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An apology is not .. “I’m sorry you feel
that way.”

An apology is some version of .. “I’m
sorry that what I did hurt you, and I will
be more mindful of this in the future” or "I’m sorry, and I really care about your feelings.”

The first apologies are expressed from
defensiveness.

They come from a resistance to feel
what giving a true apology can evoke in
us .. such as tears, shame, or sadness for
feeling how we may have
(unintentionally) hurt our loved one.

The second apologies (when genuinely
expressed) are shared from the heart.

We can all feel when we become
resistant in these moments.

We can choose to get curious as to
(why) we get defensive.

We can choose to take that powerful
first step .. and simply own it.

“Sh*t I feel defensive about this and I’m
not sure why.”

Perhaps there was a pattern of pride in
our family dynamic or in our culture
that gets in the way.

Perhaps our parents never apologized
to each other.

Perhaps our parents never apologized
(to us) when we were kids. This a big
one.

Perhaps we were shamed into
apologizing to grown ups and now
panic at the thought of revisiting that
dreadfully familiar experience.

Perhaps we simply just don’t know what
a healthy version looks like.

So maybe, we can start there:

“I want to apologize, but I realize I’m
struggling to. I’m so sorry about that.
I’m not sure what that’s about .. but I’m
gonna try to figure it out.”

That kind of genuine and and
uncomfortable vulnerability can
sometimes be as powerful as the
apology itself.
// Silvy Khoucasian

What comes up for you as you read
this?