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Gems Guiding Light Holistic Grief Coach What is grief? Many of us have experienced loss in our lives, grief is the natural emotional response from a significant loss. Gem x

While we all will experience it at some point in our lives, everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong way. Whether we want it to or not grief has a huge impact on our lives, especially our nervous system. It affects us individually as a person, it impacts our lives and relationships, and it can cause a knock-on effect on our health including problems like depression, anxiety and ill

nesses, if we don’t take care of ourselves. Our process to adapt to a significant loss can vary from one of us to another, the same as what comes up for us along the way is different. Many different factors in our lives can affect our journey with grief, like our beliefs and values or how we were raised. Grief doesn’t have a time line, time doesn’t know how to heal, it doesn’t make our grief any easier or help us to cope any differently. We are not just limited to feeling sad, we can feel many different emotions all at once. It’s important to know that they are not bad emotions, they are trying to speak to us just like our body does through our nervous system. Grief is like the ocean waves, emotions come in waves. They are unstoppable, but we can learn to ride them along the way. What is a holistic grief coach? I am a fellow griever and a holistic grief coach in training. As a holistic grief coach, I support you so you feel seen and heard, we develop self-regulation skills, reconnecting with your values, goals and life purpose and help you to reclaim your life. You may have tried other traditional therapies which haven’t worked for you or maybe you haven’t tried any. Sometimes for some of us who have used traditional therapies like counselling there may not be safety or a supported outcome as you talk about your grief and are triggered or re-traumatised. However, in holistic grief coaching we will acknowledge the grief together with resource which will allow your mind, body, spirit and nervous system, safety and compassion. We don’t fix our grief; we acknowledge it and bring awareness and insight to it. Accepting our journey where it is at.

03/06/2026

Grief is like a river, a river we must cross even if we don’t want to. While it can feel big, cold, lonely and overwhelming we are not alone.

Currents pull us back, pull us towards what we have lost. But every movement forward is a testament to love that remains.

Life hits harder these days, it’s difficult and challenging. As we go into the next month with sunny days & summer spiri...
01/06/2026

Life hits harder these days, it’s difficult and challenging. As we go into the next month with sunny days & summer spirit, I hope you can find space & comfort to breathe if life doesn’t feel that way right now. As we face difficult challenging times in our daily life, added by the emotional pain and turmoil of loss & grief, days feel heavier & harder to accomplish.

My hope to you is that you find enough love and courage to be kind to yourself. Its ok if life slows down when you think it should be speeding up, or if you need a moment to gather yourself, if you feel like its all too much. You are never alone and there is always someone somewhere who will sit with you or get it.

I am available if you want or need to reach out. I get it.

Much love
Gem
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Grief isn’t just about coming to terms with the absence of our person, situation or place we lost, but its about interna...
29/05/2026

Grief isn’t just about coming to terms with the absence of our person, situation or place we lost, but its about internalising and adapting to the changes it brings and moving forward with support and purpose.
But in our grief, our loss brings about feelings we might not expect like anger, guilt, sadness or resentment. These feelings and emotions may in time impact our relationships.
So many of us feel lonely and isolated in grief and relationships can add too it. We can feel alone in a room full of people, even when we are not alone physically, we can feel like we are.

Situations, circumstances, beliefs and values may shift the dynamics of our relationships. As these come to the forefront while navigating this new circumstance.

We all handle grief differently, creating division. Some times many of us become avoidant, withdrawing from society leading to misunderstanding. Our coping mechanisms are so individual and unique but can also bring us together when we look for it. Though these very same coping mechanisms might be the buffer between our relationships, pushing the boundaries and separating entirely.
Our emotional pain is a heavy weight to carry. Sometimes we bottle up our emotions, and avoid conversations which lead to resentment and distance. Or we find the courage to speak up and it doesn’t go how we had hoped or expected leaving us feeling misunderstood or unsupported.

We navigate new situations like the funeral, probate and take on all the admin tasks after the loss of our loved one which means that new roles and responsibilities arise and not always equally or how we expect. We can be left feeling unsupported, especially as the adult child who has had to take on everything alone.

Grief unearths unresolved issues or exposes them with our loved ones and family.

When we lean into grief to witness, explore and support ourselves and others, it can help to lay the groundwork for our relationships and moving forward. In any direction that you choose to take.

27/05/2026

Don’t be afraid to reach out if you are grieving. We are in this together ❤️

Grief has a huge impact on our personal identity as we try to navigate life after the trauma of losing our loved ones. W...
25/05/2026

Grief has a huge impact on our personal identity as we try to navigate life after the trauma of losing our loved ones. We are not simply affected by the loss itself, but by all the other losses and disruptions it leads too.

Our roles that are tied to the person we lost change or disappear and this also has an impact on the relationships we have with others, as we adjust to life. We can feel isolated as our social identity becomes unfamiliar and we adjust into new roles and connections, sometimes leaving behind connections that don’t survive with other family members and friends.

Our values and priorities lead to a re-evaluation of what’s important, as we come to terms with loss, we realise we no longer tolerate the things we once might have.

We lose sight of who we are, as the trauma triggers an intense period of self-reflection and we are forced to confront our fears and vulnerabilities. Any feelings of grief and isolation are amplified as the one who we need to get us through the loss is the one person who isn’t here.

Loss can lead to us exploring grief and questioning life with our beliefs and values, looking at a more spiritual or philosophical meaning. What once may have aligned with us might look different. The way we express grief and process it can vary in ourselves and with other people. Which can impact our identity further. We start to ask questions that might look like:- what is our purpose, what is life all about and why are we in so much pain?

It’s important to know that grief changes our brain structure and function and can create an imbalance which can heighten our stress and anxiety. Neurological changes affect how we process our loss and emotions and how we go on to interact with the world after loss.

All of these experiences are normal and can be supported through sessions with me as a holistic grief coach.



Please reach out if any of this resonates or you have any questions.

As someone who is interested & understands the importance of self-growth and healing, I am forever looking at and explor...
22/05/2026

As someone who is interested & understands the importance of self-growth and healing, I am forever looking at and exploring ways I can move forwards and grow as an individual, a mother, daughter, parent, friend and a griever. I recently came across Ho’oponopono and wanted to share it with you in case you haven’t heard of it either.

Ho’oponopono is a powerful spiritual self-healing technique. It focuses on forgiveness & reconciliation with ourselves, family members and loved ones. This doesn’t give closure, but gives space to speak. To speak our truth, make amends an accept responsibility. It gives us a way to be heard, for our grief to be heard.

Ho’oponopono offers a powerful framework for healing grief and translates to ‘to make right’ where our grief can be witnessed, seen, carried, held, heard and loved. Looking at the mind, body and spirit. Practiced in a community, or individually and invites the body to return to a state of peace.

Four key phrases are at the core of Ho’oponopono are: I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you & I love you.

Disclaimer- Please note I am not an expert – I am sharing something I came across which resonated with me and wanted to share.

This is a cultural practice, not just a technique and would be worth reaching out to a cultural practitioner, local faith leader or community elder who can guide you appropriately. Please approach this with respect for its cultural origins.

Today focuses and emphasises the importance of mental health & physical health in modern day life. I want to take a mome...
21/05/2026

Today focuses and emphasises the importance of mental health & physical health in modern day life. I want to take a moment to reflect on the importance of our overall well-being, especially as grievers. Meditation and mindfulness have proven benefits for improving focus, wellbeing and reducing anxiety and stress. Whether done alone or with other people, this can help with emotional stability and mental clarity. Even if you can only manage a couple of minutes a day. Regular implementation of meditation & mindfulness in every day life will improve our overall well-being.

This is a friendly reminder, if you need it, to foster inner peace, find a moment of calm & take a minute for yourself today.

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20/05/2026

There I said it! Grief isn’t something we fix or complete. We don’t move on from it and while we can anticipate feeling sad on special anniversary dates after we have lost a loved one, we cannot predict our grief. It shows up in all the moments, in unpredictable ways just like the British weather in May.

One minute we think we are doing ok, and the next we are hit with a grief shower, or worse hail. And multiple different types of weather in the same day. Going from one to another. Just like they predict the weather, it’s not always right and we are not always prepared.

Thinking of all of us navigating grief like we do the weather. The best we can.
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3 gentle phrases that you can say to yourself as you are grieving. What else do you want or need to say to yourself tod...
18/05/2026

3 gentle phrases that you can say to yourself as you are grieving.

What else do you want or need to say to yourself today?

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