BodyMind Integrity

02/06/2026

Are you very flexible, but also prone to pain, tension, and hypersensitivity?

This bendy thumb is mobile beyond its normal range of motion due to a congenital weakness in the connective tissue. You may have heard of hypermobility - it’s much more common than, say, being left-handed.

Many hypermobile people experience:
✨ constant fatigue
✨ muscle tension and pain
✨ poor recovery
✨ a feeling that the body isn’t holding itself together
✨ anxiety, depression
✨ fear of movement

In this state, you don’t need stretching or pushing through the pain, but rather more mindful body awareness, coordination, and self-regulation.

One of the best solutions for hypermobile people is the Alexander Technique. It helps you learn to use your body with less effort and more support.

If this sounds like you, send a message with the keyword "FLEXIBLE." Let’s discuss whether my individual sessions could support you.

📍 In Pärnu and online

24/05/2026

Moment from the brilliant speech that led me to want to learn from a man who has such presence, and also words for it.

"Before we do something, we do nothing. We begin by Doing Nothing: we cultivate a Still Point from which all action proceeds. And while Doing Nothing, we become present."

Part 2 of 7Keynote by RF at the Alexander Technique Congress. Aug...

17/05/2026

has a long history of working with the Self, not only the instrument. The Alexander Technique has been a valuable part of the courses for over forty years. Many lives have been changed through it, and many discoveries made. There are countless beautiful accounts of people describing the ease, self-awareness, and sense of presence that Alexander teachers have so unexpectedly brought to their attention.

As an Alexander teacher, I would also like to represent those for whom gentle hands-on work and inner quiet may initially feel frightening rather than relieving.

Some Selves are more wounded than others. Personally, I almost never felt comfortable receiving Alexander work until several years after graduation, when something finally shifted. It simply took me longer, as I was working through emotional trauma.

On my first GC course this year, I felt deeply grateful for the trauma-informed training I received with Anthony Kingsley in London. In GC setting, I could fully experience the benefits of the work: resilience, self-connection, and the ability to regulate myself within an environment that previously would have felt highly intense, vulnerable, and emotionally overstimulating.

If there is even one person in the room carrying a trauma background similar to mine, it becomes important to approach the whole group with an awareness that fear reflexes may be more easily activated. Statistically speaking, there is almost always at least one such person present, and fear responses are often not difficult to notice.

From my experience, one simple way to increase safety is through clear communication. In Alexander settings, this might be as straightforward as briefly explaining that there will be gentle hands-on contact offered as a reminder or invitation toward awareness of the Self. The hands are not there to fix or correct, and there is no need for the student to physically respond.

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Photos: Frank Salama

16/04/2026

This is so good that I want it on my feed. Enjoy!

It's easy to understand how fear of failure can hamper a performance, but an unconscious fear of success can be just as destructive. Cellist Joanna Latała delves into what sport psychology already understands - and music still avoids

18/03/2026

One of the best pieces I've recently read on human relationships🙏

Why impact sharing requires differentiation Written by: Kirstin HeilderPublished: 17 March 20265min read In NVC spaces, impact sharing is often treated as inherently relational. But without differentiation, it can become a subtle form of emotional outsourcing that erodes the very intimacy it seeks t...

04/03/2026

If you can do splits (or could when you were young) without warming up, you can probably also sit in all sorts of weird positions, knees crossed, hips and ankles beyond their normal range of motion.. if you've been doing it for years and continue to do it for years because it FEELS good, then over time the ligaments around the joints will stretch out.

A body that already holds itself together poorly can start to ache from stretching out. The muscles compensate by overexerting themselves. Any excessive stretching affects the ligaments, not the muscles, and they can't be reversed.

It's entirely possible to live an active, mobile and athletic life in such a body. Such a body actually needs to move actively so that the connective tissue is "lubricated". But it's crucial to restore the regulation of the nervous system so that the body and mind can work together accurately and reliably in inner silence. This way, the pain signals can also be silenced.

Do you recognize yourself in this description? Surprisingly many of us are somewhere on this spectrum. Especially when your body is sending strange signals of discomfort, pain or restlessness.

The Alexander technique has restored balance for me and I can recommend it to you too✨️

03/03/2026

In February I was published in the international magazine of STAT, Society of Teachers of the Alexander Technique.

Fear of movement in the way I have experienced it is something so little talked about, hidden away in far away pain clinics. I think it's much more common and deserves lots more attention. To find a specialist who can support you overcome it is way too hard. I consider myself one of them now!

With this a difficult chapter seems to be completed for me - I still cannot handle much load but at least am excited instead of frightened about adding some.

Feel free to read more, the article is available on my website in bio✨️

02/03/2026

Not everyone gets tired just from sitting or standing. It's like your body is too loose to hold you together properly. But in a body like this, you bend super well. You were probably the best at limbo at parties when you were young, you're a talented dancer, or you're otherwise physically capable. 🤸‍♀️

Often, flexibility can be enjoyed as a physical ability when doing cool tricks or in the arts. It doesn't have to develop into a problem at all.

However, the trigger for problems can be some major trauma, overload, injury, or lack of mobility.

☝️The numbers of symptomatic hypermobility are higher today because awareness is higher, but also because young people are increasingly less mobile in a sedentary lifestyle. The body wants to move, and a body with weaker connective tissue especially wants to move so that the muscles can support a functionally active lifestyle.

If you suspect you have (life-interfering) hypermobility, the first step is to get yourself moving without pain. Healthy movement and exercise in such a body requires a fairly conscious approach. Keep an eye on this - I'm slowly starting to open the topic!

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21/02/2026

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10/12/2025

Something I wish to contribute to wellness community is awareness of and curiosity /empathy towards what we cannot see (and thus sometimes find difficult to recognize or understand). Hypermobility is just one example of many variations in people’s experience, and some of you may relate to it in different ways.

I enjoyed making my own symptoms visible in this drawing, as there's been so many times I was complimented for "going up well" in my embodiment training or "looking healthy and athletic" when inside I was really struggling.

Hypermobility research as been my biggest passion for a few years now. I finally got round to formulate my own introduction to the topic. Read my latest blog post - link in bio✨️🧚‍♀️

🫴This could be of interest for the bendy people who haven't made a connection between their loose bodies and ADHD or anxiety. Or even more commonly - many who are taking care of their ADHD or anxiety symptoms have never looked into the particularities of their flexible bodies. Let's put the picture together! 

Read more: link in bio✨️

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