Child Behaviour Direct

27/05/2026

I spent over 20 years working with children before I ever set foot in a university lecture room.😅

I'd seen it with my own eyes, over and over again — how children are impacted by their environment, by the way they are parented, and how the adults, even siblings around them, interact.

It is all key to a child's well-being and behaviour. 😯

But I wanted to understand the WHY. The theory behind what I was already seeing. So in 2001, I went and studied for my psychology degree.

And that's when something unexpected happened.

It stopped being just about other children — and became more about me. 🥹

About how my own environment had shaped my life. What I needed to learn, change, and heal in myself, so that I could best show up for the families I work with.

Along the way, the language used may have changed.

Neurodivergent. Trauma-informed. Gentle parenting. These words have become part of everyday conversation, and the internet has helped so many of us become more informed.

But the WHY behind it all? That hasn't changed.👩

Every family I work with at Child Behaviour Direct goes through a full assessment. And what I find, time and time again, is an alarming amount of stress these children have.

So that's always where we start.

Not the behaviour itself, but what's underneath it.

The root cause.

The stress a child is holding that they simply can't put into words.

When we reduce that stress first, and communicate with warmth, compassion and love, children stop reacting, and start responding.

That's when real change happens.

That's not a new idea. That's just good practice. 💙

What are your thoughts?

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18/05/2026

So where is Samantha now? Continued from yesterday -
Her little boy started school without a problem.

Because in those six weeks, something had shifted in the whole family.

Dad and his two older siblings stopped accidentally rewarding his behaviour.

The mornings that used to be chaos had a calm routine that worked.

And Samantha went from triggered and reactive to the calm, steady influence her little boy needed.

Six weeks were enough, because she left with the tools to keep going.

But don't just take Samantha's word for it.

Here's what other parents have said:

😍"I thought it might work, but I never thought it would be instant." — Jenny from Surrey.

😍"We are having much fewer situations arising, and our household is so much happier." — Rochelle from Stone.

😍"I have learned realistic and achievable parenting skills." — Dave from Birmingham.

This is what's possible when you make a positive change.

Just real, practical strategies that work from day one.

If you're ready to feel calm and confident in your own home, there are two ways I can help:

📖 The Parent's Guide to Children's Behaviour: my book, approved with the UK Government CanParent Quality Mark.

Available now on Amazon or at childbehaviourdirect.com

📞 Free call: I have 2 Saturday morning one-to-one Child Behaviour Coaching slots available this month.

Comment BLISS below, message or email [email protected], and I will be in touch.

17/05/2026

How one family got there.

Samantha contacted me a few months ago, quite upset. Like most parents are when they have had enough.

Things were getting out of hand with her 4-year-old's behaviour, they were a busy professional family who wanted some strategies and support in listening and doing as he was asked.

When he didn't want to do something, he would have severe tantrums, hit her, and shout how much he hated his mum.

Samantha was so tired of his behaviour that she found herself giving in just to keep the peace and get through the day.

Not because she was weak, but because nobody had ever shown her what else to do.

Here are a few things she did to turn things around within the 6 weeks we worked together, and just in time for starting school.

What we did together:

1. We changed how she was reacting. In the moment when he hit out or screamed, her reaction was making things worse without her realising. We worked on how to be more assertive in her body language and reaction.

2. We changed how she spoke to him. The words we use with young children matter more than most parents realise. We worked on simple, specific language that reduced his anxiety instead of escalating, so he was much more receptive.

3. We made a behaviour change plan using our Parent’s Guide to Children's Behaviour. A real, practical plan built around her son and her family.

Something she could pick up and use every single day.

She worked hard, put all the new strategies into practice, even on the difficult days.

When we finished, she told me she felt like a completely different parent.

It all happened quickly because she really did the work, and her husband, who had recommended me, was very supportive, too.

Tomorrow I'll share here what great progress she made.

Best Ruth 😊

16/05/2026

I love working with parents of children under 10.

Often overlooked, struggling with their child's behaviour, not managed to get the right support, or stuck on long waiting lists.

My clients tell me they feel unsupported and overwhelmed.

But when they start working with me, within the right supportive environment, they realise just what it can do for the quality of their everyday family life.

The parenting support world can feel judgmental, unapproachable and quite scary. Involving a visit to the doctor with little direction or support.

That's not what parents need.

My clients want to feel more confident and independent, and to gain real strategies for what is the best thing to do.

When they begin child behaviour coaching, they quickly realise —

😅The nagging, arguing and tantrums start to ease.
😁They can get their child to do as they ask without a meltdown.
🥰They can go out as a family on a Sunday afternoon and actually enjoy it.

I know these things aren't glamorous, but they're incredibly important. And they set families up for the years ahead — new school transitions, teenage years and healthy, happy relationships throughout life.

Follow me — tomorrow I'm going to share exactly how one family got there.

Child Behaviour Direct

12/05/2026

You don't have to keep doing this the hard way. 💛

If you're a parent dealing with tantrums, defiance, or constant stress at home, you are not alone, and you don't have to figure it out by yourself.

As a child behaviour coach, I help parents get to the root of what's really driving their child's behaviour. Not just managing the meltdowns — but understanding why they're happening and building real, lasting change from there.

What that looks like in practice:

✅ More connection between you and your child
✅ More cooperation
✅ A calmer, happier home for the whole family

Support is completely personalised to your family and available in your home or online — whatever works best for you.

If you're ready for things to feel more manageable, I'd love to help. 😊

👇 Drop a comment below or contact me, and let's have a chat.

03/05/2026

Is your child ignoring you no matter what you try? 👀
The answer might not be what you expect.
My latest blog explores why children stop listening — and a simple strategy that you can use today!

Read it here 👇 https://www.childbehaviourdirect.com/free-tips/childlisten

If your child has stopped listening, connection could be the missing piece. Discover one powerful strategy that helps parents rebuild cooperation every day.

22/04/2026

I want to share a story that means a lot to me, and ask for your help.🥰

The very first referral I received from the County Council came because of a mum who found me right here on Facebook.

She had tried numerous avenues for help and support. Nothing had worked. She reached out to me, and I suggested she speak with her social worker and ask them to fund her parenting support.

Within a few weeks, we were working together.😊

After 12 weeks of home support, things had settled. The shouting had stopped. And that family was no longer asking for their teenage son to be taken into care.

That is what our work is about.

So here is where I need your help: if you or someone you know is struggling, please speak to your school, support worker, or social services and ask for funding for parenting support.

It costs nothing to ask. And it could change everything.

Please like and share to reach more parents.

WE NEED TO SPEAK UP.

18/04/2026

BOOK A FREE DISCOVERY CALL: Child Behaviour Coaching
If you’re thinking about getting some support at home, did you know that you can book a free call with me, and we’ll have a chat to see if Child Behaviour Coaching feels like a good fit for you.

Any questions, just message me or drop them below.

Please book a call here.

15/04/2026

Are you struggling with tantrums, your child won’t listen, or constant arguing and stress?

Feeling overwhelmed and like you need some help?

I offer child behaviour coaching that helps you uncover the root cause of your child’s behaviour — so you’re not just firefighting the same issues day after day.

Together, we focus on building more connection, more cooperation, and real, lasting positive change in your home.

Support is personalised and available in your home or online — whatever works best for you.

If you’d like things to feel calmer and more manageable, message me directly or comment 😀 below and I will get back to you.

13/04/2026

When your child is overwhelmed or not responding how you’d hope…

Think about how you can positively connect with them.

This is where real behaviour change starts.

Not in control.
Not in punishment.
But in connection.

Let’s talk about it 💛