27/02/2026
This important aspect obviously doesn’t exclude the responsibility from the abusers’ side but points to an even deeper issue within our Western society:
The Epstein files keep resurfacing – and each time, the world is outraged anew.
Outraged at men. At money. At corruption.
But beneath the headlines – beneath the wealth and spectacle – lurks a quieter and more uncomfortable truth that we rarely name…
We live in a world that has always permitted the ruling class of men to objectify women and use them for ornamentation, service, or s*x.
And this conditioning runs so very deep in our society that neither men nor women, parents nor families, question its validity.
We tend to imagine that the greatest protection we can offer our girls is innocence. But innocence, as this culture defines it, often means disconnection.
We teach girls to be polite before we teach them to be perceptive.
To be pleasing before they are allowed to be self-aware.
To override the signals of their own bodies in order to keep adults comfortable.
The problem is not that girls are taught too much about the body. It is that they are taught too little about their own authority within it.
A child who can feel her body – who can recognize tightening, hesitation, curiosity, delight, or dread – possesses an internal compass.
But when we moralize sensation, when we shame curiosity, and when we reward compliance over self-trust, a girl learns to doubt what she feels.
She becomes easier to persuade out of her own knowing.
So it follows that a predator does not depend on secrecy alone. A predator depends on the fact that our girls have been taught NOT to trust their own bodies.
In fact, the most protective factor against s*xual exploitation is not modesty, or chastity, or any measure of self-restraint. It is a state of embodied awareness.
Because a child who can sense: that feels wrong. Or, my stomach tightened. Or, I want to leave…is already much harder to manipulate.
Again and again, our culture convinces girls to override those sensations.
To be polite, and nice, and not make a scene.
So a girl does not think, something is wrong. She thinks: I AM wrong. And that is the psychological opening.
When I say girls should know their pleasure, many people hear “s*xualizing children.” But I am speaking about something entirely different.
Pleasure is not just or**sm. It is the nervous system registering safety, curiosity, aliveness. And importantly, the ability to detect contraction.
Children who are given bodily autonomy at an early age, trust themselves.
Even without sophisticated language skills, they know when they want to come closer and when they want to step back.
The problem is that instead of granting them permission to believe their perception, we teach compliance first and self-knowledge last.
So predators do not have to invent vulnerability. They are handed it by a society founded on patriarchal values.
A girl who has been trained to abandon her own sensation becomes governable. A woman who trusts her sensation becomes sovereign.
The Epstein story continues to strike a cultural nerve because it confronts something we’d prefer to keep hidden: we do not teach our girls that they can refuse adults.
That they do not owe politeness.
That they do not owe access.
That their internal signals are the final word.
Pleasure, in its deepest sense, is the nervous system recognizing truth.
And when a woman of any age learns to inhabit that place of heightened awareness? She can finally choose – what she welcomes, what she refuses, and what she will no longer abandon herself to.
Too often, my work is mistaken for erotic performance.
But what I teach is leagues deeper and far more subversive than that.
In reality, it is the reclamation of a woman’s internal compass – the steady return of intuition as her primary authority.
Which makes some people uneasy.
Because a woman or girl who can clock desire, revulsion, boundary, instinct – is very difficult to control. In relationships. In families. In workplaces. And yes, even in economies.
So this conversation isn’t solely about evil men, though wrongdoing matters deeply.
It’s about a system of disembodiment.
A culture of numbness.
And how sovereignty begins when a woman learns to feel again.
