Soulforth

18/06/2026

17/06/2026

Today I facilitated a talk on Matrescence: The In-Between of Motherhood at BCT (Brussels Childbirth Trust).

I find it fascinating that we dedicate such little time to this life changing transition into motherhood.

It was beautiful to initiate this conversation, to hear different experiences from women going through matrescence, and to allow space to put the women at the center of this experience. I hope to do many more of these!

16/06/2026

We go through many life transitions as women, but of the biggest (if not the biggest) is called matrescence. The term “matrescence” was coined in 1970s by anthropologist Dana Raphael, but is still widely unknown. It describes the changes that rewire a woman’s brain as she becomes a mother, and that bring on a profound identity shift. Have you already heard this term? And for moms here: what is the biggest sift you noticed in yourself since you became a mom?

13/06/2026

A reminder for you:

You don’t have to finish your to-do list first.

You don’t have to be more productive first.

You don’t have to have everything figured out.

You’re allowed to enjoy your life while it’s still messy.

11/06/2026

If you recognise yourself here ☝️ dm to schedule a Clarity Call #

10/06/2026

I kept going long after the identity had already stopped fitting.

I didn’t have words for it then. Just the restlessness, the anxiety, the pull toward anything that would quiet the noise for a while. I thought I just needed to push through.

It took me a long time to understand that my body had already known, long before my mind willing to listen.

Major transitions don’t just change your circumstances. They change who you are — and that process is slower, messier, and more disorienting than anyone prepares you for. It happens because identity, the sense of self is deep, and it touches everything.

And if you’re somewhere in the middle of this right now — I see you.

08/06/2026

Not every day has to be special, or profound or extraordinary.

Today I don’t have a big insight or a polished reflection to share.

We often put pressure on ourselves to show up only when we feel inspired, clear, and ready.

But real consistency is usually much more ordinary.

It can look like staying connected.
Saying something simple.
Letting the day be imperfect.

So here is today’s reminder:
You are allowed to keep going without turning every day into a performance.

What is one thing you are choosing to do imperfectly today?

05/06/2026

I don’t talk about self-connection, self-kindness and listening to the body because I have fully mastered them.

I talk about them because I know what it is like to struggle with them.

Some days I still fall back into old patterns. I can be too hard on myself. I can overthink. I can ignore my body. I can resist the very things I know would support me.

And I’m learning that accepting those days, without turning them into another reason to criticise myself, is also part of the work.

Self-care is not only about becoming calmer, kinder, or more connected.

It is also learning not to accept yourself on the days when you are none of those things.

Which one is hardest for you on difficult days?

A. Resting without guilt
B. Speaking kindly to yourself
C. Asking for help
D. Stepping away from work
E. Accepting how you look or feel that day

Write the letter in the comments.

03/06/2026

One of the hardest things about transitions is that you don’t know exactly what’s ahead of you.

And for a nervous system that likes certainty, that can feel threatening.

This is why you need to support yourself while you’re living the transition.

A self-hug is one small way to do that.

The gentle pressure of a self-hug sends signals of safety to the brain, helping shift the nervous system out of stress mode and into a calmer, more regulated state.

And from that state you can take better action, think clearer and make more aligned decisions.

02/06/2026

3 reasons why life transitions make us so uncomfortable and anxious:
1. We want to move on from point A way too fast. First, acknowledge what was and grieve what you’ve left behind. Even if the transition is positive.
2. We don’t know where we are going exactly. And as human beings we are uncomfortable with uncertainty. But clarity doesn’t come from forcing, it comes from acceptance.
3. It’s uncomfortable being in between. We want to get out of here fast and so we make decisions that don’t reflect our real needs. Be with this discomfort. Talk to someone about it. Allow the process to unfold.

If you are going through a life transition and the above resonates, let’s talk. Book your session via link in bio.