18/06/2026
Neurodiversity and Avoidance 🧝🏼♀️
When I am around neurotypical humans I reflect on how we are navigating life in different ways. I very often seek to avoid unpleasant stimuli in everyday life that I know will be costly for me, in other words if I am going to do something I have to calculate if I have the energy to do something and - if I do - if I have enough left for what I need to do later.
I remember my ex-husband used to complan that I would always make things as easy as possible, and back then I could not explain why I did that. But now I know it is a protective mechanism.
The way I see it, avoidance is not a disfunctional behaviour (it can be sometimes of course), but a clever mechanism that is needed to stay well. Neurotypical humans typically don’t need to pace themselves like this and we therefore prioritise things differently.
Any fellow neurospicy humans who can relate? 🌶