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Ex-Law Firm Partner & Magic Circle lawyer.

40K on LinkedIn. Host of Lawyer Unleashed - The Podcast. The off-the-record conversations every lawyer needs to hear.

Raw insights on what really happens in law and how you succeed.

21/05/2026

The unspoken rules of law firms aren't written down.
They don't need to be.

Some people arrive already knowing them.
The right schools.
The right circles.
The right suit.
They've been prepared their whole lives for this room.

And then there's everyone else.
The ones who had to figure it out alone.
The ones who got something slightly wrong.
And felt every person in that room notice.

Patrick McCann, CEO of the City of London Law Society, was one of those people.
He still remembers the day they laughed at him.
Law calls it culture.
First-gen lawyers call it something else.
That quiet moment that stays with you for decades.
That's not an accident.
That's a system working exactly as designed.

Watch the full episode on Lawyer Unleashed - The Podcast.

19/05/2026

Lawyer burnout is systemic. And leaders know it.

Patrick McCann - CEO of the City of London Law Society - says what most senior leaders won't.

The law firm operating model is built on relentless pressure.

Extreme hours.

Decades of sustained intensity.

Half of lawyers have felt anxiety in the last year.

A third wouldn't recommend the career.

And yet the system keeps grinding.

My personal experience?

Up or out.

Burn through the associates.

Leave a few standing.

Call that leadership.

And under that pressure - behaviour that once would have been unacceptable is now being unleashed.

This isn't just a crisis.

It's a choice.

Listen to the full conversation on Lawyer Unleashed - The Podcast.

16/05/2026

Nine HR complaints in one week.

Brushed off.

Because a partner is bringing in millions.

I spoke with Sahar Farooqi, Managing Partner at Arbor Law, and he said something that made me uncomfortable.

Lawyers are notoriously arrogant.
They think they understand everything.

But they're not good at running businesses.

And when revenue matters more than people?

Toxicity gets tolerated.

Then repeated.

A rainmaker with nine HR complaints in a week isn't a problem to solve.

He's a problem being protected.

At what point does law stop justifying bad leadership?

🎙️ Listen to the full conversation on Lawyer Unleashed

(On Apple YouTube & Spotify)

14/05/2026

Most lawyers don't make partner because of this one thing.

It's not talent.

It's fear.

I sat down with Sahar Farooqi, Managing Partner at Arbor Law, and he said something that stopped me.

Lawyers are brilliant.
But they're terrified.

Of failure. Of rejection. Of getting it wrong.

So they play it safe.

They keep themselves small.

And they stall.

Sahar told me: "I can't think of anything I've ever done that mattered that didn't come with a degree of discomfort."

Every career-defining move you will ever make will feel uncomfortable.

That's not a red flag. That's the point.

Walls don't break from the safe side.

🎙️ Listen to the full conversation on Lawyer Unleashed

(On Apple YouTube & Spotify)

12/05/2026

Most law firms know they are breaking lawyers.

They just choose to look away.

Sahar Farooqi - former barrister, CEO of Legalencia, Managing Partner at Arbor Law - has been inside this machine his entire career.

And he's done pretending.

In Episode 1 of Lawyer Unleashed, Sahar exposes:

The toxic leadership and echo chambers nobody names.

The rainmaker with nine HR complaints that nobody touches.

The 30 firms that slammed the door on fixing their culture.

The truth about what making partner actually means - and what's waiting on the other side.

The unwritten rules shaping your legal career.

This is the conversation that doesn't happen on the record.

Until now.

🎙️ Episode 1 of Lawyer Unleashed is now live (YouTube, Apple & Spotify)

Sahar: https://vist.ly/53vhd

Helen: https://vist.ly/53vhh

08/05/2026

I’ve been building in total secrecy for 6 months.

(I almost didn't share this)

There’s a lot that doesn’t get said out loud in law.

The bits you don’t hear in meetings.
That don’t make it onto LinkedIn.
That never get said at all.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗴𝗮𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝘀 𝗹𝗮𝘄𝘆𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸.

So I did something about it.

I went straight to the insiders.
To the people at the top.
To the free-thinkers.

And captured what's really going on.

Asked the questions 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘴𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥.

The ones that would have transformed my law career.

No scripts.
No 'playing it safe'.

The blunt truth on:

Partnership.
Power.
AI.

Toxic culture.
How leadership thinks.
What’s 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 behind closed doors.

I call these files 𝘓𝘢𝘸𝘺𝘦𝘳 𝘜𝘯𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘥.

No.1 drops on Tuesday (12 May).

I won’t lie… I almost didn't release this.

But I'm also excited (slightly terrified) for you to hear it.

Here’s your first look 🖤

08/03/2023

I got put in my place yesterday.

And I’m happy about this.

I said on my first call with my new supplier: “I’m a one man band”

😬

She cut me right off mid-sentence: “You are NOT!” - she exclaimed!

You are a ‘one WOMAN band’.

I loved her immediately.

A match made in heaven.

She was totally right.

And amazing she had the gumption (*NOT balls*) to call me out on it.

Go Laura 🤜🤛

Here’s to International Women’s Day.

08/03/2023

Oh I got put in my place yesterday.

And I’m happy about this.

I said on my first call with my new supplier: “I’m a one man band”

😬

She cut me right off mid-sentence: “You are NOT!” - she exclaimed!

You are a ‘one WOMAN band’.

I loved her immediately.

A match made in heaven.

She was totally right.

And amazing she had the gumption (*NOT balls*) to call me out on it.

Go Laura 🤜🤛

Here’s to International Women’s Day.

05/03/2023

Sunday combat class 🥷

If you’re in a fight - then fight.

If it’s time to meditate - then meditate.

Being FULLY present for whatever is - that’s true mindfulness.

Have a kickass Sunday 😎

14/02/2023

Do you want better work/life balance & clearer boundaries around your working day?

If so, watch out for this ONE BIG OBSTACLE which will prevent this from happening.

As a former busy City lawyer I know what it's like to feel stressed out, overworked, have no time for yourself, for the gym, for healthy eating etc etc.

Typical City life hey.

So, you might think the solution is to create healthier boundaries and habits.

But, before this, there is an ESSENTIAL FIRST STEP.

💥 This is: to build your inner-confidence and sense of your value 💥

Without this, all good intentions, when put under pressure, will fall flat as a pancake 🥞

E.g. You say you're going to finish work at a certain hour or make that lunchtime gym class, but then your boss emails and asks to do something.

Sometimes this will be urgent. But many times it won't be and there will be room to push back.

If you:
😬 aren't confident in your abilities
😬 don't have a sense of your self-worth (outside of what you bill)
😬 haven't developed an ability to communicate your needs

It will be very hard (if not impossible!) to say no.

And this is what it's going to take.

The good news is that these are all things you can work on AND get results with pretty quickly.

Take the time to invest in you.

It will be the biggest payoff you'll ever make 🚀

13/02/2023

I used to always worry about whether my work was up to scratch.

And this used to DRAIN 🕳️ me.

It felt as though my energy and self-esteem were being squeezed out of me 😓

It was the classic imposter syndrome kicking in 👀

❓Could I have done more?
❓Was this what they wanted?
❓Did I write too much / too little?
❓Was I too slow?
❓Was I too informal?

And so it goes on.

But there's a trick you can use though to get round a lot of this.

And it's pretty simple.

ASK people what they want from you 😳

✅ ASK how they want you to interact with clients
✅ ASK how long they think you should give this piece of work
✅ ASK the level of detail required
✅ ASK what the syntax should be
✅ ASK what the turnaround is

Don't sit there worrying.

Most people don't bite.

And, well...if they do...it's probs time to look for a new job anyway! 🤷‍♀️

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