08/07/2026
*THE DEEPER UNADDRESSED OLD TRAUMA*
A man marries a woman. From the start they have great hopes of making it in life - if the relationship is not forced because of an unplanned pregnancy.
Somewhere along the way the marriage fails to work. The husband and wife separate and go different ways. Nothing formal nothing official just casual unceremonious parting of ways. I don't blame them.
However, either because of ignorance or pride the couple only cares about their welfare.
The children get caught in the crossfire of a fight they know nothing about. The damage/trauma they sustain lives with them for the rest of their lives. It affects them irreparably deeply. They will be emotionally numb. They will lack the ability to sustain careers, relationships and even businesses. They will experience a low frustration tolerance threshold. They will lack empathy. They will try to the emotional emptiness/void by indulging in unbecoming behavior as a coping mechanisms. Is your son or daughter undisciplined in school? Is he in crime and drugs? Has he chosen to be gay, le***an or refuses to get married or to marry. Does s/he hop from one relationship to the next? Are they suicidal? Don't look for the cause of these problems very far. Look at the toxicity of the home environment because the apple doesn't fall very far from the tree.
The moment the parents realize the kind of damage they're causing the future husbands, wives, employees, business partners of other people, they'll not be in a hurry or selfish to sacrifice the future emotional stability of their children in the altar of happier greener relationship. They will look for ways and means of mitigating the damage of their future adults. We have so many angry and bitter people both men and women roaming around wounded, sick and hurting. They are bleeding on people who never hurt.
Before you entangle yourself in your next relationship please take time to examine where your partner is coming from, the quarry from which she/he been dug. Ask from which dump site she was collected. Don't admire the dimples, and the gap between the teeth. Looks can be very deceptive.
The strangest things of is the person doesn't understand himself/herself. You think the other person is the problem or the cause of it. What if both of you are a pair of ignorant damaged goods? Can you imagine the damage you would inflict on each other and on children and colleagues who never hurt you.
Before you rush to dismiss a relationship, seek therapy. Before you hastily enter into a relationship seek therapy.
*Written by
*Kamau Muchira Macharia*
A *counseling psychologist and* *certified professional mediator*
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