07/24/2025
Would it shock you...
If I told you that although I'm married...
I still want to attract people to me? đąđ¤Ş
The truth is - we all want to attract people for one reason or another.
It might be we're looking for a relationship...
Or we're looking for friends...
Or maybe clients or customers.
In my case...
I want to attract the right people who need my professional help...
But I also want to attract people looking for spiritual help...
And I always hope that when people have any interaction with me...
They leave feeling uplifted...happy...and with a sense that the day was better because they came across my path.
Conceited? No.
Purposeful. Yes!
There's an expression...
"Beauty (or attractiveness) is in the eye of the beholder."
Ever heard that?
You might have thought this expression is talking about physical looks, right?
But in fact, the expression refers to not just what makes someone physically attractive in another person's eyes...
But what is it about that person in all ways that makes them beautiful to someone else...
And that's what I'm talking about here.
Psychologically, there are certain keys on how to make ourselves more attractive to anyone.
Here are 5 top ones...
1) Respect and love yourself (but stay humble and polite).
Even if a person has trouble to respect and love themselves also, they will naturally be drawn to those who do. They will aspire to be like them.
True, birds of a feather, right? Those with low self-respect and self-love tend to hang around those who feel the same.
But that's only because the people they really admire and are attracted to - those with strong self-respect and self-love...
Well, they feel that those people wouldn't want much to do with them, so they lean toward those of the same. But that doesn't mean they aren't attracted to the opposite.
2) Don't be needy or clingy.
Needy and clingy people wear an "invisible sign" on their forehead that says,
"Careful I'm high maintenance."
In today's world that sucks a lot of our emotional energy just to get through each day, people aren't attracted to someone who's going to suck even more of their energy.
In fact, they may need someone who will boost them sometimes!
Have a strong sense of your value. If you don't, you'll end up trying to take it from others and will be needy and clingy.
3) Dress for success.
This one is big for me. My clients know it.
I tell my clients who work from home to never, ever work in their bathrobe or pajamas, even if they never see colleagues or clients on camera.
Even in a world with casual Fridays on the job, and Walmart pyjama shoppers...
People still turn for a second glance at someone who is well dressed. Why?
It speaks, "I value myself. I value who I am and my place in this world. I value my time and every moment I interact with this world each day."
That is very attractive - to people and to employers!
Clothes don't have to be expensive for us to be well dressed.
They just need to be tasteful and well-put together.
4) Don't always be available.
There's a reason why so-called important people in this world have assistants.
Sure they might be busy.
But there's a psychological shift in our brains that makes scarce things more attractive.
That's why you'll always see marketing ads that say things like "one day left to buy"...
Or "Limited time offer"...
Or "Closing soon!"
So if people message you...
Don't reply as if you were sitting on your phone like a desperate puppy dog on the steps..
Waiting for his master to get home.
Be a little scarce. It makes you appear that you have important things going on...
Things you're interested in and that you have a purpose.
Better yet - find interesting things to and find a purpose!
Then you won't have to pretend you're not so available. Make sense?
5) Be yourself.
There's a caveat to this one.
What I don't mean here is that if you seldom bathe, seldom get a haircut...
And you wear dirty or grungy clothes...
Or have habits that are repulsive...
Don't expect people to find you attractive just because you say, well,
"This is me. I'm being myself."
What "be yourself" means is don't change your core values to please others in hopes that they'll now find you more attractive.
As an example, a young Christian boy or girl might smoke or take drugs when offered because they think that doing this would make them more attractive to their peers.
Or a married man or woman might flirt at work because well, it's trendy to be open to new things.
If you have values, principles and morals that mean a lot to you - stick loyally to them!
That's what will make you more attractive.
Even if people don't agree with your stand on things...
Most people admire and find attractive someone who sticks up for what they believe in...
Not someone who compromises the first chance they get.
OK. So you got some work to do, yes?
Which of the 5 tips on how to attract people to you did you find most helpful?
Which one will you be working on more starting this weekend?
I'd love to hear from you - let me know if you like emails like this.
And have a great weekend!
Scott
https://scottprovencal.com