08/04/2026
I've recently started therapy again.
I LOVE therapy. I get so excited and energised by it that I wonder at the start of each session whether I'll be able to connect with my distress at all. I dream of a world where everyone has overcome financial and emotional barriers and got themselves into therapy.
Being in therapy is also important for my work as a therapist. It's good to be reminded of what it's like to be sitting in the other chair. It keeps me humble. It helps me offer therapy to my clients that is non-judgemental and non-hierarchical, which is what I want for myself as a client.
Therapy is brilliant, but it requires a brilliant therapist. Brilliant is not the same as perfect, and it's a little different for everyone. My own brilliant therapist can't be very cognitive-behaviourally minded, because I don't need a lot of help with my thinking. I need witnessing, empathy, meaning-making and existential exploration.
We don't outgrow the need to process life with help from other people. It doesn't always have to be a formal therapeutic alliance, but there is something special about talking to someone who has been trained to listen with care.
Go to therapy, y'all!