Pregnancy Loss Coaching

18/05/2026

One of the reasons I practice The Grief Recovery Method is because grief is a universal language.

I can support over 40 different types of loss through this work, because grief is not limited to death alone.

Many people think grief only applies to losing someone we love. But in reality, grief can also come through:

• Pregnancy & infant loss
• Loss of identity
• Caregiver burnout
• Anxiety & emotional overwhelm
• Relationship changes
• Family trauma
• The loss of who we once were

Invisible grief is still real grief.

Grief is also not only emotional.

It lives in the body,
nervous system,
relationships,
identity,
and everyday moments.

Sometimes we do not realise how much we are carrying until our body begins responding differently, or until we finally feel safe enough to slow down and truly listen.

What many people truly need is not to be “fixed.”

They need support to feel less stuck.
To be safely held.
Deeply seen.
And compassionately supported through what they are carrying.

At the heart of grief work is this:
helping people feel less alone in their humanity. 🤍

This testimonial reminded me again why this work matters so deeply to me because compassionate support can create space not only for healing, but for deeper self-understanding too.

17/05/2026

When my client Angela recently shared a public shoutout about our work together, it beautifully illuminated a profound truth: grief is a universal language.

While much of my public advocacy centers on supporting mothers and fathers through the heartbreak of pregnancy and infant loss, I support Anqi during a difficult season after her grandmother passed.

"Grief is often invisible, deeply felt, and held not just mentally but physically as well."

Her words reminded me how important it is to open the doors wider. How grief work and conversations have helped her process the different seasons of our life, reminding us that grief quietly shapes how we respond to stress, carry physical tension, and move through life.

The gentle, trauma-informed space I hold isn’t just for one specific type of heartbreak. It is for anyone navigating the deep, invisible pain of losing someone they love.

Whether you are
a mum or dad navigating pregnancy loss,
a spouse learning to walk alone as you lose someone who shared your daily life and dreams,
a child mourning a parent or grandparent who anchored your world,
a friend holding onto memories,
or someone deeply grieving the loss of a loyal pet who gave you unconditional love and whose silent absence leaves a massive void.
your pain deserves to be seen.

None of us can escape loss in this lifetime. But we do not have to carry the emotional overwhelm, the physical tension, and the heavy silence alone.

Sometimes people hesitate to seek coaching because they think, "My loss isn’t the 'right' kind of loss,"or
"Others have it worse."
I want to gently tell you, If your heart is hurting, your grief is valid.

The somatic and heart-centered space I provide is a safe container for all forms of bereavement.

It takes immense courage to welcome your thoughts and feelings exactly as they are. When we begin to normalise grief in all its shapes and forms, we learn how to hold one another with greater intention, presence and care.

No matter who you are grieving, your pain doesn't need a "quick fix." It needs space, awareness, and immense compassion.

If you are ready to honour your inner experience and find a safe container to process your thoughts and emotions, my door is open to you. 🤍

09/05/2026

Featured in Singapore’s The Straits Times this Mother’s Day, speaking for the invisible mums — mothers who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss, yet are often unseen in conversations around motherhood.

Mother’s Day can bring a quiet ache that is difficult to explain. While the world celebrates, many women carry grief silently behind smiles, wondering where they belong.

Grief is not only emotional; it lives in the body too. It can show up as anxiety, hypervigilance, numbness, exhaustion, shame, or feeling disconnected from oneself and others.

In the article, I share about the importance of supporting grief through both somatic and cognitive approaches — helping bereaved mothers process not just their thoughts, but also the emotions and stress responses held within the body.

This is the work I hold close to my heart: creating safe spaces for women and families navigating loss, so they feel less alone in a world that often moves on too quickly from invisible grief.

To every invisible mum reading this — your love, your motherhood and your grief matter. 🤍

Read the article here:
https://www.straitstimes.com/life/mum-advocates-pregnancy-loss-coach-helps-invisible-mums-who-feel-anxiety-guilt-and-shame

This pregnancy loss coach felt a calling to help others, having lost three babies herself. Read more at straitstimes.com. Read more at straitstimes.com.

09/05/2026

To the mother the world might forgot to include today.

You didn’t get flowers this morning.
No one made you a card.
But you are a mother.

🧡 You are a mother if you lost your baby at six weeks, before anyone else even knew.

💛 You are a mother if you made it to the second trimester, and then silence.

❤️ You are a mother if your baby was born still — perfect, and gone.

💙 You are a mother if you made the most painful decision of your life, out of love, through TFMR.

💜 You are a mother if your embryos never made it.

💚 You are a mother if you survived cycle after cycle of IVF and are still waiting.

🤎 You are a mother if you had an ectopic, a chemical pregnancy, a blighted o**m, a molar pregnancy.

🩶 You are a mother if you held your baby in the NICU for days that felt like a lifetime.

🤍 You are a mother if your baby came home, and then was gone.

🩵 You are a mother if you are still in the wait — hoping, grieving, trying again.

🩷 You are a mother if your arms are empty and your heart is full of someone the world never got to meet.

Motherhood begins with love.
Not with a birth certificate.
Not with a living child.
Not with anyone else’s permission.
Your baby was real.
Your love was real.
Your grief is real.
And this day, as painful as it is — belongs to you too. 🤍

If no one has said it to you today,
let me say it now:
Happy Mother’s Day.
I see you.
I honour you.
And I am holding space for you today.

📖 I’ve written a blog for bereaved mothers navigating this day, DM me if you like the link

Love,
Vernessa Chuah

07/05/2026

There is power in putting words
to what feels impossible to say.

The grief.
The dreams you carried.
The hopes that were quietly forming.
The future you imagined.

When emotions stay unspoken,
they often remain heavy, tangled, and held inside.

But when you begin to name them,
through words, through scribbles, through tears on a page, something softens.

Not because the pain disappears,
but because you are no longer carrying it alone within yourself.

Journaling is not about writing beautifully.
It is not about making sense of everything.

Journaling after pregnancy loss can be a powerful way to process emotions,
honour your baby,
and create space for healing.

It is simply about giving your grief a place to land.
Just room for your grief,
and room for you.

📖 This Pregnancy Loss Journal was created as a gentle, guided space for miscarriage grief, TFMR support, infant loss, stillbirth loss, and IVF loss.

A gentle place for your loss, your love, your memories, your “what ifs.”

You can also send it to love ones and friends to show you care for them, to someone you know who might not have the words yet.

Available worldwide 🌍
Free delivery within Singapore 🤍
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Journal available at S$25

DM me if you’d like a copy or to send one to someone.

30/04/2026

Give your baby a name, and give your loss a place.

Whether you were four weeks along or 28,
whether this was a medical loss
or a decision made under impossible circumstances…

That baby was yours.

Not “just early.”
Not “just cells.”
Not something to move on from quietly.

Yours.

And you are allowed to grieve them fully —
without apology,
without comparison,
and without a timeline.

There is no “too early” to love.
Which means there is no “too early” to grieve.

Your loss deserves to be witnessed.
Your baby deserves to be remembered.

Say their name, even if only in your heart.

25/04/2026

TFMR, IVF loss, stillbirth, and recurrent miscarriage
often carry layers of guilt and shame that other forms of grief may not.

Many parents I work with come to me saying,
“I feel like it’s my fault.”
“I keep thinking… what if I did something differently?”

Something begins to shift
when we gently unpack what guilt actually means:

😞 the intention to harm
😞 acting against your own values

You did not intend harm.

🧡 You made the best decision you could
with the information, resources, and emotional capacity
you had at that moment.

Most losses are beyond our control.

That is not guilt.
That is grief.

And grief deserves compassion, not punishment.

🤍 If this resonates, you’re not alone.
🤍 There is space to process this safely.

11/04/2026

Holding Space: Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support Circle 🤍

A space where you don’t have to be “okay.”
A space where your grief is not rushed, silenced, or misunderstood.

Tears that were held back… allowed to fall.
Words that felt too heavy to carry… shared in a space that can hold them.

We sit together on the floor, hearts open.
No fixing. No rushing.
Just being… with what is.

I’ve seen mothers reach out to hold another’s,
not because they have the right words,
but because they understand.

Because they know what it means to love a baby you cannot hold.

And in that moment… something softens.
Something whispers, “you’re not alone in this.”

There is something sacred that happens when a mother realises…
“I don’t have to be strong here.”

Being strong is not about pushing through.
It is the courage to feel.
To be vulnerable.
To let your authentic self be seen , even when the tears come,
even when your loved ones don’t quite know how to hold it with you.

I know how tender this season can be.
Anniversaries can feel heavy.
Seeing pregnancy news can sting.
Being around babies or pregnant mothers can feel overwhelming.
And as Mother’s Day approaches, the waves can come quietly… and deeply.

Because pregnancy and infant loss are not something to “move on” from,
it is something to be witnessed, felt, and held with care.

📅 DM me for the next Holding Space date

✨ Mark your calendar annually: Wave of Light — 15 October to join me physically in Singapore 🇸🇬
A global remembrance where we light candles at 7pm in our own time zones,
creating a quiet wave of light across the world…
honouring the babies we carry in our hearts,
reminding us that this love, this grief, is shared.

Holding Space is a free support circle I offer to the community in Singapore.

You are warmly welcome here 🤍

Shoutout to .sg and owner .charis who supports the circle with her beautiful space at Katong.

28/03/2026

How many times have we heard the words “just try again”?

Those words though often well-intentioned but can feel like an accusation. They skip over the loss and go straight to “fixing” a heart that isn’t broken, but is grieving.

Grief doesn’t need fixing.
It needs space.
It needs presence.
It needs someone willing to sit in the discomfort.

If someone you love is grieving a loss, here are a few gentle reminders:
🤍 You don’t need the perfect words
🤍 Don’t rush them to “move on”
🤍 Avoid “at least…” statements
🤍 Let them talk about their baby

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is: “I’m here.”

I shared more of my story and tips on how Mamas can start to heal in my latest feature with .

My hope is that this helps us all show up with care, not fear.
🔗 Link in Bio

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28/03/2026

I contributed this article to Sassy Mama Singapore on a topic that is often invisible, yet deeply felt — pregnancy loss and grief.

No one teaches us how to support someone through pregnancy loss.

So we stay silent.
Or we say the wrong things.
Or we try to make it better.

But grief doesn’t need fixing.

It needs space.
It needs presence.
It needs someone willing to sit in discomfort.

If someone you love is grieving a loss,
here are a few gentle reminders:

🤍 You don’t need the perfect words
🤍 Don’t rush them to “move on”
🤍 Avoid “at least…” statements
🤍 Let them talk about their baby

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is:
“I’m here.”

I wrote this article to help more people understand
how to show up with care, not fear.

https://www.sassymamasg.com/family-life-pregnancy-loss-grief-tips/

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ICF-Certified Pregnancy Loss Coach Vernessa Chuah tells her story of pregnancy loss, grief, and tips on how Mamas can start to heal. When I lost my first

07/03/2026

Happy International Women’s Day. 🌸

I’ve walk beside women through pregnancy, stillbirth, Termination for Medical Reasons, and IVF fertility loss.

And what strikes me every single time is not just how strong they are.

It’s how loved they are, and how rarely they let themselves believe it.

To all the women walking the path of healing — I see your gold.

💬 Tag a woman you want to hold gently today.

🔗 Link in bio — free bi-monthly pregnancy loss circle, open to all. Next session April 10, 2026.

Vernessa Chuah
ICF Certified Pregnancy & Infant Loss Coach
Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist