05/07/2026
Some of you aren’t going to like this…
But I think social media has given people a completely unrealistic expectation of what healing is supposed to look like.
If your feed is full of people screaming, convulsing, hyperventilating or having what looks like an exorcism every time they do breathwork, it’s easy to believe that’s what “successful” healing looks like.
It isn’t.
Can those experiences happen?
Absolutely.
Should they be the expectation or the goal?
I don’t believe so.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve started treating healing like a performance.
The louder the release.
The bigger the reaction.
The more “healed” you must be.
But your nervous system doesn’t heal because it’s dramatic.
It heals when it feels safe.
I’ve watched people experience profound shifts without anyone else in the room even noticing.
A body that finally softens.
Shoulders that drop.
A first full breath in years.
Someone realising, “I don’t actually feel like I’m surviving anymore”.
That might not go viral.
But I’d argue it’s far more powerful.
As a trauma-informed practitioner, I’m not interested in chasing the biggest reaction.
I’m interested in helping your nervous system discover that it no longer has to fight, flee, freeze… or perform.
Healing isn’t measured by how loud it looks.
It’s measured by how safe you feel when you leave.
I’m curious…
Do you think social media has changed what people expect healing to look like?