12/08/2026
💛 A little honest reflection from group last night...
It really got me thinking.
Did I actually weigh and measure everything that needed weighing and measuring this week?
Or was I busy and just dashed that milk into my coffee because, well... it was only a dash? 🙈
I have three coffees a day. Two different kinds of milk. A dash in each.
Surely that's alright?
I use yoghurt on my cereal. I reach for Free Foods. I cook from scratch. I've been writing everything down.
I was ON IT.
Or so I thought.
And then I started thinking...
Did I write everything down?
Did some things just slip through because they were only a little bit?
Did I write it down but not actually put the value of that little slip there because it was only a small packet of Twiglets?
Because that wouldn't harm it... would it?
And this is where I've been really proud of myself this week.
Not because I've got it all right.
But because I've been able to sit with myself and actually look at it.
Not in a telling-off, judgemental way.
Not with shame.
But gently.
Kindly.
The way we would sit with a child when we know they've done something they shouldn't have done.
We don't scold them.
We don't make them feel rubbish about themselves.
We sit with them.
We help them understand what happened.
We help them see what they could do differently next time.
And then we let them know...
It's okay.
You know now.
Let's go again. ❤️
I've realised I've not really done this before.
I'm very good at cheering myself on at the end of the day because I've eaten my meals on plan, cooked from scratch, scanned something to check the SWIPS, made good choices...
But what about the little things?
The things that happen when life is busy.
And my life is VERY busy.
I'm so busy making sure everybody else's boxes are checked that I very rarely stop and check my own.
So I did.
And I found something.
I have two different milks that I use.
I will use ½ of each portion allowance .
For my morning Re:form Mocha, which is 4½ SWIPS, I prefer coconut milk. The one I use is within my Healthy Extra calcium allowance.
So this morning, I measured it.
I'm allowed 400ml, so I measured out 200ml.
Then there's my fresh-ground coffee, where I prefer green milk.
I'm allowed 250ml... and I've measured out 125ml to use.
And actually, when I looked at my usual “dash”, I realised something.
On the days when I've had more coffees, my allowance wouldn't have been enough.
That extra milk would have become extra SWIPS.
And I hadn't been counting it.
Now, going over very slightly on one or two days isn't the end of the world.
But doing it every day?
That could make a difference.
And I think that's what happened this week.
My SWIPS haven't been as accurately counted as I thought they were, and I think that may well have contributed to my very small gain.
Half a pound.
And if I'm completely honest, I wasn't okay with that when I stepped on the scales.
I thought I'd done everything right.
I'd been writing it down. I'd been making good choices. I'd been on plan.
So seeing that half-pound gain was disappointing.
But I'm okay with it now.
Because now I can see it.
I can see where I thought I was doing everything right, but actually there were little things slipping through.
And that's a very different feeling.
I'm not okay with gaining weight when my goal is to lose it.
But I am okay with looking at it honestly, without beating myself up, understanding what happened, and knowing what I can do differently next week.
And actually, I'm really proud of myself for that.
Because sometimes it's not the BIG things that make the difference.
Sometimes it's the little things we don't think count.
The dash.
The taste.
The “it's only a little bit”.
And this isn't about becoming obsessed with every tiny thing we put into our mouths.
It's about being honest with ourselves.
Kindly.
Gently.
Without judgement.
Because if we keep doing the same things but expect a different result, perhaps it's time to pause, get curious and try something differently.
And that's exactly what I'm doing.
No shame.
No judgement.
Just awareness.
Learn.
Grow.
And go again. 💛
