Survivor Inside

13/01/2024

Aaaand back to this account as life got tough 😅 We'll survive, but damn.

Intention to make this ig active again, focussing on personal growth instead of understanding other parties so much.

What do you think?

15/11/2022

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29/05/2022

The BIFF method by Bill Eddy is a great way to maintain in control of the situation when someone communicates with a lot of hostility or emotion usually in written form.

Messages like this are triggering and often cause an urge to respond defensive or counter with the emotions it causes for the receiver of this uncalled for intensity.
How ever this usually only adds fuel to the fire and it's a great quality to be able to difuse the situation by giving a clear but firm response and take the highway by maintaining a calm and friendly posture.

That is what the BIFF method provides, a framework to assess your response to hostility.

Is your response... BIFF?

Brief: Keep it short, typically a paragraph. This is even when the comment you’re responding to goes on for many paragraphs or pages. This leaves less for the other person to react to and is often sufficient to get your main point. A short reply that only addresses what needs adressing. No biting into everything opted.

Informative: Give some straight information, rather than emotions, opinions, defenses or arguments. You don’t need to defend yourself when another person is being hostile. It’s not about you. It’s about their inability to manage their emotions and responses. Just stay focused on providing relevant information.

- Friendly: Be graceful and still add the general courtesy to your communication that you would to anyone else. This may seem hard to do when you’re being attacked in writing or verbally. But it avoids feeding the hostilities and may even calm an upset person. Just a friendly greeting and closing; nothing too involved. This helps keep the hostilities from escalating. It also shows that you have good self-restraint. The next point makes sure you are not being walked over.

- Firm: This means that you end the conversation rather than feeding the hostilities. It doesn’t mean harsh. Just avoid anything that opens the door to more hostile comments back. Say something that calmly ends the conversation. Sometimes, you will need a response from the other person, so just ask a question seeking a Yes or No answer by such-and-such time and/or date.

21/04/2022

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03/04/2022

Type 'Yes' if you agree!

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20/12/2021

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19/08/2021

In our new paper, published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, we describe the distinct types – and what motivates them.

24/07/2021

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13/07/2021

Non-apologizers are maddening to be around, especially when they’re clearly in the wrong. Here’s what drives their unrepentant ways and what you can do, from psychologist Guy Winch.

20/06/2021

In a talk about understanding and practicing the art of healthy relationships, Katie Hood reveals the five signs you might be in an unhealthy relationship -- with a romantic partner, a friend, a family member -- and shares the things you can do every day to love with respect, kindness and joy. "Whil...

20/06/2021

Have you ever worked with a narcissistic person? Share your experiences and examples for others to learn from and be wary of below.

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