Sharon Buckley - The Emotional Pain Healer

Sharon Buckley - The Emotional Pain Healer Providing a solution to ongoing emotional pain caused by unresolved grief & loss.

For Women who do everything for everyone & can't take much more đŸ€

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Finish this sentence:I knew I'd hit breaking point when...Pop it in the comments. You might be surprised how many people...
22/06/2026

Finish this sentence:

I knew I'd hit breaking point when...

Pop it in the comments. You might be surprised how many people say the same thing.

Father’s Day lands differently for a lot of people.For some it’s a lovely day. For others it’s one of those days you jus...
21/06/2026

Father’s Day lands differently for a lot of people.

For some it’s a lovely day. For others it’s one of those days you just want to quietly get through without making a fuss about it.

If today is bringing something up for you, whether that’s missing a dad who’s already gone, caring for one who’s still here but not quite the same, or just a complicated relationship with the day itself, I want you to know I’m here if you would like to reach out.

Here are a few things that sometimes help.

Step away from social media if you need to.

Scrolling through everyone else’s happy Father’s Day photos can be a lot when you’re hurting. If you need to put the phone down for the day, you can. You know what you need.

Give yourself permission to do the day your way.

There is no right way to spend today. If you want to mark it, maybe light a candle, cook a meal they loved, visit somewhere that was special to them, share a memory with someone who knew them. And if you just want to get through it and out the other side, that’s completely ok too. There’s no rule about how today has to look.

Find a way to let it out.

Grief that stays stuck tends to hurt more. You might want to write something down, say something out loud, move your body, or just put some music on and let yourself feel it for a bit. There’s no right or wrong way to do any of this. Whatever helps it move through you rather than staying stuck may help.

Talk to someone.

A friend, a family member, or me. You don’t have to sit with today on your own.
If you’d like a proper space to talk about how you’re doing, I offer a free Virtual Coffee. Just a conversation on zoom with someone who understands. You can book it using the link in my bio or DM me and I’ll message you back.

Take care of yourself today.

You matter too.

Much love,

Sharon x

What actually happens when you do the grief work?People often ask me what grief resolution actually looks like. What doe...
20/06/2026

What actually happens when you do the grief work?

People often ask me what grief resolution actually looks like. What does doing the work actually mean?

It's not sitting in a room crying for hours. It's not reliving every painful memory. It's not falling apart so you can put yourself back together.

It's a structured, step by step process that helps you finish what's been left unfinished. We look at what you've been carrying — all of it, not just the obvious things. We work through it using therapeutic methods that help your body and your mind actually process and release what's been stored.

And what happens? The head gets quieter. Your anger makes more sense and starts to ease. Physical symptoms, for many people, start to improve. Your relationships get better because you're not reacting from a place of unresolved pain anymore. The for f**k's sake moments still happen, but you know what to do with them.

It's not magic. It's not overnight. But it works.

If you want to know more about what this could look like for you, let's start with a virtual coffee. No pressure, no sales pitch... just a conversation.

Comment 'COFFEE' and i'll message you my link to book in đŸ€

Sharon x

"I had no idea how much grief I'd been carrying around for decades. I finally feel able to breathe again."This is why I ...
16/06/2026

"I had no idea how much grief I'd been carrying around for decades. I finally feel able to breathe again."

This is why I do what I do.

Most people have no idea how much they're carrying until we start working through it together.

If you're ready to breathe again, let's start with a free virtual coffee.

https://smpl.is/akktr

Sharon x

What's the thing you're telling yourself needs to happen first?When the kids are older. When work settles down. When I'v...
14/06/2026

What's the thing you're telling yourself needs to happen first?

When the kids are older. When work settles down. When I've got more money. When things calm down.

I spent years waiting. The things I was waiting for never happened. And all the while, everything I was avoiding just kept building up until I couldn't take anymore and ended up completely broken.

What are you waiting for? Pop it in the comments, you might be surprised how many people are waiting for the same thing.

Why you feel so sad about the thought of losing someone who is still here.There is a name for it. Anticipatory grief.It’...
12/06/2026

Why you feel so sad about the thought of losing someone who is still here.

There is a name for it. Anticipatory grief.

It’s the grief that starts before any loss. The grief of watching someone you love change slowly in front of you. Dreading what’s coming while trying to stay present for what’s still here. Losing someone gradually, in pieces, before any final goodbye.

Most people don’t know this is grief. They think grief only comes after. So they carry this weight with no name for it and no way to make sense of it. They feel guilty for grieving someone who is still alive.

And nobody around them understands why they’re struggling. Because the person is still here. Because there’s nothing to grieve yet. Because it hasn’t happened.

But it is happening. It may have been happening for a long time.

Just having a name for it can change everything. Because once you can name what you’re feeling, you can start to make sense of it.

And there’s more that can be resolved than you might think. The anger. The resentment. The hopes and plans that won’t happen now. The if onlys and the what ifs. The things you can’t say to your loved one but that need to be voiced somewhere.

All of that can be processed. Not to change what’s coming. But so you’re not carrying it on top of everything else and can be present for your loved one.

You don’t have to carry this unnamed and alone.

Let’s have a virtual coffee. No pressure, just a conversation about what you’ve been carrying and how I can help.

https://smpl.is/akktd

Sharon x

10/06/2026

There's the dread on Sunday night knowing the weekly shop is coming. The meal prep. Working out what's in the cupboard. Gearing yourself up mentally.

Then you sit in the car park for ten minutes before you can even go in because you're not sure you can do it.

You start shopping. The lights. The noise. Everything a bombardment. Someone you know comes up and says “Hi, how are you doing?” and you just lose it. Tears streaming down your face in the middle of Tesco. Or you hold it together by a thread and just abandon the trolley and walk out.

If you do finish, you still have to bring it home. Put it all away. Work out where everything goes. Your brain is already so full you can't even think.

And then someone says "why don't you just do online shopping?" So you try that instead. But now you've got to book a slot. The slot's coming up and you're panicking because you haven't filled it yet, so you just throw in toilet rolls to secure it. Then it all arrives and gets dumped on your doorstep and you have to unpack it and put it away and oh my god it's just too much.

There's no winning. Every option is exhausting.

That's what it's like when your nervous system is stuck in survival mode and you've got nothing left in the tank.

You're not being a drama queen as some people may have suggested. You're carrying too much.

Let's have a virtual coffee. No pressure, just a chat about what's going on and how I can help.

https://smpl.is/akks6

Yes I know it’s AI but I love all of the things it captured about me đŸ«¶đŸ»
23/05/2026

Yes I know it’s AI but I love all of the things it captured about me đŸ«¶đŸ»

22/05/2026

Things had settled. Not resolved. Not fixed. Just quieter for a moment.

And that’s when my body decided it was time.

A virus. Then vertigo. Then an ear infection on top. All at once, the moment the pressure lifted even slightly.

It’s not a coincidence. There’s actually a name for it.

When you’ve been running on adrenaline and cortisol for weeks, months, longer, your body holds the line. It keeps you functional. It keeps you going. Because it has to.

But the moment things ease up, cortisol drops. And when cortisol drops, so does its protective effect. The immune system, the nervous system, all of it suddenly exposed. And everything your body was holding in suspension while you needed to keep going? It arrives. All at once.

Researchers call it the let-down effect.

If you’re someone who only ever gets ill on holiday, or the week after a crisis passes, or the moment you finally sit down, this is why.

Your body didn’t let you down. It kept its promise and got you through. Now it’s asking you to rest.

The problem is, when you’re a working woman providing care and support to a loved one, there is no rest. There’s just the next thing. So your body never gets to complete the cycle. It just keeps holding on. And holding on. And holding on.

Until it can’t.

Has this happened to you? Pop it in the comments.

Sharon x

Being creative has been a huge part of my own healing journey. Not just art work but writing too.I never would have thou...
20/05/2026

Being creative has been a huge part of my own healing journey. Not just art work but writing too.

I never would have thought in my lifetime I would have published a book, but now I am the co-author of a number one best seller on Amazon. I didn’t expect to be an artist having failed GCSE art, but I’m am and I qualified as a therapeutic artist too.

Part of the work I do with my clients weaves in what I like to call creative first aid, helping emotions move through your body, your hands, calming your nervous system, with paint, clay, pens and maybe even this typewriter.

As well as writing books, I have found a love of poetry. A friend and writing mentor of mine has recently bought a typewriter, I just loved seeing the typed words on the page - not a digital print out. So I decided to go retro myself today.

This poem was inspired by the Japanese art of Kintsugi, repairing broken pottery with gold lacquer, honoring our scars , which is deeply rooted in the Wabi-sabi philosophy, Japanese wisdom which embraces imperfection in our life. It was created at a beautiful writing circle I attend hosted by the incredible Lynette Allen x

Once More

My heart once crushed has been restored guilded viens hold pieces together
once more

Your glinting scars show your bravery, your courage
you are whole
once more

You love fiercely with every part of your guilded heart it beats strong, it holds others
once more

The time has come to show your gold, to share your mortar so they can be whole once more

Sharon Buckley
14th May 2026

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