08/30/2026
Because a nervous system that’s been running on high alert for years doesn’t know how to just… sit. Stillness isn’t neutral for a dysregulated body — it can feel like danger. No task to perform, no fire to put out, so your mind starts manufacturing one. That’s not you being “bad at relaxing.” That’s biology.
Here’s the part nobody tells you: regulation is a skill, not a switch. You don’t flip it on. You practice it — one uncomfortable, fidgety, thought-spiraling minute at a time. The first time you sit still it might feel unbearable. The fiftieth time, it might feel like coming home.