17/05/2026
Yesterday was my daughter's 14th birthday. I'm so proud of the kind, gentle, sensitive, wise, considerate, hilarious, diligent, fierce, loyal and gifted young person she has blossomed into, especially given the traumatic beginnings we both experienced.
Her birthday brings difficult memories and triggers for me, as well as joy and gratitude for being blessed with such a beautiful soul as my Indie.
She doesn't like a public fuss, so while I'm celebrating my wonderful daughter, this post is mainly about some wisdom that arose that I'd like to share.
We're taking the whole weekend to celebrate with different people in our lives, and yesterday was family time. Yep, core script trigger central!
Thanks to my inner work, and forgiveness, and compassion, I'm now able to enjoy spending time with family. However, I realised I was STILL trying to please everyone and keep the peace, instead of zooming in on my daughter's needs and my needs.
This morning, I had the self-critiscim hangover of "I didn't get it right," "I didn't meet my daughter's needs," "I must do better," etc.
Ok. And breathe. Inhale 2. Exhale 4.
I'm not cake. I can not please everyone, and I'm doing the absolute best I can given my inner and outer resources.
The same applies to you.
We forget that we're not responsible for other people's behaviour, choices, or reactions. We say yes when we want to say no. We sacrifice ourselves. Then resentment can arise.
Saying no to another obligation is saying yes to yourself.
We need to protect our peace and our energy.
We need to carve out time to breathe and to take care of ourselves.
It's not a piece of cake, but it's necessary!
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