VCCPC Medical Services Unit

14/10/2026

Pain becomes trauma when no one is there to help a child carry it. That's the truth behind Dr. Gabor Maté's words, and it's a truth that shapes how we should treat every child who has gone through hardship.

Every child deserves someone who listens, understands, and walks with them through the hard parts.

14/10/2026

Hearing your child scream “I hate you” can be painful, but those words don’t always reflect how they truly feel about you.

Children are still developing emotional regulation, impulse control, and communication skills. When emotions become overwhelming, accessing those skills gets harder, and frustration may come out as words they don’t fully mean.

Sometimes “I hate you” means “I’m furious,” “I feel powerless,” or “I’m disappointed.” Sometimes children are genuinely upset with us, and we need to listen to that too.

How we respond matters.

💗 Try not to take every hurtful statement personally, even when it stings.
💗 Stay as calm as you can and acknowledge the feeling without accepting hurtful behavior.
💗 Wait until your child is calmer before expecting problem-solving or an apology.
💗 Help them identify what they felt and practice a better way to communicate it.

You might say, “I understand you’re angry with me, and it’s okay to feel that way, but we need to find a different way to express that anger.”

Then actually teach them how. Children won’t automatically know what to do instead just because we tell them to use better words. Offer phrases such as “I’m really upset,” “I disagree with you,” or “I need some space.” Practice taking a breath, stepping away safely, asking for help, or coming back to talk when they’re ready.

These skills are easier to learn during calm moments and become more accessible with repeated practice.

We can hold boundaries, address hurtful words, and expect accountability while remembering that our children are still learning how to handle big feelings.

The goal isn’t to raise children who never get angry with us. It’s to raise children who know their anger can be heard, their behavior can be guided, and our love remains steady through both. 💗

28/09/2026

28/09/2026

We spend so much time teaching our kids how to BE a good friend, but we forget to teach them what a BAD friend looks like.

And they need to know. Before the hurt comes. Before they start thinking this behavior is normal.

Teach them this checklist early:

A bad friend tries to change you instead of accepting you.
They ignore your "no" and your boundaries.
They tease you in a way that hurts, and call it "just a joke."
They demand your attention only on their terms.
They turn everything into a competition.
They only show up when they need something.
They are nice in private and mean in public.
They pressure you into things that don't feel right in your belly.
They laugh at your dreams.
They get jealous instead of cheering for you.

Tell them: Real friendship doesn't make you feel small, anxious, or exhausted. Real friendship feels safe. It feels kind. It feels mutual.

And it's okay to walk away from a friendship that constantly hurts. That doesn't make you mean, it makes you wise.

28/09/2026

Sharing meals together gives families a simple way to connect and check in with their children. These daily conversations build trust and ensure that young people feel heard and valued.

Promoting meaningful family time directly aligns with the Juvenile Justice and Welfare Council advocacy for positive child-rearing.

Make it a point to share a meal with your family today.

22/09/2026

22/09/2026

It’s so easy in the moment to react to the mess, the inconvenience, the interruption, especially when we’re already tired, overstimulated, or trying to get a hundred other things done, but our children are often looking at our faces before they even look at what they spilled.

They are learning from that moment, not just whether milk belongs on the floor, but what mistakes feel like, whether accidents make them unsafe, whether they should panic when something goes wrong, and whether they can trust us to help without shaming them.

🩷 The spill can be cleaned.
🩷 The cup can be refilled.
🩷 The floor can be wiped.
🩷 The moment can become a lesson without becoming a wound.

That does not mean we never feel frustrated, and it does not mean we have to pretend every mess is adorable, it means remembering that the way we respond teaches more than the cleanup ever will.

We can say, “Oops, accidents happen, let’s clean it up together,” and still teach responsibility, we can help them slow down, we can show them how to fix what happened, and we can do all of that without making them feel like they are the problem.

Because in the end, the milk is temporary, but the way a child feels in our presence can stay with them for a very long time.

21/09/2026

20/09/2026

Walang mukha o kasarian ang HIV at AIDS.

Mahalagang malaman ang HIV status para maagap na pagkuha ng serbisyong makatutulong sa pag-manage nito.

Hatid ng DOH ang libreng:
✅Combination prevention method (condoms, lubricant, at PrEP)
✅HIV screening at confirmatory testing
✅Antiretroviral therapy
✅Mental health at psychosocial support

Alamin ang mga serbisyo para sa ‘yo: tinyurl.com/HIVTreatmentHubs






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