24/08/2026
🚨 ladies, if he is doing these things while you are dating, don't assume marriage will magically change him
Ladies, please don't keep telling yourself:
“Maybe he will stop beating me when he marries me.”
“Maybe he will stop cheating after we get married.”
“Maybe marriage will make him more responsible.”
“Maybe when we have children, he will change.”
Marriage is not a rehabilitation centre.
If someone is repeatedly showing you violence, cheating, manipulation, disrespect or other harmful behaviour while dating, don't build your future around the hope that marriage will transform them.
People can change, but genuine change should be visible before you make a lifelong commitment—not something you are forced to wait for after marriage.
❤️ Don't marry someone's potential while ignoring their present behaviour.
Pay attention to what they consistently do, not only what they promise they will do.
And if someone is physically abusing you, please don't stay simply because you believe marriage will make things better. Your safety comes first.