Pregnancy Loss Coaching

01/08/2026

When we experience deep loss, the emotions can feel overwhelming, complicated, and heavy in our bodies.

The emotions are rarely simple.
Love, longing, guilt, anger, confusion, 😞 helplessness, hope - they can all exist at the same time, and our bodies often carry what words cannot express.

Grief isn’t something to fix or get over. So often, the world expects us to move on quickly, but grief doesn’t work that way.

⭐️ In our Pregnancy and Infant Loss support circle, our intention is simple yet profound: to slow down, listen to what our bodies are holding, and grant ourselves the quiet space to just be.

For many parents, that alone is deeply healing.
For others, it’s also just the beginning.

While our 3-hour Holding Space: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Circle offers a safe and compassionate container to be witnessed, ⭐️ 1:1 coaching allows us to gently explore the deeper layers of grief.

It gives you the dedicated space, time, and somatic tools to unfold and process our triggers, our insecurities, our fears, and our relationship with those heavy, unpleasant emotions.

♥️ Together, we understand the body’s responses to loss, and learn ways to move through grief with greater kindness rather than self-judgment.

Building a healthy relationship with our emotions, rather than fighting against them.

Healing doesn’t mean loving your baby any less. It means learning to carry both your love and your grief with greater self-compassion.

Swipe through to read a beautiful, raw reflection from Jiahui, a courageous mother in our community, honouring her daughter who is no longer physically here.

🥰 Rieanna’s memory Rieanna Joy Lye is a testament to a mother’s fierce, enduring love.

14/07/2026

You may never have held your child.
You may never have seen your child.
You may have been told, “It was just a chemical pregnancy.” Or, “It wasn’t even an embryo yet.”

You may have endured IVF after IVF, hoping this would be the one. When you hear someone called “Mummy,” your heart aches.

You quietly wonder,
“Can I call myself a mum?”

My answer is yes. Rightfully so.
Your child was conceived out of love.

Motherhood isn’t defined by how long your baby lived or whether the world acknowledged their existence. It is defined by the bond that exists between you and your child.

🧡 You are a mother if you lost your baby at six weeks, before anyone else even knew.

💛 You are a mother if your pregnancy ended in the second trimester.

❤️ You are a mother if your baby was stillborn.

💙 You are a mother if you made the heartbreaking decision to go through TFMR out of love.

💜 You are a mother if your embryos never made it.

💚 You are a mother if you’ve survived cycle after cycle of IVF and are still waiting.

🤎 You are a mother if you’ve experienced an ectopic pregnancy, chemical pregnancy, blighted o**m, or molar pregnancy.

🩶 You are a mother if you held your baby in the NICU, even if only for a short time.

🤍 You are a mother if your baby came home, and then was gone.

🩵 You are a mother if you’re still hoping, grieving, and trying again.

🩷 You are a mother if your arms are empty, but your heart is full of someone the world never got to meet.

Your motherhood counts.

Your grief is valid.

As Southeast Asia’s first Pregnancy Loss & Grief Coach, I have the privilege of holding space for parents navigating miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, infant loss, and the complex emotions that follow. Every story reminds me why this work matters.

I’m grateful to The Straits Times for bringing visibility to a grief that is too often unseen.

📰 Full article link in bio

20/06/2026

🤍 Holding Space: Pregnancy & Infant Loss Circle
A complimentary support circle in Singapore for bereaved parents who have experienced:
• miscarriage
• recurrent miscarriages
• stillbirth
• TFMR (termination for medical reasons)
• infant or neonatal loss
• ectopic pregnancy
• chemical pregnancy
• IVF and fertility-related loss
• child loss

No cost.
No pressure to share.
Just a warm and safe space to be seen, heard, and held by others who truly understand.

🗓 Next session: 3 July 2026, 7:30-10:30pm

🕯 Wave of Light: Honouring Your Baby in Singapore
On 15 October each year, bereaved parents around the world light candles at 7pm in their own time zones, creating a continuous Wave of Light across the globe for 24 hours — a collective act of remembrance for every baby loved and missed.

📅 Next Wave of Light: 15 October 2026, 6:30-9:30pm

Because every baby matters.
And every grieving parent matters too.

🌐 www.vernessachuah.com
💬 WhatsApp 9783 7313

10/06/2026

You might seem okay and strong to the world outside,
but only you know what is happening inside.

The silent tears.
The overthinking at night.
The heaviness in your chest.
The exhaustion from carrying grief while still showing up for daily life.

So many bereaved parents become experts at functioning while hurting.

I am a Certified Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist®.

Through a step-by-step, evidence-based and action-based 6-session programme, I walk alongside bereaved parents as they begin to process the pain they have been carrying for so long.

So many parents tell me they have spent months, sometimes years trying to stay strong, suppressing their emotions, or convincing themselves to “move on”, while silently carrying heartbreak, guilt, anger, loneliness, and unanswered questions.

You do not have to carry it all alone anymore.

Together, we gently acknowledge what has been hard to face:
🤍 the unresolved grief and emotional pain
🤍 the things you wish had been different, better, or more
🤍 the hopes, dreams, and future you held in your heart
🤍 the parts of yourself that feel lost after loss

This is not about forgetting your baby or “getting over it.”
It is about creating space to process your pain safely and honestly, so it no longer feels so heavy in your body, mind, and daily life.

With support, many parents begin to feel:
• lighter emotionally and mentally
• more connected to themselves again
• greater acceptance and emotional capacity
• less stuck in the pain and overwhelm of grief

Healing begins when we stop suppressing and start acknowledging.

Take the right action with my support.
Process it instead of suppressing it.
Acknowledge it instead of ignoring it.

That is where the shifts begin.
Quietly. Gently. Deeply.

🌐 www.vernessachuah.com
💬 +65 9783 7313

Suitable for mums navigating miscarriages, stillbirth, infant loss, neonatal loss, ectopic pregnancy, chemical pregnancy, failed embryo transfers, IVF grief and fertility-related loss, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), pregnancy after loss anxiety, recurrent miscarriages.

06/06/2026

After loss, many women feel deeply disconnected from their bodies.

Uncertain how to trust them again,
uncertain of who they are now,
uncertain how to move forward with the pain and grief.

The body keeps score.
We can sometimes override the mind,
but the body still holds what it has been through.

The next time you feel stuck, move your body.
Even if it is just a 10-minute walk.

Anything that allows the body to move can help discharge the emotional energy grief stores in our muscles and tissues.

A 10-minute walk.
Gentle stretching.
Swimming.
Gardening.
Dance.

The goal is not to outrun your pain.
It is to build the strength and capacity to carry it with gentleness.

Emotions are energy in motion.
When the body moves, energy shifts, and you will witness your emotions begin to shift too.

Healing does not happen only in the mind.
It begins in the body.

If you are navigating grief, loss, or feeling disconnected from yourself, I am here to hold space for you, to co-regulate your nervous system, and provide emotional support after your loss.

🌿 www.vernessachuah.com
📱 WhatsApp: 97837313

27/05/2026

After a pregnancy or infant loss, the words we use matter more than we realise.

“I am angry” collapses you into the emotion.
“I am feeling angry” reminds you that you are bigger than what you feel right now.

That small shift from being an emotion to having an emotion, is one of the first things I work on with bereaved parents.

Because grief after loss is not one feeling.
It is many, arriving without warning.
Anger.
Fear.
Jealousy when you see a pregnancy announcement.
Exhaustion you cannot explain.
Sense of helplessness.

You do not have to perform “okay” through any of it.

What you need is one safe space — with a trusted friend, a grief coach, or a support circle, where you can say exactly what is true for you, and be met with presence, not platitudes.

That space exists. And you deserve to be in it.

Love,
Vernessa

18/05/2026

One of the reasons I practice The Grief Recovery Method is because grief is a universal language.

I can support over 40 different types of loss through this work, because grief is not limited to death alone.

Many people think grief only applies to losing someone we love. But in reality, grief can also come through:

• Pregnancy & infant loss
• Loss of identity
• Caregiver burnout
• Anxiety & emotional overwhelm
• Relationship changes
• Family trauma
• The loss of who we once were

Invisible grief is still real grief.

Grief is also not only emotional.

It lives in the body,
nervous system,
relationships,
identity,
and everyday moments.

Sometimes we do not realise how much we are carrying until our body begins responding differently, or until we finally feel safe enough to slow down and truly listen.

What many people truly need is not to be “fixed.”

They need support to feel less stuck.
To be safely held.
Deeply seen.
And compassionately supported through what they are carrying.

At the heart of grief work is this:
helping people feel less alone in their humanity. 🤍

This testimonial reminded me again why this work matters so deeply to me because compassionate support can create space not only for healing, but for deeper self-understanding too.

17/05/2026

When my client Angela recently shared a public shoutout about our work together, it beautifully illuminated a profound truth: grief is a universal language.

While much of my public advocacy centers on supporting mothers and fathers through the heartbreak of pregnancy and infant loss, I support Anqi during a difficult season after her grandmother passed.

"Grief is often invisible, deeply felt, and held not just mentally but physically as well."

Her words reminded me how important it is to open the doors wider. How grief work and conversations have helped her process the different seasons of our life, reminding us that grief quietly shapes how we respond to stress, carry physical tension, and move through life.

The gentle, trauma-informed space I hold isn’t just for one specific type of heartbreak. It is for anyone navigating the deep, invisible pain of losing someone they love.

Whether you are
a mum or dad navigating pregnancy loss,
a spouse learning to walk alone as you lose someone who shared your daily life and dreams,
a child mourning a parent or grandparent who anchored your world,
a friend holding onto memories,
or someone deeply grieving the loss of a loyal pet who gave you unconditional love and whose silent absence leaves a massive void.
your pain deserves to be seen.

None of us can escape loss in this lifetime. But we do not have to carry the emotional overwhelm, the physical tension, and the heavy silence alone.

Sometimes people hesitate to seek coaching because they think, "My loss isn’t the 'right' kind of loss,"or
"Others have it worse."
I want to gently tell you, If your heart is hurting, your grief is valid.

The somatic and heart-centered space I provide is a safe container for all forms of bereavement.

It takes immense courage to welcome your thoughts and feelings exactly as they are. When we begin to normalise grief in all its shapes and forms, we learn how to hold one another with greater intention, presence and care.

No matter who you are grieving, your pain doesn't need a "quick fix." It needs space, awareness, and immense compassion.

If you are ready to honour your inner experience and find a safe container to process your thoughts and emotions, my door is open to you. 🤍

09/05/2026

Featured in Singapore’s The Straits Times this Mother’s Day, speaking for the invisible mums — mothers who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss, yet are often unseen in conversations around motherhood.

Mother’s Day can bring a quiet ache that is difficult to explain. While the world celebrates, many women carry grief silently behind smiles, wondering where they belong.

Grief is not only emotional; it lives in the body too. It can show up as anxiety, hypervigilance, numbness, exhaustion, shame, or feeling disconnected from oneself and others.

In the article, I share about the importance of supporting grief through both somatic and cognitive approaches — helping bereaved mothers process not just their thoughts, but also the emotions and stress responses held within the body.

This is the work I hold close to my heart: creating safe spaces for women and families navigating loss, so they feel less alone in a world that often moves on too quickly from invisible grief.

To every invisible mum reading this — your love, your motherhood and your grief matter. 🤍

Read the article here:
https://www.straitstimes.com/life/mum-advocates-pregnancy-loss-coach-helps-invisible-mums-who-feel-anxiety-guilt-and-shame

This pregnancy loss coach felt a calling to help others, having lost three babies herself. Read more at straitstimes.com. Read more at straitstimes.com.

09/05/2026

To the mother the world might forgot to include today.

You didn’t get flowers this morning.
No one made you a card.
But you are a mother.

🧡 You are a mother if you lost your baby at six weeks, before anyone else even knew.

💛 You are a mother if you made it to the second trimester, and then silence.

❤️ You are a mother if your baby was born still — perfect, and gone.

💙 You are a mother if you made the most painful decision of your life, out of love, through TFMR.

💜 You are a mother if your embryos never made it.

💚 You are a mother if you survived cycle after cycle of IVF and are still waiting.

🤎 You are a mother if you had an ectopic, a chemical pregnancy, a blighted o**m, a molar pregnancy.

🩶 You are a mother if you held your baby in the NICU for days that felt like a lifetime.

🤍 You are a mother if your baby came home, and then was gone.

🩵 You are a mother if you are still in the wait — hoping, grieving, trying again.

🩷 You are a mother if your arms are empty and your heart is full of someone the world never got to meet.

Motherhood begins with love.
Not with a birth certificate.
Not with a living child.
Not with anyone else’s permission.
Your baby was real.
Your love was real.
Your grief is real.
And this day, as painful as it is — belongs to you too. 🤍

If no one has said it to you today,
let me say it now:
Happy Mother’s Day.
I see you.
I honour you.
And I am holding space for you today.

📖 I’ve written a blog for bereaved mothers navigating this day, DM me if you like the link

Love,
Vernessa Chuah