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Adelynn Mae Sleep, Toronto, ON (2026)

11/11/2021

Resting is productive.

You have probably heard it before, sleep when the baby sleeps. I agree with this, however, I would say, sleep when the baby sleeps IF you need to. This morning was when I needed to “sleep when the baby sleeps.” Thankfully I was able to as my 3 year old daughter was at preschool.

My baby boy has been typically waking once or twice at night and going to sleep after a feed, so in the morning I have been feeling rested. (Please do not compare your baby to mine, if yours wakes more or less, that’s fine, all babies are different. I also know that sleep is not linear, so he may wake more in the coming months, and I am ready for whatever happens). This morning was different, my body just needed a bit more rest, so I listened to it. I didn’t make myself feel guilty for not doing the MANY other things I COULD be doing. My sleep needs come before the household duties.

We had a nice contact nap this morning. I rested and he snuggled on top of me. I could feel his breath rise and lower as he could with mine. I’m soaking in all these moments. ♥️♥️♥️

11/10/2021

I had planned to put my baby boy down for his nap, but he just wanted to be held, so I decided I’d do a baby wearing workout. My first one and I really liked it.

This is a perfect example of needing to flow with what your baby needs. Sometimes he will settle in his bassinet for naps and other times he only wants to be held.

Babyhood is so short - so I don’t mind adjusting my plans to ensure my boy’s needs are met. He got his needs met and so did I. I’d say that’s a !

Have you ever tried a baby wearing workout? Did you like it?

11/09/2021

On July 25 at 3:30am my son Yadel Razimor was born at home.

Having a home birth was such a different experience than birthing in a hospital (with my daughter). I prepared myself during my pregnancy for my home birth. I read books on hypnobirthing and practiced the breathing techniques daily. I listened to birth affirmations to ensure that my mind was ready for birth. Both of these practices I did not do with my daughter and when I birthed her in hospital with my midwife, I felt unprepared. I felt like I didn’t know how to breathe properly and I was allowing thoughts of “I can’t do this” enter into my mind. With birthing my son Yadel, I was completely in control of the entire experience. I listened to my body and did what it needed. I breathed my baby out on my own, without any coaching on how to push. This was much different than with my daughter.

My birth lasted 3 hours in total, as compared to my daughter which was 12 hours. I know that second time births are typically shorter in length, but I did not expect it to be this fast! I birthed my baby boy in water, with dim lights and relaxing music. The vibe was relaxing and I was comfortable being in my own home. I think this is why my birth was so quick. My body felt safe to birth at home.

Having birthed at home versus a hospital, I can say 💯 that I would birth at home again. I know that the majority of mamas who birthed at home after birthing in hospital would agree.

I felt more empowered and in control at home. I loved the fact that I stayed in the bath that I birthed my baby in for 1 hour after giving birth. I breastfed him in there, cuddled him and was completely in the moment, enjoying every second.

Mira from was my doula and I HIGHLY recommend her. Having a doula made a big difference in my birth experience. I did not have a doula with my first birth.

I have been soaking in all the newborn snuggles, which is why I have not been active much on my account.

I plan to share my postpartum experience and being a new mama to 2 in my next posts. Stay tuned!

What was your birth experience like? In hospital? At home? Please comment below and share with me. I’d love to know. 💞

04/02/2021

Our children can sense when we are fully immersed in their world or not. You cannot trick a child into thinking you are paying attention, when you are not. Trust me, I have tried with my own daughter and she calls me out every single time. ☺️ She will bluntly say to me: “Mommy not listening!” Or “Mommy put your phone away and look at me!” It’s in those moments that I realize I was distracted and my daughter calls me out on it - as she should.

You might think to yourself: “I’ve been with my child all day”, but have you been fully present without any distractions? I know this is hard as a parent when you feel like “I have a million things to do!” I get it. Honestly I do.

You need to remember that your child NEEDS you to be fully present with them, even if it is just for 15 min increments. They crave to CONNECT with you. It’s like air to them. When they are disconnected from you, they are disconnected from their safety and comfort which is extremely alarming for them.

The next time you find yourself feeling distracted with your child, take a step back and ask yourself: “Is what I am distracted doing instead of being fully present with my child important?” Perhaps it is and you need to set a boundary with your child that you need to finish something before you can be fully present with me. On the flip side perhaps it is not important, you don’t need to be scrolling through IG on your phone in that moment.

If you are having a hard time being present, it’s important to take a step back and ask yourself why. Do you need some time to yourself? Could you ask your partner or family to support? Perhaps you could try some meditation and deep breathing/stretching to get yourself in the right mindset in the morning. I find when I start my day this way, I can more easily be fully present.

What are some ways that help you to be fully present with your child without distractions?

03/25/2021

💫 Breastfeeding while Pregnant Journey Update 🤱 🤰

I have been very transparent with you all in my journey of breastfeeding while being pregnant. It’s been a while, so I want to share some updates on how this journey is going.

Breastfeeding has proved to be challenging while being pregnant. I have heightened sensitivity which causes me to feel irritable and then eventually, at times, resentful. I don’t like feeling this way. It isn’t each and every time I breastfeed my daughter, but it is often. I was starting to feel like breastfeeding my daughter to sleep was not working for us and so I decided to make some very gradual changes.

I began to add in some sleep associations that would help my daughter fall asleep without breastfeeding. I recalled a time that she recently fell asleep with my husband by him telling her “monster” stories (these were really cute and not scary ☺️). I decided I would come up with my own version and start telling it to my daughter as I breastfed her to sleep. Then eventually I explained to her that I was not going to breastfeed her to sleep, I was going to tell her stories as she snuggles with me. She reacted by crying at first, upset that she could not breastfeed. I assured her that she could put her hand in my shirt and touch my breast (as you can see in this photo). This gave her enough comfort to be able to fall asleep without breastfeeding, while I cuddled her and told her stories.

For the past week my daughter has been falling asleep at night without breastfeeding and I am amazed. She still asks for it each time and I explain to her that my milk is going away but that she can touch my breast and cuddle as I tell her stories. She will still get upset but is starting to understand more and more.

Nap times have been a bit different and I will write a separate post about that journey.

What advice can I give to a mother who is considering to wean? Take it slow, very slow. Be gentle on yourself and your child. Talk to your child. Empathize with them. Try your best to not get frustrated if it’s not working. It might be one step forward and two steps back.

Do you have any advice for mamas who are considering to gentle wean? 👇

03/05/2021

When did it start becoming acceptable to leave our vulnerable babies to cry themselves to sleep alone? 💔

Parents want to do what is best for their child, but in today’s Information Age it is really hard to know the “right thing” to do. We are bombarded with advice online from various “experts” who claim they know what is best for your child.

⚡️NEWS FLASH ⚡️Only you know what is best for your child. You have all the answers you are looking for.

If it doesn’t feel right to leave your child to cry themselves to sleep alone, then it probably isn’t. I always encourage mothers to tune into their instincts and do what FEELS right to them.

When parents share their sleep training experiences with me they mention how awful it was and how it felt wrong and cruel. However, they continued because some “expert” told them this is what is best for their child’s well-being. 🤔

I feel badly for vulnerable parents who are sucked into this idea that they need to teach their child to sleep and the only way is to leave them to cry themselves to sleep.

Here’s a crazy idea 💡- what about giving your vulnerable undeveloped child the contact and closeness that they crave? What about trusting that they will become independent sleepers when they are developmentally ready? Perhaps because there is no money to be made by telling parents their child is normal and doesn’t need to be “fixed”?

What do YOU think?

02/03/2021

How your child falls asleep with you, does not have to be the same way they fall asleep with someone else.

Yesterday I spoke with my dad about how I’m feeling about having baby #2 and what my plans are for preparing my daughter Adelynn for this big transition. His main concern was that I currently breastfeed Adelynn to sleep and therefore that would make it difficult for others to put her to sleep.

Here’s the thing. Other people can have different soothing techniques on how they put your child to sleep. For example, the other night my husband danced my daughter to sleep (literally dancing to music with her arms around him until she fell asleep), other times he has been able to rub her belly. I will say that I can’t be in the same room in order for this to happen, which is typical.

I reassured my Dad that my husband or whoever else was going to put Adelynn to sleep would find their own way and it would make no difference if I stopped breastfeeding my daughter to sleep.

A great example of this is daycare. Many parents are concerned about transitioning their child to daycare as currently they are breastfed to sleep for all naps. Miraculously families will report back to me that the daycare caregiver find their own way of soothing their child to sleep.

Do you have any experience with this? Do you put your child to sleep differently than your partner? Let me know below 👇, would love to know.

01/28/2021

Responding and supporting your child at night, is just as important as during the day.

You may have seen my stories the other day where I shared how a particular mommy Facebook group was reassuring parents that their child vomiting at night during sleep training was “normal”. This is ABSURD! Your child is vomiting as they are under EXTREME stress and it’s their bodies way of reacting and signalling to you that something is seriously wrong. It is shocking to me that parents are encouraged to be completely unresponsive to their child at night, or even to change the level of responsiveness they give during the day. Just because the clock strikes 7pm, does not mean that your child’s needs have changed.

Separation is the most wounding experience for a child and nighttime is the ultimate separation. A child’s emotions around bedtime need to be supported, no matter what time it is.

Imagine your husband decided he would not talk to you from 7pm until 7am, wouldn’t this be so difficult and confusing? Imagine how your baby feels when they are left to cry it out in a room all alone. It’s emotionally traumatizing for them.

We need to change the conversation around our children’s nighttime sleep and start to support parents into being just as responsive as they are during the day. I know it’s hard, I totally get it! My daughter will be 3 in April and she just started sleeping through the night at around 2.5 years old, which is when she was developmentally ready.

If you are looking for support with your nighttime parenting, please always feel comfortable to reach out. This is what I specialize in. I offer a free 15 min consultation where we can chat and see if working together would be a good fit. If you’re interested please reach out. 😊

01/22/2021

🤔 Seriously, what else do you expect?!

Teaching parents how to bed-share safely with their child should be part of the parent handbook. There is a big focus on how to prepare for birth and that to expect but there isn’t a lot of focus on what happens AFTER baby comes.

I know for myself, I felt unprepared for the number of times my daughter needed to breastfeed over 24 hours. I wasn’t aware that she would want to be held all the time, even at night. I wish that someone had told me that bed-sharing is NORMAL and how I could set up my space to do it safely.

I took it upon myself to do research on bed-sharing and I found the book Sweet Sleep by La Leche League which has become my go to bed-shearing resource. I am so thankful a mama told me about this book as it gave me the confidence and reassurance I was looking for - that bed-sharing is normal, it has many benefits and it is safe as long as you follow the guidelines.

Parents end to bed-sharing even when they don’t plan to. The sheer exhaustion of having to physically get out of bed and go tend to your child in another room will usually have you feeling desperate about wanting to get sleep - which usually involves you holding your child as you both sleep. I have heard of parents falling asleep while holding their child on a rocking chair - this is unsafe! I have also heard of parents falling asleep on the couch with their child - also unsafe! What if these parents had their bed set up safely, so if they felt they needed to bed-share, they could do it safely. This would eliminate a lot of the unsafe bed-sharing practices that occur and unfortunately cause some deaths in babies.

Do you think you would have benefited from someone telling you how to bed-share safely? Let me know. 👇

01/19/2021

The pressure on parents to have their child sleep through the night is UNREAL.

As a new parent, one of the first questions someone will ask you is if your child is sleeping through the night. This is LOT OF PRESSURE. Most likely your answer is no, or it might switch from yes to no, depending on the week (sleep is not linear).

My daughter will be 3 in April and she only just started sleeping through the night at 2.5 years old! Also, it wasn’t each and every night, some nights she would wake as she was unsettled and needed support going back to sleep. I hear parents with older children report the same thing, that some nights their children will crawl into bed with them or ask a parent to put them back to sleep. THIS IS NORMAL. Needing parental support throughout the night is NORMAL.

We have become so OBSESSED with independence that we have lost the idea that young children are developmentally wired to need their parents at night. This is NOT a problem. This is DEVELOPMENTALLY APPROPRIATE.

The sleep training culture wants you to believe that there is something wrong with your child if they are not sleeping through the night. NEWS FLASH: sleep trained babies still wake at night, they have just been trained to not signal to their parents, as they have learned that their cries will not give them the results they desire and need.

If your child is waking at night, CONGRATULATIONS!! You have a NORMAL child. If your child is naturally sleeping through the night, that’s also great. The important thing is to allow children to sleep the way that their bodies are developmentally ready for. Some children can naturally fall asleep easily and self settle at night but the majority are not like this and we need to STOP making these babies and their parents feel bad about it.

Let’s start NORMALIZING young children waking at night.

Adelynn Mae Sleep

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