28/05/2026
When does resilience end and dissociation begin?
I know this woman well. She is still a part of me and needs to be constantly reminded that she too deserves rest.
In my craniosacral practice, I often meet women who are extraordinarily resilient.
Women who hold families together.
Women who care for children, partners, parents, colleagues and friends.
Women who keep going through grief, illness, disappointment, trauma and chronic stress.
They adapt.
They cope.
They push through.
And so I find myself returning to the same question:
When does resilience end and dissociation begin?
When do we stop responding to life’s demands and start losing touch with ourselves?
When can we describe everyone else’s needs, but struggle to name our own?
Sometimes the most resilient people are the ones who have become furthest removed from how they actually feel, what they actually want, or what they truly desire.
Perhaps the lesson is not simply to keep going, but to remember ourselves along the way.
To rest.
To stay curious about our own inner world, even in the face of adversity.
To notice when adaptation has become disconnection.
One of the things I value most about craniosacral therapy is that it creates a little space.
A pause from doing, carrying, managing and holding.
A chance to listen.
A chance to remember.
A chance to remember who you are when you’re not being needed by everyone else.
