19/06/2026
Imagine being told you can't work because of your disability.
Not because you don't want to. Not because you're lazy. Not because you lack ambition.
Because your disability genuinely prevents you from maintaining employment.
Now imagine finding a partner, building a life together, and finally having someone by your side.
Then being told that because your partner works, you are no longer entitled to the same level of financial support.
Suddenly, your income is reduced because the government counts your spouse's wage as available to you. Yet your disability hasn't improved. Your medical costs haven't disappeared. Your daily challenges haven't magically gone away.
You haven't become less disabled.
You have simply fallen in love.
For many Australians living with disability, this creates an uncomfortable reality. They become financially dependent on their partner through no choice of their own.
Independence is more than paying bills. It's having your own money. Being able to buy a birthday present without asking. Getting a coffee with a friend without feeling guilty. Contributing to your own life with dignity.
When financial support is reduced based on a partner's income, it can take away more than dollars. It can take away confidence, autonomy and a sense of self-worth.
It can also increase the risk of social isolation. When every dollar spent needs to be justified, people can become less likely to attend social activities, maintain friendships, participate in their community or simply enjoy the same freedoms many of us take for granted.
More concerningly, financial dependence can increase vulnerability to domestic and family violence. Financial control is one of the most common forms of abuse. When a person has little or no independent income, leaving an unhealthy or unsafe relationship can become significantly more difficult.
To be clear, most partners are loving, supportive and would never use money as a tool for control. But systems should be designed to protect people when things go wrong, not assume they never will.
Many people with disability want to work. Many would jump at the chance if their circumstances allowed it. But when work isn't possible, they shouldn't be punished for being in a relationship.
No one should have to choose between financial independence and having a partner.
A person's value should not be measured by their ability to earn an income.
And disability doesn't disappear simply because someone else in the household has a job.
It's a conversation Australia needs to have.
Because support payments should support the person living with the disability, not assume that their partner can or should carry the responsibility alone.
Progressive Care Disability Services supports the rights of people with disability to live with dignity, independence, safety and choice. We would love to hear what you think 🤔