11/10/2026
💚 **WHY ARE WE FRIGHTENED TO BE HONEST WITH OUR OWN DOCTORS?** 🤔
This is something I've noticed coming up time and time again in our group, and I think it's about time we talked about it!
People saying they're frightened to tell their doctor they've stopped taking a medication.
Others worrying about admitting they've reduced an inhaler, tried something different or decided against a recommended treatment.
Some are even anxious about asking questions because they don't want to be made to feel difficult, irresponsible or foolish.
**Hang on a minute! Since when did having a say in our own health become something to be frightened of?**
We're talking about OUR bodies, OUR health and OUR lives!
Now, before anyone misunderstands me, I've never told anyone to stop taking their medications or inhalers, and I have never told anyone to continue taking them either.
Those are personal decisions, and I believe everyone deserves to understand the potential benefits, risks and alternatives, including the possible consequences of continuing a treatment that doesn't seem to be helping.
**What I encourage is asking questions, educating ourselves and being actively involved in decisions about our own health.** 💚
💚 **LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT MY OWN EXPERIENCE.**
For eight years, I followed my doctors' instructions.
I took the medications and inhalers I was prescribed, trusted what I was being told and carried on.
But instead of getting healthier, my health continued to decline.
And it wasn't just my emphysema!
During those eight years, I developed a whole collection of health problems:
- Sciatica
- High blood pressure
- Sleep apnoea
- Diabetes
- Piles (haemorrhoids)
- A constantly blocked right nostril
- Depression
- Severe stomach cramps, diarrhoea, nausea and fainting
- Cervicalgia (neck pain)
- Arthritis
And all of this alongside my emphysema!
Every time I went back to the doctor, it seemed to be another prescription or another inhaler to try.
At one point, I was taking **eight medications and three inhalers**.
Eventually, I thought, enough is enough!
I started educating myself, looking at everything I was doing in my everyday life and questioning what wasn't working for me.
And believe me, it was practically EVERYTHING! 😂
My eating habits were terrible, I was barely moving because even the slightest activity left me out of breath, I wasn't sleeping properly because of sleep apnoea, I was constantly stressed and, on top of everything else, I was depressed.
I felt like a walking zombie from all the medications I was taking!
I was exhausted, miserable and struggling just to get through everyday life. The less I moved, the less I was capable of doing. It was a vicious circle!
Something had to change, and I realised that if I wanted my life back, I needed to start looking at the WHOLE picture, not just my lungs.
So, I changed what I ate, how I breathed, how I moved, how I managed stress, how I rested and, most importantly, my mindset and awareness of what I was doing to my body.
I didn't just make a few little changes. I completely turned my life around! 💚
My nutrition, breathing habits, movement, mindset, meditation, rest and the way I managed stress. Everything!
I also made my own decision to stop taking all eight medications and three inhalers.
And today?
**ZERO of those additional health problems!**
No sciatica, no high blood pressure, no sleep apnoea, no diabetes, no piles, no constantly blocked nostril, no depression, no severe digestive problems, no cervicalgia and no arthritis symptoms.
I still have emphysema, of course. I'm not claiming that my damaged lung tissue has magically regenerated. But I did improve my lung capacity, and now I'm living a full, active life and feeling better than I did for years.
I changed so many things together that I can't tell you which individual change was responsible for each improvement. Nor can I say that the medications caused all those health problems simply because they developed while I was taking them.
But I CAN tell you what my life was like before, what I changed and how I feel today.
And I have absolutely no regrets about taking a more active role in my own health. 💚
💚 **AND WHAT ABOUT MEDICATION INTOLERANCES AND SIDE EFFECTS?**
Here's something else I've questioned for years.
We get prescribed medication after medication, but how much do we really know about how OUR individual bodies are going to react?
I was once prescribed a medication that caused such a severe reaction, I genuinely thought it was going to kill me.
And when I told my doctor?
"Well, we'll change it for another one."
Seriously?! 😳
Why was I prescribed this medication without being warned about its potentially serious side effects in the first place?
Surely I had a right to know what I was putting into my body and what could potentially happen?
And after experiencing such a frightening reaction, why wasn't there more interest in investigating what had actually happened?
Was it an allergy? An intolerance? An interaction with another drug I was taking? Or a serious side effect?
Shouldn't patients be properly informed about the risks BEFORE taking a medication, rather than discovering them the hard way?
Surely those questions deserve answers!
I know there isn't currently a test that can predict every reaction to every medication. **But shouldn't there be more individual testing before we start introducing pharmaceutical substances into our bodies?**
We're all different! What one person tolerates perfectly well might cause a serious reaction in someone else.
Surely identifying possible allergies, intolerances and interactions BEFORE prescribing medication should be a priority wherever testing is possible?
And when someone has already experienced a serious reaction, shouldn't that be properly investigated, documented and taken into account before prescribing something else?
**Why should we simply accept trial and error when someone's health is at stake?**
💚 **AND WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE TAKING 10, 15 OR EVEN 20 PILLS A DAY?**
This is something else that really concerns me.
Some people are taking a whole cocktail of medications every single day, sometimes prescribed by different specialists for different conditions.
But who's looking at the WHOLE picture?
What happens when all those medications are taken together? How do they interact? What effects might they be having on the liver, kidneys, digestive system, sleep, energy levels and general well-being?
And here's another question.
**Could some of the health problems we're experiencing actually be side effects of medications we're already taking? And are we then being prescribed even MORE medication to treat those side effects?**
Because that can happen!
One medication causes a problem, another is prescribed to manage it, and before you know it, someone has a cupboard full of pills!
I'm not saying everyone taking multiple medications is being harmed by them. But surely every medication should have a clear purpose, and the whole combination should be regularly reviewed?
**Not just whether each individual medication is doing its job, but what the entire cocktail might be doing to the person taking it!**
And while we're reviewing all those prescriptions, shouldn't we also be asking what changes people could make in their everyday lives to support their health **and potentially reduce their need for some of those medications?**
Surely that's worth exploring too, with appropriate monitoring, rather than simply continuing to add more prescriptions?
**Are we treating the whole person, or simply adding another prescription every time a new symptom appears?** 💚
And here's another thing.
**WHY AREN'T WE TALKING MORE ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE CAN DO FOR THEMSELVES?**
What about nutrition? Movement? Breathing? Meditation? Rest? Mindset and Self-Awareness?
My six elements didn't come out of thin air! 😂💚
They came from years of learning, changing my habits and experiencing the difference that looking after my WHOLE body made to my life.
I'm not saying the six elements will replace every medical treatment for every person.
But surely, they deserve to be part of the conversation with the doctor from the beginning, rather than something people have to discover for themselves after years of struggling?
**I wanted someone to look at ME as a whole person, not simply reach for another prescription.**
And I know I'm not the only one who has felt that way. 💚
💚 **NOW HERE'S THE PART THAT REALLY GOT ME!** 😂
These days, I only visit my doctor once a year for my routine blood tests.
And when she saw how well I looked and how much my health had improved, she was genuinely surprised!
But she was NOT happy about my decision to stop taking the medications.
In fact, she wrote in my medical records that if anything happened to me, it wasn't her responsibility!
Seriously? 😳
**And here's something else I've often wondered.**
Did she also document the time I had such a severe reaction to a prescribed medication that I genuinely thought I was going to die?
Or was it only MY decision to stop medication that deserved putting on record?
Because if we're going to document the risks of NOT taking medication, surely, we should be equally thorough about documenting the harm someone may have experienced WHILE taking it?
**Shouldn't both sides of the story matter?** 💚
I understand that doctors may want to document the advice they've given and the decisions their patients make.
But here's what bothered me.
**What about documenting the POSITIVE changes?**
What about the fact that I'd completely transformed my lifestyle?
That I looked and felt healthier?
That I hadn't needed to visit her for such a long time?
That I was active, enjoying life and feeling better than I had in years?
And despite all that, she was still trying to convince me to take medication!
Why did my decision to stop medication seem to deserve more attention than everything I'd done to improve my health?
Surely ALL of that information is relevant?
💚 **A DOCTOR-PATIENT RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE A CONVERSATION, NOT A DICTATORSHIP!**
Let me make something very clear. **I have enormous respect for the medical profession, and I have very good reasons for that!**
My son was born with a serious heart condition. It was literally a matter of life and death.
He underwent two major heart operations, one when he was just five years old and another when he was nine.
**The medical profession saved my son's life. Not once, but TWICE!** 💚
He's now 31 years old, and I will always be grateful to the surgeons and medical teams who gave him the chance to grow up and live his life.
So please don't mistake my questioning of medications and certain medical practices for a lack of respect for doctors.
I know firsthand what extraordinary things medical interventions can achieve!”
But that doesn't mean I should stop asking questions, or that we should accept every prescription without understanding why we're taking it, what the risks are and whether there are alternatives.
**Respect works both ways.** And I believe patients deserve to be listened to just as much as doctors deserve to be respected. But I also know from experience that not every consultation feels like that.
Some people leave feeling dismissed, embarrassed or too frightened to speak up. And that concerns me because when people are frightened to be honest, what happens?
They may stop mentioning side effects.
They may avoid saying they've changed their treatment.
They may keep quiet about something they've tried.
Or they may stop asking questions altogether.
**And how is THAT helping anyone?**
My doctor doesn't live in my body. She doesn't experience my breathing, my symptoms, my energy levels or how I feel from one day to the next.
She has her medical knowledge, and I have my lived experience. Surely both deserve to be heard?
A doctor can explain what they believe the risks are, but those risks aren't necessarily identical for every individual, and a medical assessment may not capture everything about someone's personal circumstances.
I want to understand the potential risks, benefits and alternatives, but I also want my experiences and concerns taken seriously.
**That's what an informed decision should be about. A proper two-way conversation, not simply being told what to do.**
💚 **WE HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES TOO!**
Being involved in our own healthcare doesn't mean we have to agree with every recommendation.
It means educating ourselves.
Understanding what a treatment is intended to do, what benefits we might expect, what side effects are possible, and what other options exist beyond medication.
What about nutrition, breathing techniques, movement, meditation, rest, stress management and making changes to our everyday habits?
Surely these things deserve to be discussed too, rather than automatically reaching for another prescription?
And if there are different approaches available, shouldn't we be given the information to make an informed choice? 💚
It means asking for explanations when something doesn't make sense.
It means being honest about what we're taking, what we're not taking and how we're actually feeling.
And it means recognising that different people may make different decisions.
**We don't all have to agree, but we should all be treated with respect.**
💚 **AND PLEASE, LET'S NOT FORGET THE BIGGER PICTURE!**
**Our health isn't just about what medication we take. It's about how we live, what we eat, how we breathe, how we move, how we sleep, how we manage stress and how we look after ourselves every single day!**
And yet, how often are we actually asked about these things during a doctor's appointment?.
And here's something else I feel strongly about.
**How much of today's ill health is connected to the way we're living?**
Look at our modern lifestyles. The amount of ultra-processed food people eat, the sugar, the lack of movement, the constant stress, poor sleep and everyday habits we've come to accept as normal.
Surely we need to be asking how much all of this is contributing to the health problems we're seeing today?
We know that diet, inactivity, stress and poor sleep can contribute to many chronic health conditions. Not every illness is caused by lifestyle, of course, but these factors deserve far more attention than they often receive.
**And instead of only asking what medication can manage a symptom, shouldn't we also be asking WHY that symptom is happening in the first place?**
What can we change in our everyday lives to give our bodies a better chance of functioning well?
That's exactly why I believe so strongly in my six elements. 💚
My six elements are:
**Mindset & Self-Awareness. Meditation. Breathing. Nutrition. Movement. Rest.**
They are all connected, and they're the foundation of the lifestyle I practise every day.
I would love to see more conversations where lifestyle changes and the efforts people make to support their own health are genuinely recognised.
Not instead of appropriate medical care, but as an important part of the whole picture.
Because surely the aim is to help people live as well as possible, not simply to check whether they're following instructions?
💚 **SO I'M CURIOUS...**
**Have you ever felt frightened, uncomfortable or judged when discussing your treatment choices with your doctor?**
Have you ever kept something to yourself because you were worried about their reaction?
Or perhaps you've had the opposite experience, with a wonderful doctor who listens and genuinely involves you in decisions?
I'd love to hear both sides.
Let's have an open, respectful conversation about this, because nobody should feel frightened to speak honestly about their own health. 💚