18/05/2026
Dear Igbo women,
After my previous post, I have seen many reactions from men who were disappointed by some comments made online by a few Igbo women defending obvious wrongs.
This is wrong and as an Igbo woman, I am embarrassed by these women.
Sadly, many of those comments seem driven by social media engagement and the desperate need for attention, sales, or validation.
That should never come before values and common sense.
First of all, the opinions of a few women online do not represent all Igbo women. We should be careful not to generalize an entire tribe because of viral comments from social media.
Secondly, let us be honest with ourselves. Men's polygamy did not start today and it has always existed in Igbo culture. So it shouldn't be an excuse to cheat in marriage as a woman.
In those days, wealthy men married multiple wives and society normalized it.
Is it fair to women? No.
Do many women like it? No.
But pretending it never existed because of Western influence would also be dishonest.
That said, cheating and betrayal in marriage should not be tolerated by any gender.
Sandra made a mistake. If the marriage became unbearable, she should have walked away instead of handling things the way she did.
She's not the only wife to support her husband. I support my husband too, but if a situation gets to a point I can no longer tolerate, I would rather leave peacefully than create damage that affects my children’s future and public image.
Like it or not, society often judges children based on the actions of their parents.
At the same time, I also blame Frank for allegedly bringing this issue fully to social media. No matter the pain or betrayal, their children should have been protected from this level of public embarrassment because the internet never forgets.
Sandra may move on eventually, but the stigma attached to this situation may follow those children for years.
As for Chike, he crossed a line and broke every code of respect that should exist between men, so the backlash against him is not surprising.
Honestly, all three adults played a role in this mess in different ways.
But the real innocent people here are the children.
They did not deserve the public drama, the embarrassment, or the emotional burden that comes with all of this.
That is the only side I truly stand with.
