06/13/2026
Even though they are both flowering plants, bleeding hearts have different requirements than poppies.
Even though you and that person you're comparing yourself to are both humans, you may have significantly different requirements for functioning well.
When plants are in the right soil, right type of light, right moisture levels, right temperature, right nutrients for their needs, they grow with ease. They flower and fruit and cycles through their designed patterns with gentleness and peace. There is no struggle.
Humans need the right environments to function as they are designed as well. Like seeds, children do not get to choose the environment they are planted into. Unlike seeds, as children grow and become more independent and realize there are different environments, they can choose to transplant themselves (sometimes on their own, often with support) into an environment that is better equipped for their survival and eventual thriving.
It simplifies down to two choices (that take far longer and far more steps than what is written here):
1. Stay where the continous harm occurs.
2. Transfer to a more beneficial zone.
Of course it can be challenging to make the shift and it may take time to recover, heal, and settle in to this new normal and trust the safety and security is real. But the potential beauty when you make it through can be worth the effort to get there.
Cher
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Cherylyn Tanner RN, Psychotherapist
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This post is for informational purposes only. Seek personal supports as needed.
