24/08/2026
There are some things in life that change the way you see the world forever.
Today, I attended the funeral of a dear friend, and it has had me reflecting on my own relationship with death, loss and grief.
I haven’t always felt the way I do now.
I experienced the sudden and unexpected loss of my uncle and my mum in my early and mid teens, and then my dad in my mid twenties. Losing people so young and so unexpectedly left a deep imprint on me. Death and bereavement became a big part of my life very early on, and for a long time I carried that weight with me.
Over the years, through Reiki, personal development and my own spiritual journey, my relationship with death has changed. I no longer carry the same fear around it.
I have come to see death as a transition rather than an ending.
Energy transforms. It changes form, but it doesn’t simply disappear.
Through my own experiences, and sometimes during Reiki sessions with clients, I have sensed or felt the presence of loved ones who have passed. I never try to force this, but when these experiences happen, they have often felt deeply loving and supportive.
Sometimes relationships weren't perfect. There may have been hurt, difficult memories or things left unsaid. Yet what I have experienced is often a sense of love beyond all of that.
Losing people so unexpectedly has also taught me how I want to live my own life.
To appreciate today.
To say the things that matter.
To make memories.
To stop putting off the things that make my heart feel alive.
And, most importantly, not to spend my precious life with people, places or situations that no longer feel right for me.
None of us truly know what tomorrow holds. For me, that isn't about living in fear. It is about being present and making the most of the life I have today.
And grief isn't only something we experience when someone dies. We can grieve relationships, jobs, homes, versions of ourselves and chapters of our lives that have come to an end.
Sometimes we carry that grief in our body and energy for years without realising how much weight we are holding.
I know this because I was one of those people.
Reiki and my own healing journey helped me gently put some of that weight down. Not to forget the people I've lost, but to carry their memory in a softer way.
A way that allows love to remain, even when someone is no longer physically here. 🤍
This is a huge part of why I do the work I do. If you are carrying grief, loss, change or a transition in your own life, Reiki may be something that supports you too.
If this resonates, my door is always open.
🤍
Nicola 🙏💛