The Mindful Life Coach UK

The Mindful Life Coach UK My name is Nichola Pyrkos and I provide Transformational Life Coaching & Mindfulness Services

When I ask my clients what they truly want most in life, the answer is almost always the same:“I just want to be happy.”...
17/04/2026

When I ask my clients what they truly want most in life, the answer is almost always the same:
“I just want to be happy.”

And I gently bring them back to a simple truth:
"If you want to be happy, start doing more of what genuinely makes you happy".

But here’s where it gets interesting… what does happiness actually mean?

With billions of people in the world, there are billions of different definitions of happiness. What feels like a dream to one person might feel like a total nightmare for another. That’s why the most important starting point is understanding what happiness looks like for you!

Take a moment to reflect:
• What do you love to do?
• Where do you feel most at ease?
• Who do you feel happiest around?
• What brings you real joy?
• What leaves you feeling fulfilled and content?
• When do you feel most free?
• What helps you feel calm and grounded?
• What do you need to release or surrender?
• What brings you peace, both in your mind and your heart?

Once you gain clarity on what happiness means to you, the next step is to prioritise it.

And this doesn’t require dramatic life changes (unless that truly calls to you). Sustainable happiness is built through small, intentional moments woven into your everyday life....your morning coffee in silence, your favourite song on the drive home, wearing something that makes you feel good, buying yourself flowers just because, or making time for what you love.

These moments matter more than you think. They gently fill your “Happiness Cup” and over time, that cup begins to overflow.

Happiness isn’t a luxury; it’s nourishment for your soul. When you neglect it, you often feel it in your mind and body as a dip in energy, as a void or dis-ease. When you honour your happiness, your energy rises, and you feel it in your mind and body as ease, flow and alignment.

So let this be your reminder: follow what feels good, what feels true, what feels like you.

What is one small thing you can do today to fill your Happiness Cup?

Your past is not a place of residence - it is a place of reference. Every mistake you’ve made carries insight. Every dis...
15/04/2026

Your past is not a place of residence - it is a place of reference. Every mistake you’ve made carries insight. Every disappointment holds a lesson waiting to be acknowledged. When you pause to reflect with compassion rather than criticism, you begin to see that those moments were not failures, but opportunities to grow, to realign, and to become more aware of who you are and who you are becoming 🌱

Looking back deliberately, consciously for the sole purpose of reflecting and learning, allows you to break patterns, to understand your triggers, and to choose differently moving forward. It gives meaning to your journey. It transforms regret into clarity, and pain into purpose 💡

So don’t fear your past, but don't dwell on it either. Sit with it. Learn from it. Thank it (even for the difficult chapters) and then intentionally use those lessons to pave a path forward that feels more aligned, more conscious, and more true to you 💫

You are not defined by where you’ve been, but you are empowered by what you choose to carry forward, so only take what serves you and leave the rest behind...

It’s been a week since I returned from an incredible solo trip to Thailand, and I still riding high on the energetic wav...
12/04/2026

It’s been a week since I returned from an incredible solo trip to Thailand, and I still riding high on the energetic wave of the experiences I had. So in true Coach stylee, I have reflected and identified 5 key lessons I learnt travelling solo…

1. Even on ‘holiday’ I need structure: I book my trips and activities on day 1, so I know what I have coming up and when I can kick back and go with the flow.

2. Keeping up my self-care practices makes me feel grounded: I did yoga and meditated every morning; I journaled throughout each day, and watched my favourite YouTube channel before I slept every night (*she’s an incredible content creator)

3. I am never alone: Each day I engaged in micro-connections with so many different, wonderful people. On group trips I connected more deeply with people from distant parts of the world (and even from my local town). And for those moments when I was physically alone, spiritually I felt loved, protected and held by God/the Universe

4. The freedom of travelling solo feels indulgent: The freedom that comes from travelling alone – waking up when you want, eating when you want, going where you want, doing what you want, when you want - the freedom of choosing you in every moment, not having to compromise, adjust for, worry about and please others…feels like the ultimate luxury!

5. Travelling solo helps me build courage and self-belief: While I was in a relationship I felt safe, protected and contained by my partner. I didn’t have to be brave when we travelled, or to have 100% faith in myself, because I could hand over that responsibility/power to the person who was committed to caring for me. But now my primary relationship is the one I have with myself, and stepping out of my comfort zone and into the unknown has helped me rebuild my courage muscle, and in turn the faith I have in myself to navigate any challenges life brings my way.

So if you are thinking about going on a solo trip I would say “go for it!!”. You will learn so much about yourself, about people and this planet which we call home; and you will inevitably come back a stronger, wiser and braver version of who you are.

Do you know how powerful the emotion of COURAGE is? To step out of our comfort zones, into the unknown, to rely on faith...
10/04/2026

Do you know how powerful the emotion of COURAGE is? To step out of our comfort zones, into the unknown, to rely on faith in ourselves (or something bigger), to navigate the challenges that arise when facing anything new/unfamiliar - it's not for the faint-hearted, but it is essential if we are ever going to live life to our highest potential 🪜

The reason we find ourselves stuck or feeling underwhelmed with life, or out of alignment, is usually because we have been swimming in familiar waters for too long. If we want life to change, to attract something new, and to experience what we have set our hearts on, we need to be prepared to step into the unknown/unfamiliar, and allow the experience to teach us and shape us into someone new. This is how real expansion is activated, because courage expands our capacity for new, more aligned experiences by forcing us to learn, grow and adapt.

Courage is therefore the bridge between your current reality and the new life you are trying to create! 🌁

Where in your life are you finding yourself stuck, underwhelmed, feeling out of alignment?

What would a step into the unknown, towards courage, look like for you?

If you would like help crossing your bridge, drop me a DM and we can arrange a free consultation to help you explore if online transformational life coaching with me is right for you.

Nichola 🦉

At the tender age of 47yrs I feel I have a good grasp of who I am - what I like, don’t like; what’s important to me, wha...
09/04/2026

At the tender age of 47yrs I feel I have a good grasp of who I am - what I like, don’t like; what’s important to me, what isn’t; what resonates, what repels; what makes me feel alive, what depletes me…

I am also aware of the different facets to my personality - the person I am when I am parenting, is different to the person I am when I am coaching, or in a romantic relationship, or spending time with friends, or dealing with stress, or when I am at my most vulnerable – they are all different aspects of the whole that is me.

One of my favourite facets which often takes a back seat in the busyness of everyday life, is the Lil Explorer aspect of me (yes she wears a hat and has a rucksack lol). This part of me is curious and courageous, takes risks, does things that scare me, embraces new experiences, and is excited by the unfamiliar and the unpredictability of life. To step into this aspect of me (the near opposite of who I am in everyday life) feels like a breath of fresh air, it is invigorating, replenishing and allows me to surrender to life in a way my soul craves. And THIS is why I travel…because for a short period of time I get to be…HER!

What experiences allow you to step into different aspects of who you are….and what is your favourite?

09/02/2026

With Valentines Day just round the corner, there will be alot of single people out there feeling the dread of what is meant to be the most romantic day of the year 💖 but being single doesn’t need to suck...in fact it can be a gift if you allow it to be 🎁

How?

Because it offers a unique opportunity to focus on YOU and DO THE WORK needed to get ready for meeting your perfect match! After all like attracts like, and if you want someone amazing to come into your life, you need to ensure you can match them!

What WORK needs to be done? 🤔💭

🌱 Focus on Emotional Healing: Take the time to heal and grow from past experiences to avoid carrying over pain and trauma into a new relationship.

💖 Learn to Love Yourself: Self-love is the foundation for any future relationship, and for those who struggle to like, let alone love, themselves, it will be nearly impossible to attract the type of person who is going to give you what you ultimately need.

🌟 Discover Who You Are: Explore your passions, interests, values, your likes, dislikes, and true self. The loneliness of being single is often the catalyst we need to start connecting with ourselves on a deeper level. And when we know who we are we can then attract a more authentic match.

💼 Focus on the Other Pillars of Your Life: Career, hobbies, friendships – it’s the opportunity to get all your ducks in a row. Nobody is going to come into your life and make it amazing for you…anything they add is just a bonus.

💪 Build Independence & Resilience: Learning to create a life you can love and be proud of is one of the most empowering things you can do to build confidence, self-belief and 'bouncebackability'. Use this time to step into your highest potential instead of waiting for someone to come rescue you.

To read the full article head on over to the Blog link in my bio 🤓

06/02/2026

Ever feel like your mind has too many browser tabs open? 🧠💻

When our thoughts are swirling with to-do lists, "what-ifs," and lingering emotions, it creates a state of chronic mental fog and emotional heaviness.

Enter the Brain-Dump!! 🗑A simple, evidence-based tool to clear the clutter and bring you immediate emotional relief.

Why it works for your emotions...

1️⃣ Externalizes the Internal: When thoughts stay in your head, they feel abstract and overwhelming. Once they are on paper, they become objective data you can manage.

2️⃣ Reduces Cognitive Load: Your brain spends a massive amount of energy trying "not to forget" things. Writing them down signals to your nervous system that it can finally let go - great to do before bed!

3️⃣ Identifies the Real Stressor: Often, we feel overwhelmed, but a brain-dump reveals exactly what we are most anxious about, which we can then focus on resolving.

4️⃣ Interrupts the Rumination Loop: Writing forces your brain to process thoughts linearly rather than in circles. Once its out your head you don't need to keep coming back to the same old ideas.

How to do it (The 10-Minute Method):

✅️Grab a physical notebook or a blank piece of paper

✅️Set a timer for 10 minutes.

✅️Draw a stick figure in the middle to represent you, and a bubble around you. Colour inside the bubble whatever colour represents peace for you.

✅️Remind yourself that you are safe and nothing can come into your bubble that you do not allow in.

✅️On the outside of the bubble write down all the things stressing you out, fill the page if you need to

✅️Now take a step back and ask yourself "what do I actually need to deal with today"?

✅️Take a black pen and scribble out everything that doesnt need your time and attention today.

✅️Spend 5mins idenifying solutions for whatever is a priority
Once it’s all out, take a deep breath. You’ll likely feel a physical "lightness" in your chest.

You don't need a solution for every problem on your list right now; you just need to give them a place to live that isn't inside your head. 📝✨

Let’s get real for a second...life isn't always "blessings and sunshine!" Sometimes, life hands you a giant, steaming pi...
04/02/2026

Let’s get real for a second...life isn't always "blessings and sunshine!" Sometimes, life hands you a giant, steaming pile of 💩

When you’re in the middle of a breakup, a career setback, or a personal crisis, the last thing you want to hear is "everything happens for a reason." But there is a powerful mindset shift that can change everything...

I call it..."Finding the Diamond in the Turd!" 💎

This isn't about pretending the 💩 is wanted. It’s about acknowledging that some of our most valuable life lessons, strengths, and opportunities are wrapped in the messiest of packages 🎁✨

How to find the diamond?

1️⃣ Acknowledge the Mess: Don’t bypass the frustration. It’s okay to say, "This is totally 💩."

2️⃣ Shift to "Sage" Mode: Once the initial shock wears off, ask: "What is the hidden gift here, the learning opportunity?; how can this turd actually trigger a ripple effect that will end up benefitting me or others in the long run?"

3️⃣ Look for the Growth: Is this challenge forcing you to set a boundary you’ve avoided or raise your standards? Can it build a level of resilience you don't currently have? Is it clearing space for something better to enter? Or is it showing you what you actually want and need?

4️⃣ Extract the Value: Make the change, learn the lesson, adapt, evolve. Because the diamond is the strength and wisdom you get to take with you.

The "turd" stays in the past; but the diamond stays in your pocket forever 💎

The most resilient people aren't the ones who avoid the mess; they’re the ones who are willing to roll up their sleeves and look for the value hidden inside it.

What "turd" from your past actually turned out to have a diamond hidden within it? Share your story below—you never know who needs to hear it today. 👇

Inside every one of us, there are two primary voices 🗣️The first is the Judge/Inner Critic - the one that worries, criti...
02/02/2026

Inside every one of us, there are two primary voices 🗣️

The first is the Judge/Inner Critic - the one that worries, criticizes, and reacts out of fear and will cause you to spiral and become very reactive.

The second is the Sage/Higher Self - the part of you that is clear-headed, compassionate, and deeply wise. It’s the version of you that remains calm in a crisis and sees opportunity where the Judge sees failure. 🧘‍♂️✨

Tapping into your inner Sage isn't about becoming a different person; it’s about accessing the wisdom and resources you already have within you.

How to activate your Inner Sage?

1️⃣ Shift from "Why" to "What": Instead of asking "Why is this happening to me?" (Judge), ask "What is the gift or opportunity in this?" (Sage). Even the most difficult setbacks contain a lesson, a strength, or a new direction.

2️⃣ Practice Empathy: Start with yourself. When you mess up, how would the wisest, kindest person you know speak to you? Use that voice.

3️⃣ The 3-Breath Reset: When you feel a "hijack" coming on, pause. Take three deep breaths and focus entirely on the physical sensation of the air. This quiets the Judge and creates space for the Sage to speak.

4️⃣ Adopt the "Innovator" Mindset: When faced with a problem, the Sage doesn't stay stuck in the "problem" phase. It asks, "What are three ways I could move forwars from this?" and explores them without judgment.

The Sage knows that you are capable of handling whatever life throws at you. It doesn’t need things to be perfect; it just needs you to be present 🧘‍♀️

Try this today: The next time you feel stressed, ask yourself: "What would my Inner Sage say about this situation?" You might be surprised by how quickly you can get yourself unstuck and move forward 🚦

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