Jo Irvin - Counsellor/Therapist

07/05/2026

Want to know how I work in therapy with couples? ….

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I place three chairs opposite me. Why three you might ask ?

Well, here’s the work….

Most couples argue from their own chair.
From their pride
From their hurt
Their need to be right

But the moment that happens, both people start to defend themselves instead of protecting the relationship.

Good relationships happen when two people stand up from their own chairs and sit in the third one together.

Not asking ‘Who’s right?’
But asking ‘What does our relationship need right now?’

Because your real enemy in a relationship isn’t your partner.
It’s the distance that grows when both people fight for themselves instead of for the relationship.

Most couples learn this too late.
The strongest ones learn it early.

06/05/2026

Life is too short to stay where you’re not nourished.
If the table you’re sitting at isn’t feeding you—mind, growth, or peace—I hope you can find the courage to move to one that does.” ❤️

09/04/2026

Loyalty isn't loud.
It's proven in rooms you never enter.

Not everyone who smiles with you
will speak up for you.

That's the quiet loyalty test.

It's not about who shows up at your celebration.
It's about who says your name in a closed room
when there's nothing in it for them.

No audience. No reward. No reciprocity.

Just a choice.

Most people have a full circle.
Few have a loyal one.

The difference lives in moments you'll never see:

1. When your name comes up and they could stay silent.

2. When credit is being assigned and you're not there.

3. When someone questions your ability
and they push back.

4. When an opportunity surfaces
and they say your name first.

You won't always know it happened.
Sometimes you find out years later.
Sometimes never.

But those are the ones who matter.

Surround yourself with those who fight for you in rooms you aren’t in.

Not because it's easy.
Not because they'll get credit.
But because they believe in you that much.

Share this to remind others: loyalty isn't loud,
it's proven in the rooms you never enter.

05/02/2026

Time to Talk,’ they say… is it?
How do we tell someone else when it’s time for them to talk?

People speak when they feel safe, heard, and not judged.

It’s up to all of us to notice when someone might be struggling — when they’re quieter than usual, withdrawing, skipping social plans, or sleeping more.

Notice. Check in. Ask: Are you okay? What do you need?

Let’s stop telling people it’s time to talk, and start telling ourselves it’s time to listen.

Because real, honest, deep conversations can literally save lives.” ❤️

03/01/2026

15/12/2025

Christmas isn’t joyful for everyone.
If this season brings sadness, grief, loneliness, or complicated feelings, you’re not broken—you’re human.
You’re allowed to feel what you feel, even when the world tells you to be merry. 🎄

08/10/2025

✨ Healthy Relationships Are Built, Not Found ✨
Relationships aren’t perfect — they’re living, evolving connections between imperfect people.
They require communication, patience, boundaries, and the courage to grow both together and individually.
If you’ve ever felt like your relationships should “just work” without effort, you’re not alone. That’s a common myth — but the truth is: deep, fulfilling connection is intentional.
💬 Listen with curiosity, not defensiveness
🧠 Speak your truth with kindness
💛 Make room for both closeness and individuality
Whether you're navigating romantic partnerships, friendships, or family bonds, remember: growth takes time — and love doesn't mean losing yourself.
You are worthy of safe, nourishing connection. Always.

08/10/2025

Vulnerability isn’t weakness.
It’s courage in its rawest form.
In therapy, I don’t ask clients to "be strong"—
I ask them to be real.
To show up messy. Uncertain. Honest. Human.

That’s where the healing happens.
Not in perfection, but in permission—to feel, to speak, to be seen.

Every time a client lets their guard down, even just a little, I see bravery.
And I remind them:
You don’t have to have it all together to start getting better.

05/10/2025

Remind yourself when you die, your ‘in basket’ won’t be empty.

17/08/2025

Now make yours ♥️

14/08/2025

“Sometimes, a client isn’t resisting change, they’re just terrified that if they grow, they’ll lose the people who only knew their survival version”.

Wow 😮

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