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29/05/2026

When survival becomes the priority, self-discovery usually disappears. Your brain just doesn’t see it as important when it’s working so hard to survive.

You stop asking all the questions you ask other people like, “what do you like to do or what do you do for fun?”

And start asking, “How do I keep everyone happy? How do I avoid conflict? How do I make sure I’m still needed?”

That’s why so many women feel disconnected from themselves in adulthood. You’re not broken, you’re not a failure and you’re certainly not a f**k up. You’ve spent years adapting instead of developing.

Healing is realizing you’re allowed to become a person again outside of survival mode.

Not just useful.

29/05/2026

A lot of women become deeply loved for what they provide… not deeply known for who they are.

So they become the therapist. The helper, the dependable one, the emotionally strong one.

And over time, their relationships start revolving around their usefulness instead of their humanity.

That’s why so many women feel lonely even when they’re surrounded by people. Because being needed and being known are not the same thing.

You deserve relationships where you don’t have to earn your place through self-sacrifice and you don’t have to abandon your life to get them. You’re allowed to change and grow within your life.

29/05/2026

A lot of women who were called “mature for their age” were never taught how to connect with themselves.

They were taught quite the opposite. They were taught how to be helpful, easy, responsible, emotionally self-sufficient. Basically they were taught how to benefit everyone else but themselves.

So they became experts at reading everyone else’s needs while slowly disconnecting from their own and that’s why so many women feel lost in adulthood.

Not because they’re failing or broken or a f**k up but because somewhere along the way, being loved became tied to being low-maintenance and putting others first.

If you’re learning who you are underneath survival mode and responsibility, you’re not alone here 🩶

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29/05/2026

You became so focused on surviving that you forgot life was supposed to feel like living too.

Some of you were praised for being “mature” when really you were just forced to carry too much too early.

Now you’re the dependable one and utterly exhausted.

Awareness is realizing that constantly holding everything together is not the same thing as being okay. Just because you can handle it doesn’t mean you should have to.

Maybe it’s time to stop asking, “What needs to get done?” And start asking, “What do I need?”

28/05/2026

Women have been sold the lie into a multi billion dollar self care industry. Now I’m not against wine or a bath as a lovely thing to do for yourself, what I am against is putting everyone else first all day, to the point where you don’t even exist in the equation, and then being promised that a bath will fix that. It won’t.

You need to treat the wound- start prioritising yourself in small, doable ways each and every day. I’ve found it’s really helped the women I’ve worked with to ask yourself, “would I treat my partner/ child/ sister like this?” If the answer is no, then you don’t do it to yourself.

Self abandonment is so quiet and sneaky that you don’t even realise you’re doing it. You’re just being helpful and reliable and then bam, your life doesn’t feel like your own. And we’re not doing that anymore x

27/05/2026

This is not something I want to pass down to my children. I always hear people saying they don’t want their daughters to feel like this and I think it’s so important that we teach our sons about it too. I don’t want either of them to grow up thinking this is how a woman should have to behave.

We all deserve to have dreams and hopes and sparkles and life is so much better when you’re in charge of where it’s going

26/05/2026

I finally found what I’m passionate about! I think I’ve always known to some degree- everything I’ve ever felt strongly about has circled around empowerment and living bravely and often yes focussed around women.

But it feels so good to say it out loud, and share it with you all. I am so passionate about women taking control of their lives, choosing things that make them glow and fizz with happiness and excitement and putting themselves first for a change. Life is not meant to be lived in perpetual grey boredom.

We’re not doing that anymore x

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25/05/2026

That quiet disappointment that your life hasn’t turned out how you wanted it to- you’re not where you thought you’d be. That’s how my client was feeling, and to be honest I know exactly how she felt. That grey flat feeling when you think about your future- you’re not where you want to be now so what makes you think it’ll be any different in the future?

Over the four weeks we worked through it all, I challenged her limiting beliefs and assumptions and she committed to prioritising herself and her dreams again. The difference in her from the beginning to the end of our work was mind blowing. She caught herself whenever she started talking negatively about herself- she started building herself up rather than knocking herself down and most importantly she dared to chase what she wanted. And she got it- she opened her business, she trusted she was capable and she was. That is by far the best bit of my job- seeing all those women realise their power and capability and claiming it. It is so inspiring and it makes me so proud to be a woman

If you’re ready to stop living in everyone else’s shadows, DM me “ready” and I’ll send over the details to get started

24/05/2026

Being the reliable one felt like my whole personality for years and I was good at it. Really good. I showed up, sorted things out, held it together. Nobody ever had to worry about me. Thinking back, I’ve always done it like this- I hate asking for help and cannot bear the fuss- I’ll just get it done.

The only problem was that I stopped worrying about myself. It felt selfish, unimportant and to be entirely honest a bit impossible to worry about myself. I got so good at being needed and being helpful that I forgot I was allowed to have needs. I was so good at being there for everyone else, I forgot to be there for myself.

And when someone finally asked me what I actually wanted — not what the kids needed, not what would be easiest, not what made sense — I had nothing. Complete blankets followed by a minor breakdown that I was boring as s**t with nothing to say.

That’s what chronic self abandonment looks like from the inside. Not dramatic or obvious, just a slow quiet replacement of who you are with what you do for everyone else.

If you know what I’m talking about- you’re not broken, you’re not a f**k up and you’re definitely not weak. You just forgot to factor yourself in to your own life and you can choose to come back to yourself.

We deserve more x

23/05/2026

I may have had one or two pimms before this but I stand by what I say. Babies are loved for just existing- they don’t have to be useful or productive and let’s be honest, a lot of the time they’re really hard work!!! And yet they’re loved just for being themselves.

You deserve to be loved in the same way- you do not have to earn love through being useful or productive. Your identity is yours and being productive is something you do. You don’t need to replace one with the other.

We deserve more x

22/05/2026

You can be highly functioning and still feel completely disconnected from yourself. A lot of women weren’t taught to build an identity, they were taught to be useful, needed, reliable and selfless.

So eventually their personality becomes responsibility and when you’re praised all the time for that, it can be hard to admit you’re drowning inside it.

And from the outside, it looks like they’re doing everything “right” — but internally they feel numb, lost, resentful or unsure who they even are anymore.

That’s not failure.
That’s years of self-abandonment.

The good news?
You can come back to yourself.

What’s one thing you used to love that you stopped making space for?

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