s been 12 years since my ex told me he was leaving, and I suffered heartbreak. I now have a new life, engaged to a magnificent man, a new business, a reunited, strong, loving family, and I get to serve amazing women all over the world and share how they can begin their new journey. And I owe it all to my ex-husband. His leaving me was exactly what I needed to awaken me and help me create the happy, rewarding life I have today. ✨
What is the moral of this story? Where you are right now is perfect for you, as it’s what is real. It’s never too late to find self-love, acceptance and create a new life. I want you to feel great about yourself and be living a life you love.
If you need help with that, reach out and join our community. I can help any woman who is committed, coachable and resourceful to start again and make the second chapter of her life magnificent!
Fiona May Steddy x
