08/24/2026
🌿 Not all time alone is loneliness. 🌿
I had a conversation with my mom recently about being alone, and it reminded me how differently our nervous systems can experience the exact same thing.
Some people find too much quiet uncomfortable. When everything becomes still, their thoughts get louder and they feel better with connection, conversation or activity around them.
I’m almost the opposite.
I genuinely enjoy being alone.
Quiet is restorative for me. It gives me space to think, create, process, listen to my body and simply return to myself.
And I think that distinction matters.
We sometimes talk about being alone as though it automatically means someone is lonely, isolated or disconnected. But being alone and feeling lonely aren’t the same experience.
For some of us, solitude is connection.
It’s where the nervous system settles because there are fewer demands to respond, interpret, anticipate or engage.
It’s where we can hear ourselves again.
I also recognize that this hasn’t always looked exactly the same for me. After more than 30 years of my own healing, I can sit in quiet without needing to fill the space with old stories or negativity.
That, too, is something I’ve learned to appreciate.
And this is part of what The Living Philosophy™ continues to teach me:
There isn’t one universally “right” way to regulate, heal, connect or care for ourselves.
The question is not:
“What should make me feel better?”
It’s:
“What actually happens inside me when I do this?”
Does solitude help me disappear from my life?
Or does it help me return to it more fully?
For me, I know the answer. đź’š
Sometimes solitude isn’t the absence of connection.
It’s where our connection with ourselves becomes strong enough to support every other relationship.
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