Rewire Therapy

31/05/2026

There are times when everything looks like it ‘should’ be manageable.

No obvious obstacles and things are getting done. To an observer, it might seem to be working ok.

And what if it doesn’t feel like that? What if simple things take more energy? e.g Decisions take longer. There’s less space than there was, even when the day doesn’t look that different on paper. Things just feel tougher than they used to.

That can go unnoticed for quite a while, especially if you’re used to being able to keep things going.

But that kind of weight doesn’t tend to resolve on its own.
It often needs a different approach and that is where something new could begin.

If this resonates for you, you’re welcome to visit my website — you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

31/05/2026

I wish this for all of us.

Self-compassion is key to a happy and fulfilling life. Here are five practical ways to be kind to yourself:
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1 - Ask yourself what you need: Acknowledge that your needs are valid.
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2 - Validate your pain: Recognize and accept your emotional experience.
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3 - Remember you aren’t alone: We all struggle; you’re not isolated in your challenges.
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4 - Honor your humanity: Being human means being imperfect.
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5 - Treat yourself like you would treat a friend: Be supportive and helpful toward yourself.
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29/05/2026

You might think looking at your eating patterns is straightforward.

The expectation might be to notice, change behaviour, and have a different outcome.

Except most people I work with on the Mindful Eating for ADHD-ers course recognise that there is a bit more to it than that.
They don’t just notice what they’re eating, but how they’re relating to themselves around it.

On the surface, the idea of bringing in a bit more comfort, kindness or even enjoyment sounds straightforward enough. But when we do, it can be wrapped up in shame, criticism and disappointment.
So reaching for something that might be helpful can, almost at the same time, bring all of that into view as well.

The things that might help don’t always feel safe enough to reach for.
It can feel conflicting, like you’re opening something that might be harder to manage than what’s already in place.

If kindness around eating and body image feels hard for you, you’re in good company. It’s where many people start when they come to the Mindful Eating for ADHD-ers course.

I’ll be pausing the course while I’m away in July, so there’s a short window where people can start and work through it with me before then.
If that’s something you’ve been thinking about, you’re welcome to visit my website — you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

28/05/2026

You’re trying to get your head sorted. If you could just think it through properly, get a clear answer, you’d be able to settle and move on. That’s what you tell yourself, anyway.

But it doesn’t quite work like that. There’s always something else that needs sorting. Something you might have missed. Something you should probably go back and double check, just to be sure.

From the outside, you’re doing well. You’re reliable. People trust you. You carry a lot and you don’t drop the ball. Inside, the tone is pretty critical.

Why can’t you just sort this? This shouldn’t be this hard. Other people manage. So you keep going. You think harder, work later, try to close whatever gap you’re sure is still there, and there isn’t really a point where it feels finished. Hardly a pause before the next thing that needs your attention.

Living like that takes a toll, even when it looks like you’re coping. It’s a lot to carry on your own.

If this resonates for you, you’re welcome to visit my website, you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

27/05/2026

There’s a point where you know what’s happening.
You can explain it, you can see the pattern, and you’ve probably talked it through more than once.
And still nothing has changed.

So you try a bit harder. You think it through more carefully. Work out what you might have missed.
That makes sense. It’s worked for you before.

But this time feels different. Those old strategies don’t quite bail you out. They might even be making things worse.

At some point it stops being about knowing and planning, and becomes about understanding what you need in order for things to shift.
That tends to be the point people come to therapy with.

If this resonates for you, you’re welcome to visit my website — you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

26/05/2026

A lot of people plan to stay focused. For some, attention doesn’t follow the plan.
It moves toward whatever stands out - something more interesting, more immediate, or simply easier to engage with.

Something like this. From the outside, it can look like distraction, or not applying yourself, or not finishing what you start. From the inside, it’s more like trying to hold onto something that doesn’t stay still.

Trying harder rarely fixes that. Understanding how your attention actually moves is where things begin to change.

If this resonates for you, you’re welcome to visit my website, you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

25/05/2026

Sunny bank holiday. That on its own feels like a bit of an event.
Time like this can go a few different ways. Sometimes it’s genuinely restful. Sometimes it just gives you a clearer view of what’s been running in the background.
Eating and body image can be part of that.
You might notice a lack of control, or a kind of pendulum swinging between very tight control and none at all.
Time off can also bring up reminders of the last time you intended to make a change. Noticing how different things are to how you’d like them to be, or a sense of doubt about whether it’s possible to feel more at ease around food and your body.
That’s the sort of place people are often in when they start the Mindful Eating for ADHD-ers course. We look at ways to bring some kindness and curiosity into the eating patterns they’re dealing with, rather than trying to force things into shape.
I’ll be pausing the course while I’m away in July, so there’s a short window where people can start and complete it with me before then.
If that’s something you’ve been thinking about, you’re welcome to visit my website — you’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

21/05/2026

World Meditation Day. Ten years ago, I would have rolled my eyes at something like this.

I did not have the circumstances people usually associate with meditation. I needed something that worked in the middle of a hectic life that was not working.

Around nine years ago, I found mindfulness, looking for some peace and something I could actually use in practice. What it gave me was not calm. It gave me a way to see what was happening. Patterns in what set me off, how I reacted, and what that led to. The same loops repeating in slightly different situations.

It also made it possible to see all of that with less self‑judgement. From there, things began to shift. Slowly, and in a way that held.

If this resonates for you, you’re welcome to visit my website. You’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

19/05/2026

Lives rarely unfold in straight lines. For many ADHD‑ers, progress includes changes in direction, interests that come and go, skills picked up along the way, and chapters that don’t happen in the order they were once imagined.

What can look fragmented at the time often has its own internal thread. Each turn teaches something. Each shift contributes to how you come to understand yourself, your values, and what matters to you. Looking back, those moments are often more connected than they first appeared.

A life doesn’t need tidy edges to make sense. If this feels familiar and you’d like space to look at your own path with fresh eyes, you’re welcome to head to my website. You’ll find an option there to arrange a free chat if the time feels right.

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17/05/2026

It’s May, the weather is usually improving by now, and it’s National Walking Month. So it’s easy to assume that getting out for a walk should feel more doable.

Often, it’s the expectation that causes the difficulty. The 'should go for a walk' or 'must get more exercise' thinking can turn something potentially supportive into another demand.

Capacity fluctuates. Some days it’s easier to get up and out. Other days, energy is low or circumstances don’t allow. Pushing on regardless can be unhelpful, and can even leave people feeling bad about themselves for not managing something that’s meant to be “good” for them.

For many of us, demands don’t increase access. They reduce it. What if National Walking Month were treated as an opportunity instead. More like an invitation. A chance to check in on capacity, and to respond to a wish for wellbeing when it’s actually there.

That way of working, starting with capacity rather than expectation, sits at the heart of how I work. If sticking with intentions is something that’s on your mind, you can find more information on my website, including an option to arrange a free chat.