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Gems Guiding Light Holistic Grief Coach What is grief? Many of us have experienced loss in our lives, grief is the natural emotional response from a significant loss. Gem x

While we all will experience it at some point in our lives, everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong way. Whether we want it to or not grief has a huge impact on our lives, especially our nervous system. It affects us individually as a person, it impacts our lives and relationships, and it can cause a knock-on effect on our health including problems like depression, anxiety and ill

nesses, if we don’t take care of ourselves. Our process to adapt to a significant loss can vary from one of us to another, the same as what comes up for us along the way is different. Many different factors in our lives can affect our journey with grief, like our beliefs and values or how we were raised. Grief doesn’t have a time line, time doesn’t know how to heal, it doesn’t make our grief any easier or help us to cope any differently. We are not just limited to feeling sad, we can feel many different emotions all at once. It’s important to know that they are not bad emotions, they are trying to speak to us just like our body does through our nervous system. Grief is like the ocean waves, emotions come in waves. They are unstoppable, but we can learn to ride them along the way. What is a holistic grief coach? I am a fellow griever and a holistic grief coach in training. As a holistic grief coach, I support you so you feel seen and heard, we develop self-regulation skills, reconnecting with your values, goals and life purpose and help you to reclaim your life. You may have tried other traditional therapies which haven’t worked for you or maybe you haven’t tried any. Sometimes for some of us who have used traditional therapies like counselling there may not be safety or a supported outcome as you talk about your grief and are triggered or re-traumatised. However, in holistic grief coaching we will acknowledge the grief together with resource which will allow your mind, body, spirit and nervous system, safety and compassion. We don’t fix our grief; we acknowledge it and bring awareness and insight to it. Accepting our journey where it is at.

02/09/2026

You are seen and heard. Grief isn’t about fixing or stopping our loss. It doesn’t have to be fighting and avoiding our feelings. It can be feeling safe and supported enough to let our grief be, make space around it and grow with our loss. Right beside it.

One of the ways our body and brain react to grief is that we don’t just physically experience pain, the emotional pain w...
31/08/2026

One of the ways our body and brain react to grief is that we don’t just physically experience pain, the emotional pain we feel when we are separated from our loved through death acts as an alarm system. The anterior cingulate cortex lights up in the same way when we experience a physical pain. Emotional pain isn’t just a thought or a feeling we pass through, but it is a real reaction to grief that is felt physically by this part of the brain and in turn in our body.

So, if you’ve been told its just in your head, or you feel like your heart is actually breaking in 2 after the loss. It isn’t just an explanation; a metaphor or just something you say. Your brain sees & feels this pain as real.

This year we have had so many huge public losses that have had an impact on grief. Whether that be mourning for our idol...
30/08/2026

This year we have had so many huge public losses that have had an impact on grief. Whether that be mourning for our idols or role models or reminding us of losses that are closer to home and are personal.

One thing that comes to my mind today is that grief is experienced by so many of us and we have had so much more discussion and awareness about grief now more than ever. Which is another reason why today matters, as today is National Grief Awareness Day 2026.

As we mourn the loss of Dolly Parton and many many others today, one thing is for sure. We are not alone when it comes to grief. Let’s keep talking about them.

As Dolly Parton said, ‘you never do replace people that you’ve lost, but you learn to live with that loss’. That is the best that we can do.

With love ❤️

There’s many things this little girl didn’t know, a lot of loss and pain. And amongst all of it, she found love and purp...
21/08/2026

There’s many things this little girl didn’t know, a lot of loss and pain. And amongst all of it, she found love and purpose ❤️

19/08/2026

It isn’t easy and we wouldn’t pick this path- but you and I are living proof that we have to carry on after unimaginable loss, with grief so heavy. It’s not because we want too, but it’s the price we pay for love ❤️

Not going to lie, feeling a bit emotional today! What a journey the last few years have been. And more importantly how h...
18/08/2026

Not going to lie, feeling a bit emotional today! What a journey the last few years have been. And more importantly how has it been a year already (to the day!) since I qualified as a Holistic Grief Coach.

I have some exciting hopes ideas and aspirations coming in the future. But for now I just wanted to say thank you so much to my supporters, followers and my amazing clients so far. Your support and business over the last year has been amazing and I look forward to growing as a Holistic Grief Coach.

With love
Gem x

Let’s look at the neuroscience behind grief. The outermost layer of the human brain is our primary control centre, known...
17/08/2026

Let’s look at the neuroscience behind grief. The outermost layer of the human brain is our primary control centre, known as our Neocortex. We are not diving into this too heavily, but here is how we can start to understand how deeply grief affects our mind, body & spirit.

The Neocortex defines our human experience as it is the larger & more dominant part of our brain; it is our primary centre & it is literally the ‘thinking’ part of our brain. It is the centre for complex, higher cognitive functions, where we have our deeper conscious thoughts. Our neocortex is where we make decisions, it’s our thought / thinking part of our brain as well as where we find our responses, and progress our conversations. It is the area of our perception & reasoning. Our neocortex switches off & goes offline when it is activated from trauma, loss & survival. This is why it affects our thoughts, choices, responses & conversations after loss.

When we support grief somatically, we bring in regulation & integration, so that our nervous system helps to bring back the neocortex online. We activate this part of our brain. So that we are able to move forwards after loss, so we can think again, make decisions, solve problems & integrate with daily life in a world that looks completely different. Our control centre, the neocortex starts to come back.

Remembering the best Mum, Nana, and Friend we could have asked for, a little more right now as we are coming up to your ...
14/08/2026

Remembering the best Mum, Nana, and Friend we could have asked for, a little more right now as we are coming up to your 3rd Angelversary on Sunday.

Feeling like yesterday but also many lifetimes away, so much has happened and changed in that time. But blessed and humble to have had you in our lives and surrounded in the love and legacy you leave behind.

As always, in such awe of you.

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12/08/2026

Grief brings about many changes, some changes we expect and some are really unexpected. We know we don’t have our person any more, but we don’t expect and understand to loose ourselves along the way.

Our story changes & our lives are interrupted. Our direction in life changes course, as we learn to navigate without our loved one, but also reconnect and understand who and how we have changed as a person. As different things take importance to us, things that didn’t bother us before do now. Our whole identity changes, it seems lost for a little while. Our plans and future without them looks different.

Our goals and dreams for the future change. As we sit with it and make space for it we reconnect to safety and growth in ourselves. It doesn’t have to be scary or lonely. Sometimes we just need someone to sit beside us

10/08/2026

EFT (emotional freedom technique is a somatic tool that helps to regulate the nervous system by tapping gently on acupressure points. It can help reduce cortisol and activate our parasympathetic nervous system.

Disclaimer: I am a holistic grief coach and not a licensed psychotherapist, doctor, or certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) professional.

The tapping script provided here is for informational, educational, and self-care purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any psychological or medical condition, nor does it replace professional mental health therapy.

Grief can bring up intense emotions. Please use this script at your own risk and pace. Adapt/change the words as appropriate to you.

If you feel overwhelmed, dizzy, or distressed at any time, stop tapping immediately. If you need professional support, please reach out to a licensed counselor or healthcare provider.

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