Roots Therapy

07/05/2026

Your sensitivity isn’t your weakness. It’s just been in the wrong rooms.

You’ve probably been told - directly or indirectly - that you feel too much. That you’re too intense. Too emotional. Too affected by things other people seem to shrug off.

So you learned to manage it. Minimise it. Apologise for it.

But here’s what I know from sitting with people in this work - the ones who feel deeply are often the most attuned, the most empathetic, the most alive to the beauty and pain of being human. That’s not a flaw. That’s a gift that hasn’t been held properly yet.

The problem was never how much you feel. It was that the rooms you were in - growing up, in relationships, at work - didn’t have space for it.

The right room changes everything.

A room where your tears aren’t awkward. Where your depth isn’t overwhelming. Where someone leans in rather than pulls back when you show them who you really are.

That’s what therapy can be. Not a place to fix your sensitivity - but a place to finally stop apologising for it.

I’m Ruta - an AEDP therapist at Roots Therapy, working online across the UK. If you’ve spent your life feeling like too much - I’d love to meet you exactly as you are.

Free 20-min call · link in bio.

— Ruta

01/05/2026

“What if I start feeling everything - and I can’t stop?”

I hear this more than almost anything else.
Not always in those exact words.
Sometimes it sounds like “I’m not ready.” Or “maybe later, when things calm down.” Or simply - silence. A link clicked and then closed.

If that’s you, I want you to know something.

That fear makes complete sense. You’ve spent years learning to hold it together. To function. To keep going. Of course the idea of opening up feels like a risk you can’t afford.

But here’s what I’ve learned from sitting with people in this work - the emotions you’re most afraid of aren’t waiting to swallow you whole. They’re already there. Already costing you energy every single day. Already showing up as the tension in your shoulders, the 3am waking, the irritability you can’t quite explain.

Therapy - good therapy - doesn’t rip open the floodgates. It finds them gently. Opens them slowly. Always at the pace your nervous system can actually handle. You will still be able to go to work on Monday. You will still be yourself. Just - gradually - more of yourself.

In AEDP we work with what your body and emotions are already carrying. Not to overwhelm you. To finally give it somewhere safe to land.

If you’ve been putting off reaching out because of this fear - this is your sign that it’s safe to take one small step.

Free 20-minute call · no pressure · just a conversation.

Link in bio to book.

— Ruta

29/04/2026

Unsure. Hoping. Wondering if things could actually feel different.

They can.

Real words from real people.

What moves me most about these words isn’t just what changed - it’s what became possible. Coping where there was once overwhelm. Boundaries where there was once fear. Compassion for the parts that were once hidden in shame.

This is what therapy can be when it goes beneath the surface. Not just understanding yourself better - but finally experiencing yourself differently. In your body. In your relationships. In the quiet moments when you realise you no longer speak to yourself the way you used to.

If you’ve been wondering whether to reach out - let this be your sign.

I’m Ruta, an AEDP therapist at Roots Therapy, working online across the UK. The first step is a free 20-minute call. No forms, no pressure — just a conversation.

Link in bio to book. I’d be honoured to work with you.

— Ruta

23/04/2026

Most of us are brilliant at analysing ourselves.
We know where it comes from. We’ve read the books. We understand our patterns intellectually. And yet - nothing shifts.

That’s not a failure of insight. That’s what happens when the wound lives somewhere thinking can’t reach.
In AEDP we work differently. We follow what’s alive in the body. We slow down and stay with the feeling rather than explaining it away. And in that slowing down - with someone truly present beside you - something that no amount of thinking could touch begins to move.
You don’t need more self awareness. You might just need to finally feel it - in a place that’s safe enough to do so.

If that resonates, I’m Ruta - an AEDP therapist at Roots Therapy, working online across the UK. First step is a free 20-minute call. Link in bio.

— Ruta

18/04/2026

Nothing terrible happened.
And yet something always felt wrong.
If that sentence just stopped you - this is for you.

So many people carry wounds that have no obvious name. No single event to point to. Just a quiet, persistent feeling of being alone even when people were around. Of learning early that your emotions were too much, or not important enough. Of deciding - without anyone ever saying it out loud - that something must be wrong with you.

That’s not a character flaw. That’s what emotional neglect does. It doesn’t leave visible marks. But it shapes everything - how safe relationships feel, how worthy of love you believe you are, how comfortable you are simply existing in your own skin.

You were never too much. You were never not enough.
You were just unseen.

I’m Ruta, an AEDP therapist at Roots Therapy. My work is relational, experiential, and emotion-focused - rooted in attachment theory and neuroscience. I work with people who grew up feeling alone, unseen, or like something was fundamentally wrong with them. People who are tired of carrying that quietly into every relationship, every room, every version of themselves.

Healing means finally having the experience of being truly met. Perhaps for the first time.

If any of this resonates, the first step is a free 20-minute Zoom call. No pressure, no forms - just a conversation.

Link in bio to book.
— Ruta

17/04/2026

24/02/2022

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24/02/2022

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22/02/2022

The 6 Rs of neuropsychotherapy form the foundation of the Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook. This short video describes the emerging field of neuroplasticity and how this can be applied to trauma recovery.
Learn more about Dr. Arielle Schwartz on her website.

The 6 Rs of neuropsychotherapy form the foundation of the Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook. This short video describes the emerging field of neuroplasticity a...

21/02/2022

Symptoms like chronic anxiety, social-anxiety, shame-based depression, and many others are the result of buried and avoided emotions linked to ‘traumas that we have pushed outside our consciousness’.

It is vital to realise that many of our traumatic experiences can actually be invisible and invalidated by our families and societies, like being emotionally neglected, being rejected or humiliated for our feelings or traits of our core true self. Eventually, we learn coping strategies that work at the time, yet have a tremendous cost to our lives. We struggle with relating healthily and lose our connection to our authenticity.

Gaining more knowledge about core and inhibitory emotions, learning to recognise the invisible traumas we’ve suffered, are all life-saving steps in so many ways.

I love being an AEDP therapist because I see it as a healing model with predictable results. Over and over again, I have witnessed my patients processing emotions and healing from their traumas. They recover their true self. A key part of this process involves acknowledging losses and mourning.

Visit my website (link in bio) to access resources or book a free initial call to see if you’d like to work with me in therapy.

🇱🇹„Netgi tos trauminės patirtys, kurias išstūmėme už savo sąmonės ribų, mus labai paveikia. Jos veikia mūsų nervų sistemas, mūsų kūnus, mūsų reakcijas į įvykius, mūsų pasirinkimus, mūsų jausmus apie save ir kitus bei daugelį kitų mūsų patiryminių aspektų. Kai nematai, bet vistiek skauda“.

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