Child Behaviour Direct

19/06/2026

Morning everyone, I have a couple of spaces open for private parent coaching.

Just book a free call or contact me here, and we can take it from there:

https://www.childbehaviourdirect.com/contact.

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17/06/2026

Do you ever feel overwhelmed with challenges as a parent? The problem can be two-fold. The answer may be two-fold?

Let's talk about it.

10/06/2026

Why do we talk about Connection Before Correction?

I’ve been talking with a parent whose teenager is anxious, and she said something relatable — like many of us, in an effort to stop their child feeling anxious, she found it so natural to jump in with advice, solutions, or ways to “fix” things.

😇But in those moments, what they often need most isn’t problem-solving — it’s connection.

Before anything else, the hard part can be just being in it with them, listening without rushing in.

Reflecting back on what is heard. Letting them know their feelings makes sense. 😊

Simple phrases like:

• “That sounds really hard.”
• “I can see why you’d feel that way.”
• “I’m here with you.”

Can create emotional safety that helps a young person feel less alone. (And honestly… We could all do with some of that.)😍😍

Research consistently shows that strong parent–child relationships are one of the most protective factors against anxiety and stress.

Feeling understood won’t remove anxiety overnight, but it does help a young person feel supported enough to move through it.

What do you think, is your child ever anxious?

05/06/2026

The most effective way to teach children how to listen is by example.

Remember, when children feel heard, behaviour often changes naturally.

03/06/2026

We are so pleased to have been approved as a provider on the CAFSS Children and Families Support Services framework for the West Midlands.

It takes me back to over ten years ago when we first became approved providers on the Emotional Wellbeing Framework for Staffordshire — and all the families we have had the privilege of working with since.

Looking back:

✅ 100% of parents said their child's behaviour had improved
✅ 100% said they would recommend the programme
✅ 95% said their well-being had improved

It reminds me of just how much of a difference we can make for families at their most vulnerable time, and how privileged we are to help them.

We are looking forward to working with more of you and the families that you work with 💜

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01/06/2026

Hi, new website contact page.

Feel free to contact me directly. Let's connect.

https://www.childbehaviourdirect.com/contact

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27/05/2026

I spent over 20 years working with children before I ever set foot in a university lecture room.😅

I'd seen it with my own eyes, over and over again — how children are impacted by their environment, by the way they are parented, and how the adults, even siblings around them, interact.

It is all key to a child's well-being and behaviour. 😯

But I wanted to understand the WHY. The theory behind what I was already seeing. So in 2001, I went and studied for my psychology degree.

And that's when something unexpected happened.

It stopped being just about other children — and became more about me. 🥹

About how my own environment had shaped my life. What I needed to learn, change, and heal in myself, so that I could best show up for the families I work with.

Along the way, the language used may have changed.

Neurodivergent. Trauma-informed. Gentle parenting. These words have become part of everyday conversation, and the internet has helped so many of us become more informed.

But the WHY behind it all? That hasn't changed.👩

Every family I work with at Child Behaviour Direct goes through a full assessment. And what I find, time and time again, is an alarming amount of stress these children have.

So that's always where we start.

Not the behaviour itself, but what's underneath it.

The root cause.

The stress a child is holding that they simply can't put into words.

When we reduce that stress first, and communicate with warmth, compassion and love, children stop reacting, and start responding.

That's when real change happens.

That's not a new idea. That's just good practice. 💙

What are your thoughts?

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18/05/2026

So where is Samantha now? Continued from yesterday -
Her little boy started school without a problem.

Because in those six weeks, something had shifted in the whole family.

Dad and his two older siblings stopped accidentally rewarding his behaviour.

The mornings that used to be chaos had a calm routine that worked.

And Samantha went from triggered and reactive to the calm, steady influence her little boy needed.

Six weeks were enough, because she left with the tools to keep going.

But don't just take Samantha's word for it.

Here's what other parents have said:

😍"I thought it might work, but I never thought it would be instant." — Jenny from Surrey.

😍"We are having much fewer situations arising, and our household is so much happier." — Rochelle from Stone.

😍"I have learned realistic and achievable parenting skills." — Dave from Birmingham.

This is what's possible when you make a positive change.

Just real, practical strategies that work from day one.

If you're ready to feel calm and confident in your own home, there are two ways I can help:

📖 The Parent's Guide to Children's Behaviour: my book, approved with the UK Government CanParent Quality Mark.

Available now on Amazon or at childbehaviourdirect.com

📞 Free call: I have 2 Saturday morning one-to-one Child Behaviour Coaching slots available this month.

Comment BLISS below, message or email [email protected], and I will be in touch.

17/05/2026

How one family got there.

Samantha contacted me a few months ago, quite upset. Like most parents are when they have had enough.

Things were getting out of hand with her 4-year-old's behaviour, they were a busy professional family who wanted some strategies and support in listening and doing as he was asked.

When he didn't want to do something, he would have severe tantrums, hit her, and shout how much he hated his mum.

Samantha was so tired of his behaviour that she found herself giving in just to keep the peace and get through the day.

Not because she was weak, but because nobody had ever shown her what else to do.

Here are a few things she did to turn things around within the 6 weeks we worked together, and just in time for starting school.

What we did together:

1. We changed how she was reacting. In the moment when he hit out or screamed, her reaction was making things worse without her realising. We worked on how to be more assertive in her body language and reaction.

2. We changed how she spoke to him. The words we use with young children matter more than most parents realise. We worked on simple, specific language that reduced his anxiety instead of escalating, so he was much more receptive.

3. We made a behaviour change plan using our Parent’s Guide to Children's Behaviour. A real, practical plan built around her son and her family.

Something she could pick up and use every single day.

She worked hard, put all the new strategies into practice, even on the difficult days.

When we finished, she told me she felt like a completely different parent.

It all happened quickly because she really did the work, and her husband, who had recommended me, was very supportive, too.

Tomorrow I'll share here what great progress she made.

Best Ruth 😊