11/09/2026
THE SACRED ROLE OF WOMEN IN SHONA SPIRITUALITY - PART 3
You Can Calm Your Nervous System - But What Holds You?
Many of you are already doing the work.
You meditate.
You breathe.
You practise yoga.
You receive Reiki.
You attend sound baths.
You work with grounding, embodiment, energy, intuition and nervous-system regulation. And there is nothing about learning these practices that requires you to abandon them when you encounter Shona spirituality. In fact, there is an interesting question we can place alongside all of them:
What is your practice anchored in? Modern spirituality often places enormous emphasis on the individual:
- My healing.
- My vibration.
- My energy.
- My intuition.
-My manifestation.
- My nervous system.
Shona spirituality can introduce another dimension: Relationship.
- Relationship with lineage.
- Relationship with land.
- Relationship with water.
- Relationship with spiritual forces.
- Relationship with community.
- Relationship with obligations.
- Relationship with the unseen world.
And importantly, not all of those relationships are ancestral. This is one of the biggest misunderstandings I want to challenge.
Shona spirituality is not simply: “Connect with your ancestors and everything will be fine.” No.
Ancestors occupy an important place, but they are not the highest or only spiritual reality. There are forces and beings beyond human lineage.
- There are mashavi [alien spirits].
- There are mhondoro [ territorial spirits/forces].
- There are water spirits.
- There are territorial forces.
- There are spiritual messengers.
- There are natural and elemental dimensions of spiritual existence.
There are also people who become masvikiro [spirit mediums] through whom particular spiritual relationships are expressed. So, when I talk about the feminine as a spiritual force, I am not telling you to replace your meditation cushion with an ancestor altar.
I am asking you to expand your spiritual map.
Your meditation can remain meditation. Your yoga can remain yoga. Your breathwork can remain breathwork. Your Reiki can remain Reiki. Your sound bath can remain a sound bath.
But perhaps you can begin asking: What relationship surrounds this practice?
What grounds me?
What protects me?
What am I opening myself to?
What responsibilities come with that opening?
Am I simply consuming spiritual experiences, or am I entering into relationship with something?
That distinction is important. Because from a Shona perspective, spirituality is not necessarily about endlessly opening yourself to whatever feels expansive. Discernment matters.
- Not every spirit is yours.
- Not every experience is a message.
- Not every sensation is an activation.
- Not every dream is an instruction.
- Not every water experience means you have a water spirit.
And not every difficult experience means you need to “raise your vibration.”
- Sometimes you need grounding.
- Sometimes you need boundaries.
- Sometimes you need to stop.
- Sometimes you need to understand the spiritual relationship before you attempt to deepen it.
And this brings us back to women.
The feminine spiritual presence we have explored across these three posts gives us multiple ways of thinking about protection, continuity, wisdom and relationship.
- The maternal line gives us the image of mbereko [the womb, the place from which you came].
- The Machembere [the wise elder women in the spiritual realm] remind us of feminine authority within family and lineage.
- The women who hold the household remind us that protection does not always look like confrontation.
- The women associated with Mushavi [spiritual provision] remind us that spiritual messengers are not exclusively male.
- The women who held the camp during war remind us that protection can be quiet, sustained and fierce.
And the water spirits take us beyond human ancestry altogether, into another dimension of feminine spiritual power. That is why I resist reducing all of this to the modern phrase “Divine Feminine.” It sounds beautiful. But it can become too vague.
Shona spirituality gives us specific relationships, specific categories and specific responsibilities.
And that specificity is where much of the depth lies. So, honour the feminine. But do not flatten her. Do not turn every feminine spirit into a manifestation of “goddess energy.” Do not turn every water spirit into an aesthetic. Do not turn every ancestor into a personal spirit guide. And do not assume that because something feels peaceful, beautiful or high-vibrational, it is automatically good for you.
- Learn the difference.
- Learn the relationships.
- Learn the boundaries.
- Learn the cosmology.
Because spirituality becomes much deeper when we stop asking only:
“What can this do for me?” and begin asking: “What relationship am I entering, and what does that relationship require of me?”
That is a very different spiritual question. And perhaps this is where the modern and the traditional can meet.
You can regulate your nervous system.
You can meditate.
You can breathe.
You can sit in silence.
You can listen to the sound bowl.
You can work with energy.
And you can still discover an older spiritual map beneath your feet.
One that says:
- You did not arrive here alone.
- You came through a womb.
- You came through relationships.
- You came through land.
- You came through water.
- You came through a living spiritual world.
.........and the feminine has been standing within that world all along.
Reconnect. Respect. Discern. Align.