Nurture Beyond Baby

22/01/2026

07/10/2024

The "roommate phase" is real, and it sneaks up on new parents faster than you think. It's that moment when you and your partner go from lovers to living like housemates—just managing schedules, chores, and keeping your baby alive. Romance? Intimacy? They take a backseat. And if you’re not careful, this phase can pull you apart.

I’m telling you now: you *can’t* afford to take it easy. A strong, lasting relationship thrives on connection, and yes—s*x. Intimacy isn't just about the physical; it's about keeping that spark alive, staying emotionally in tune, and remembering why you fell in love in the first place. Don’t let the "roommate phase" become your new normal.

It’s easy to get caught up in survival mode, but making an effort to reconnect with your partner is vital. Set aside time for each other, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day, and don’t shy away from getting physical. It’s not a luxury; it’s a necessity for a happy, healthy relationship that can weather the ups and downs of parenthood.

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

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26/09/2024

Trying to be intimate with your partner while raising a newborn? It’s a challenge, no doubt. Between sleepless nights and all the new responsibilities, finding the time and energy can feel impossible. We get it. Being interrupted during those *rare* s*xy moments isn’t exactly fun, and when one of you has to run off to soothe the baby, it can feel like, "Why even bother starting?"

But trust me, it’s *worth* it. Keeping your intimate life alive is more than just good for your well-being—it’s a cornerstone of your relationship. Once intimacy slips, that disconnect isn’t far behind, and no one wants that. The couples who make it through the chaos prioritize their s*x life, no matter how crazy things get.

So, forget the laundry, let the dishes sit, turn off Netflix, and get under those sheets. You’ll thank me later. And if the baby monitor goes off? Laugh about it. These days of constant interruptions won’t last forever, and soon enough, you’ll have that uninterrupted time together again.

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

22/09/2024

Having kids flips your world upside down—especially your relationship.
Your love grows, sure, but with sleepless nights and a million things to juggle, intimacy can fall to the bottom of the list.
But here's the truth: that connection with your partner?
It's everything.
Not just for you, but for your kids too. A strong bond makes a loving home, and while you're both changing as parents, don’t forget to stay connected. It takes work, but keeping the spark alive is worth it.

With loge and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

07/09/2024

Remember when you and your partner used to stay up all night talking, sharing your dreams, ideas, and plans for the future? When did that stop? These days, it's so easy to fall into the trap of endless scrolling or watching TV—especially when you're sleep-deprived and just trying to get through the day as new parents. But here’s the thing: those distractions aren’t just stealing time away from your connection with your kids, they’re quietly eroding your connection with each other.

Phones and screens can be a major relationship killer if you’re not careful. When was the last time you had a real, uninterrupted conversation with your partner? Not just without kids in the room, but without the constant buzz of notifications or the pull of a Netflix binge? When did you last ask deep questions, share your vulnerable thoughts, or just be present together?

If it feels awkward at first, that’s normal—it might even feel like you’re talking to a stranger. But that’s exactly why you need it. So, here’s your reminder: leave the phones at home, go out into nature, and just reconnect. You’ll be amazed at how much you’ve missed and how much closer you’ll feel. Make this a priority—your relationship is worth it.

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

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03/09/2024

I’ve been there myself… Every time I had a new baby, there was a period where I completely lost myself. I wasn’t my old self, but I also didn’t quite know who this new self was. It’s that in-between time that feels confusing and uncomfortable. And honestly, that was always when my relationship with my partner felt the hardest.

It makes sense, right? How can I feel connected in my relationship when I don’t even know how to connect with myself? But it’s okay, mama. This is normal. Motherhood—and discovering that new you—is a journey, and it can take a while. For me, it took two years to step into that stronger, better, bigger version of myself.

Here’s my tip: write down what made you uniquely you before you became a mama. What were your hobbies, interests, and passions? Then, pick one thing you’d like to reconnect with. Make it a priority, carve out time for it, and let your partner know how important it is for you to pursue this part of yourself.

Maybe it’s as simple as starting to read books again, exercising for 15 minutes a day, going for walks a few times a week, writing poems, or playing music. Whatever it is, choose something that reminds you of a part of yourself that you truly enjoyed. And of course, talk to your partner about your feelings so he can support you in finding this new, upgraded version of yourself.

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

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27/08/2024

It’s been a while since you’ve been intimate, and avoiding the issue only makes things worse. For many women, emotional connection is key to physical intimacy. So, if you’re dodging intimacy, ask yourself—what’s really going on?

Are you spending quality time together? Do you feel seen and valued, or is there unspoken resentment? Avoiding the conversation won’t make the elephant disappear—it only makes it grow.

Here’s your nudge: talk to your partner. Be open, reconnect, and work together to reignite that spark.

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝💓

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13/08/2024

What activities or rituals do you and your partner prioritize to keep the spark alive in your relationship? Share your creative ideas below!

31/07/2024

The key to surviving the wild ride of parenting is teamwork!!
You are like a dynamic duo, tackling challenges side by side.
And trust me when I say, even the most prepared parents will stumble upon some challenges.
Mama just went through an incredible journey and needs extra rest and support.
And dads, we see you too! You're amazing for juggling emotional support for her, household and taking care of the other kids. We hope you got a few weeks off of work?!

For both of you, make sure you prioritize self-care and make sure you both get enough sleep, nourishing food and some well-deserved breaks. Give each other little moments to recharge and reflect.

Ask for help from friends, family, or if you can hire some outside help with daily chores and sibling care. It takes a village, right?

These first few weeks, the "4th trimester," are an incredibly special time for bonding and creating beautiful memories as a family. Make this baby bubble as blissful as possible!

Having a baby is the ultimate challenge for a couple.
Balance between you two is important.
If one parents feels they carry too much of the load it can lead to resentment and destroy your beautiful and so important connection.

My tip: Have daily 10 min check ins with each other to see how you both feel and what you need today to feel supported by your partner.
We still can’t read minds right?
Remember, you two are the foundation of your family❤️

With love and support, Ilka Bee 🐝 💗

30/07/2024

Last night, my partner and I had a magical moment!

Amidst the chaos of sick kiddos, family drama, and the everyday hustle and bustle, we finally stole some alone time.

Intimacy, our relationship "glue," plays a vital role in keeping us connected. Snuggles, physical touch, and even adventurous moments bring us closer. There's something truly magical about that bond.

After our blissful encounter, we found ourselves cuddling naked in bed for a whole hour. It's a rare occurrence, usually interrupted by our kids. We even had an impromptu brainstorming session. Naked entrepreneurs, why not? It was so much fun.

Intimacy has always been at the core of our relationship, especially with three little ones, businesses, and the chaos of life. Finding that special connection that brings you closer together is key.

Your "relationship glue" can be anything from walks to cooking together or dancing like nobody's watching. Discover what works uniquely for you both.

But here's the secret ingredient: make it a priority! With a house full of kids, finding time for anything other than taking care of them can be a challenge. Carve out that space for each other intentionally.

And when it comes to intimacy, scheduling it, putting it on the calendar, or keeping it at the top of your priority list is a game-changer.

As my hubby said last night, "Making love to you is on top of my list." Well said, my love.

All you power parent couples, what's your secret ingredient, your "relationship glue"? Share it with me!

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