SoulEvolve - Shamanic Healing & Family Constellations Toronto

05/22/2026

The Arms of the Ancestors,
Francesca Mason Boring

When I facilitate family systems constellation, I often state that I offer full disclosure: I do not personally understand the ancestors as only allegory, archetype, or metaphor. For me, the ancestors are the people we come from, they support us, and their lives and resilience have an impact on us personally.

I appreciate allegory, archetype, and metaphor. As a writer, I would be nowhere without them.

I also know that there are impactful constellations that can be done that help us to understand how an archetypal influence may hinder or help our life's journey. But I encourage facilitators to enlist the expanse of the ancestors' arms when there are difficulties in life that seem insurmountable.

Whether we were nurtured or not, abandoned or not, adopted or not, we all have ancestors. This is a matter of biology. We do have generations of histories and victories that are written in our family field, our genetic codes, and perhaps our cellular memory.

We may be in the dark in terms of being able to conclusively diagram the mechanisms that make these transmissions of fates occur within family systems. But we have now a plethora of experiences worldwide that have shown us that transgenerational trauma may impact those who are currently trying to live their lives. We have seen that this modality has the capacity to bring into focus the particular dynamics that create systemic pressure and activate unconscious loyalties or contracts that limit life in various respects.

In family constellations, we occasionally replicate the communal healing that followed human beings through centuries of continuation of the species and specific families. People, sometimes strangers, coming together—each with their own ancestral field-activates a healing space that is not bordered or limited by time.

Our ancestors stand behind us with love, strength, experience, wisdom, and perhaps a smile.

Being aware of ancestral fields and bringing to our awareness how many people it took transmitting life generation after generation puts life in perspective. We are part of a continuum. We do not exist in isolation, and to believe that we do is an illusion.

Francesca Mason Boring, Love in Family Systems Constellation: An Invitation to Life, (2025) page 111-112.

04/10/2026

We can learn to dream again!

03/11/2026

"Uncovering the logic of one's own life story is perhaps the only way that we can give meaning to our existence."

~~Connie Palmen

03/04/2026

I’ve been reading several articles regarding the news of Deepak Chopra being on the Epstein files. I can feel the collective rage and grief. For many navigating these emotions and reflecting on their own spiritual journey, it’s the "loss of innocence" that is truly being mourned.

I believe this disillusionment is a necessary part of spiritual maturation.

In the beginning, like small children, we trust the messengers as we trust our parents. As we grow, we enter a "teenage" phase where we realize the flawed humanness in those we looked up to. This can be a profound shock. However, as we mature spiritually, we realize that messengers are just that—messengers. No matter how glamorous or enlightened they appear, they are human, just like you and me.

I’ll be honest—I’ve been there too. I used to have that deep longing to belong to an "elite" spiritual circle, imagining how much it would validate my progress. But once I was "in," the fantasy shattered. I found myself dealing with more ego, more politics, and more complicated social dynamics than I ever expected. People in those circles often have such high-functioning egos that genuine communication becomes a challenge.

We eventually realize that our inner power doesn’t come from the messenger. It comes from within, and from our own direct connection to the spiritual world.

When I stepped into teaching and facilitating, I went through my own loss of innocence. I witnessed firsthand how ego and politics play out within spiritual circles, even within methods I truly believed could change the world. Dealing with that grief was a lonely path, but walking it is exactly what allowed me to grow and mature.

I resonate deeply with this excerpt from Lissa Rankin’s recent article: Blowing The Whistle On Deepak Chopra, The Epstein Files, Cancel Culture, & Holding My Influencer Peers (& Myself) Accountable. Direct link in the comment section.

"I am heartbroken at times, yes. Disillusioned, certainly. I grieve the loss of innocence many of us carried into this field, the longing we had to believe that those standing on the stages embodied what they taught. But I am not without hope. Because what this moment reveals is not only corruption or hypocrisy; it reveals something far more human and far more redeemable—a profound collective hunger for truth, for integrity, for leaders who are willing to live their teachings not perfectly, but transparently. Not from pedestals, but from the messy, accountable reality of being fully human.

If anything, this reckoning feels like an invitation. An invitation for all of us—teachers, healers, writers, coaches, seekers—to step out from behind curated personas and into deeper congruence. It asks us to tell the truth even when it costs us something, to hold one another accountable without collapsing into dehumanization, and to repair when we inevitably cause harm. It calls us to refuse the seduction of proximity to power when that proximity requires us to betray our own values. We do not need perfect leaders; we need honest ones. We need communities that prize humility over grandiosity, accountability over image management, and service over fame.

Most of all, this moment asks us to remember that the real work was never about the gurus anyway. It has always been about awakening our own discernment, our own inner authority, our own capacity to sense what is clean and what is exploitative, what is loving and what is harmful—regardless of who is delivering the message from the stage. If this reckoning is painful, it is because something sacred is being protected. If anger is rising, it is because love and a desire for truth live underneath it. And if illusions are falling away, it does not signal the end of the wellness or spiritual movement, but rather the beginning of its maturation."

02/24/2026

02/21/2026

"You must have great merit,
Only then can you meet the person who wakes you up.
In fact, even if you meet the person who wakes you up, whether you want to wake up or not is also a question.
There are many people who find sleeping more comfortable. Some people don't seek teachers for the purpose of awakening; but to sleep more comfortably.
Even if you meet a teacher who has great enlightenment, It is also impossible for him to wave his magic wand and make you enlightened.
Therefore you need greater merit, Only then can you do what he says.
You'll need great merit, only then will you not run away when your ego is bruised."

~Khyentse Norbu

The translation of merit in Chinese is 福德。

02/06/2026

THE WELL

“Rilke writes: ‘Life stays pure, for no one masters it.”

I would apply that also to family constellations. It remains pure for as long as everyone knows that it can’t be mastered. It remains pure for as long as we know that we have to rely on something that is at work in the background. When a constellation was successful, it is always an experience of grace.

The helper is like a well, water flows from it incessantly. But the helper is not the water. It only flows through the helper.”

Bert Hellinger, Rising in Love 2008

02/05/2026

“Healing means freedom. The freedom of creating the life that you truly want based on your own terms, beliefs, and values. Not being afraid of pleasing everyone, of being rejected or abandoned because you think or feel differently. Healing is self-love. Healing is falling madly in love with yourself, secure with yourself, especially belonging in your soul.”

Marine Selennee, Connected Fates, Separate Destinies: Using Family Constellations Therapy to Recover from Inherited Stories and Trauma, (2022), 175