Her World Wellness (2026)

25/05/2022

Over the last week and a half, we’ve seen multiple acts of senseless violence in our country, and I want to get real about all of this for a second.

Self-care is SO needed right now. Please make sure that you are being conscious of your media consumption right now, taking breaks when you need to, leaning on your support system during this time, and taking as much time as you need to process your feelings about everything that’s happened.

HOWEVER, I fully recognize and want to acknowledge that it’s hard to self-care your way out of the vicarious trauma we experience when we hear about these mass shootings. Even though each tragedy we read about online or see about on tv has an effect on our individual mental health and stress levels, the solutions to put an end to this type of violence has to come from an overall systemic change that truthfully, we may not see in our lifetime. That’s why, in the meantime, taking care of yourself in the context of your community is so critical during times like this.
donnaoriowo explained it best: "If self-care is about what you do for yourself, then community care is what you put into and what you are able to receive from the community you have built around yourself, as well as the community you live in.”

I hope that these tips can provide you with even a little bit of solace during this time, and I’m wishing for peace of mind for everyone as we collectively try to heal from all of this.

All my love always,
Cyd 🌻

09/05/2022

Hey besties, do you ever find yourself saying any of the statements on the left? 👀

Negative self-talk is such a real thing and even though it can often happen on a subconscious level 🧠, these thought patterns take a huge toll on our mental health and even our physical health. Our bodies have a way of listening to the things we tell ourselves and will produce stress hormones and other internal responses as it’s way of protecting us from further fear, pain, trauma, etc. But unfortunately, that usually just leads to higher stress levels (think of being in a constant fight/flight/freeze/fawn state), lower self-esteem, and poorer health outcomes.

So how do we move the needle and begin to reverse that cycle? By recognizing when we’re in that place and doing simple, but effective mindset shifts to show our bodies and our minds that our insecurities don’t define us. Ask yourself these four questions:
🤔 Why do I feel this way?
🧐 Who told me that?
💭Who’s imagination am I living in? (i.e. your inner critic’s, society’s, your parents’ or whoever helped you form that negative perception of yourself)
💪🏽What am I going to do about it? (THIS is the time to incorporate the positive statements on the right side of the graphic!!)

Try to practice these shifts when you notice that you’re talking down to yourself, doubting your greatness, or being led by fears about how other people will perceive you!

Don’t worry if it doesn’t come naturally right away, these are most likely narratives that have been formed over 20+ years, so it won’t be a magic switch, but chipping away at it bit by bit will make a BIG change in the long run, and that’s what’s most important! 🤗
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06/05/2022

Your success continues LONG after my coaching!! 👏🏽👏🏽

Happy Friday love bugs! Did you know that one of my favorite things about being a coach is hearing y’all’s feedback? I always want to make sure I’m creating content and programs that are relevant to the topics you’re interested in, so I recently followed up with one of my amazing Self-Love Challenge participants from last month, and her transformation has been such a great thing to get to see!

If you participated in the challenge and got something out of it, I’d LOVE the opportunity to get your feedback too! Whether you joined for the full month, just a week, or even a few days, I want to hear from you 🤗 it’s a great way to take a closer look at the progress you made over the last month, and also would be such a big help to me so I can make our next challenge (and upcoming 1:1 coaching program 🤫) THAT much better!

Click on the link in my bio to leave your review, it should take no more than 5 minutes of your time! ☺️💛
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02/05/2022

Happy Monday, and happy Mental Health Awareness Month! 🌻

You know we’re all about improving our mental health and wellness, so this month we’re diving right into practices that will help us do that! Here we go 🤗👇🏽👇🏽

💛 Manage Your Thoughts:
Everyone experiences thoughts that are unhelpful or upsetting from time to time. It’s okay to feel your feelings and let these thoughts pass through you, but be aware of them and more importantly, their impact on your mental health!

💛 Practice Mindfulness and Spend Less Time In Your Head:
Staying in the present moment helps mental
health. Some people refer to this as mindfulness, but regardless of what you call it, this just means concentrating on what is right in front of you instead of being on automatic pilot. See my Self-Love Challenge Day 29 post for more on this!

💛 Keep a Gratitude Journal:
When life is tough, it's easy to lose sight of the good things. Recognizing the good things that are happening in your life can actually strengthen your mind’s ability to
focus on positive things! Take time to practice this daily, even if just for 5 minutes, and see how your outlook on life improves!

💛 Think About Food, Mood, and Exercise:

A little regular exercise and nutritious food can go SUCH a long way when it comes to boosting our mood and mental health. Remember, you don’t have to strive for “perfection” in these areas; but try to be mindful of the things you put in your body and the amount of movement you get daily. These small habit changes truly add up!

Save this post if these tips are helpful to you, and let me know in the comments what your go-to mental wellness practice is!

Remember, you always have the power to create a version of life that you love to live, so make today a good day!!
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30/04/2022

Friends!! It’s so bittersweet, but we’ve reached the last day of our Self-Love Challenge 💕

With that said, I think it’s so fitting to end this journey by writing ourselves a love letter. It can be as long or as short as you’d like, but I really hope you take time to reflect on just how far you’ve come in just a short time.

I’ve loved seeing you all open up in the comments, exploring things about yourself that may have been uncomfortable at first, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in this journey. It’s been amazing to see as a coach, and I hope it’s been just as fulfilling to you.

If you ever need a reminder or a little motivation as you continue on your self-love journey, these posts will always be here for to guide you.

Be proud of yourself. I know I am.

Until next time, sending love always,
Cyd 😌🤎
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29/04/2022

Happy Friday my friends!! Today we’re diving into mindfulness 🧘🏽‍♀️

If you’re not familiar, mindfulness is being in touch non-judgmentally with the present moment . Without mindfulness, it’s almost like being on autopilot, where life happens TO us. Rather than getting lost in a sea of thought, developing mindfulness puts us back in the driver's seat.

The key concept here is 'non-judgemental'. Practicing non-judgemental awareness can be liberating - rather than fighting this moment and then making knee-jerk reactions, we can acknowledge what's happening and how we feel about it, and then make an informed response. It gives us the power to break out of autopilot and connect with our inner wisdom.

Here’s how I recommend starting:

🌻 A few deep breaths:
Don't do anything, just be with your breath. This will help you tap into a place of calmness. Stick with this stage for as long as you need!

🌻 Become aware:
Notice what's occurring around you and within you. You don't have to like what's happening, but notice how resisting it just adds to your discomfort. Soften your body and let it be as it is. 💕

🌻 Choose how you’ll respond:
Acknowledge that you do have a choice. Maybe you don't need to do anything right now or maybe something is required of you. Both compassion and curiosity can be helpful here!!

Try it out and let me know in the comments 👇🏽👇🏽 how that was for you! Also I am SO PUMPED that we’ve almost reached the end of this challenge! I know I say it all the time, but I’m so proud of how far you’ve come in just this short time 💛
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28/04/2022

Hi friends! Sorry for being so late posting today (it’s been a rough 24 hours, I’ve been feeling my feelings and that’s all I’ll say about that lol 🫠), but I’m so glad that this is our challenge today because even I need it more than ever!

Even though self love is anchored and rooted in ourselves, it CAN be fostered and nurtured with the help of the people in your life who love you dearly. That’s the thing about this whole process of unlearning certain practices/behaviors and relearning healthy mental and emotional wellness habits. You won’t always be able to carry the load by yourself, and that’s okay. It doesn’t take anything away from the progress you’ve made and continue to make. In fact, knowing how much you can carry and leaning on your supports when it’s too much (remember, boundaries!) will only help you in the long run. 🌻

The best advice I can give you is this: grant yourself permission to ask for help when you need it. Stop fighting battles in silence and trying to “fix” everything on your own. You are not a burden to others, your feelings and struggles are not a burden, and I can bet there’s someone in your life right now who WANTS to be there for you. Even if it’s just by lending an ear to listen.

Remember a few weeks ago when we talked about treating ourselves the way we’d want someone to treat our best friend? Well sometimes, all we need is to actually talk to that best friend or loved one. Not necessarily to vent or solve a problem, but as a simple reminder of how it feels to have someone who wants the best for you and pushes you to advocate for it every day.

I promise, there are people who want to see you win. If you can’t think of any off the top of your head, know that I’m one of them 😌💛

Love you and am so so proud of you,
Cyd 💕
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27/04/2022

MOVE THAT BODY BESTIE!! 💃🏽💃🏽

Tbh, I definitely used to identify as someone who didn’t like working out 😂 I’d be struggling up in the gym, my asthma would start acting up, the whole nine y’all lol. I just didn’t understand why people told me to exercise for my mental health because…girl what you mean you actually like this??

That is, until I started getting out of breath when I’d go up my stairs 💀 then I knew I needed to do better. So I started at home workouts after work with my girl and when I tell you I even shocked MYSELF with how much I came to enjoy it because now, I really love exercising and it’s really a highlight of my daily routine.

We store SO MUCH stress, trauma, and other emotions in our bodies and for the sake of both our mental and physical health, we need to get it out! Movement really provides us with that space and opportunity to physically and mentally decompress. Bad day at work? Go hard in your workout that evening. Need to get away from the people in your house? Go on a quick walk around the neighborhood. Want a light breather to kick off your day? Try some stretching or an easy yoga flow.

BUT what’s most important is that you find the movement practice that works for you and that you actually LIKE! Again as an example, I love dancing so my favorite form of exercise is when I get to do Zumba on Mondays 💃🏽

‼️side note, take note of that mindset shift in just using the key words “get to” because it’s such a blessing in itself to be able to move our bodies ‼️

Anyway, what forms of movement really get you going? If you’re like how I used to be and don’t consider yourself an “exercise person”, reflect on what blocks may be stopping you! Is it a logistics issue, nerves about how you might “look” working out, you want an accountability buddy, etc? Whatever it is, think about some steps you can take this week to ease those concerns and try something new! You never know, you might surprise yourself too 🤗💛

Much love always,
Cyd 🌻
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25/04/2022

Can y’all believe we’re on the final week of our self-love challenge? 🥰

This week is all about creating sustainable self-love practices that we can incorporate in our lives daily and have in our back pockets when we need a little pick me up. One of the simplest and quickest ways to reframe our mindset is through practicing gratitude.

When we allow ourselves to find gratitude in our experiences, both the good along with the bad, we begin learning to embrace every experience as a stepping stone on our individual journeys. Remember, like we talked about last week, we want to meet these experiences with empathy, gratitude, compassion, and kindness….not judgment, shame or guilt. This allows us to remain present and start to look for the silver lining in the things that we go through.

So let me know, what five things are you grateful for today? I know one thing I’m grateful for, and that’s YOU ALL!! Whether you know it or not, interacting with you all everyday through this challenge has helped me heal just as much as it’s seemed to help y’all and for that, I will forever be grateful and thankful to be able to connect with a lovely bunch like y’all 😌💛

Anyway, I can’t wait to read your lists in the comments, so drop them down below! 🤗👇🏽👇🏽
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22/04/2022

One of the best ways to be unapologetic about your self-love is by being honest with yourself about your feelings and emotions in the current moment. 💛😌

Giving voice to our feelings helps us to bring them to the surface and allows them to ease up as we work through them. It’s completely normal to experience anxious or depressed thinking at times, but the thing to know is that it's OKAY to stop trying to completely eliminate negative thoughts and feelings!

✨The goal isn’t to be happy all the time, we know that’s not realistic. Instead we want to learn how to explore our feelings without judgment so that we can respond in a healthy way that’s aligned with the way we want to show up in life. ✨

Have you ever heard the phrase “you need to feel your feelings”? Everything you feel, even the difficult emotions, has a place and purpose. Even though it can be uncomfortable to experience certain feelings, it’s important that you don’t try to meet those feelings with denial, shame, or guilt. They need room to be processed to ultimately help you heal and move through them more effectively. We’ll work on a “feeling your feelings” exercise tomorrow, so stay tuned for more on this topic!

But in the meantime, go gently, giving yourself the time and space to feel as you do, and lean into your self-care to help you through. 🌻

Love you always and happy Friday,
Cyd 💕
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21/04/2022

If you’ve made your way to my page, you likely identify as one of these:
• a “Strong Black Woman”
• a stressed out people pleaser looking for a way to set better boundaries
• a perfectionist with imposter syndrome
• a high achiever who doesn’t make enough time for herself
• an awesome person who doesn’t fit into any of these categories but is someone trying to learn more ways to show up for yourself through unapologetic self-love!!

Since that’s covered, I feel like I can keep it real with you. So let me ask you: How can you expect other people to take you seriously and treat you like the queen and boss ass b*tch you are when you’re not even taking yourself 100% seriously? 🤯

For my Strong Black Women: If you settle by thinking your vulnerability is a weakness, how can you expect your tribe to know when you need support?

For my people pleasers: If you settle in your boundary setting, how can you expect someone to respect them?

For my overachievers: If you never take time FOR you, how can you expect people to do anything but take time FROM you?

For my perfectionists with imposter syndrome: If you settle for the mindset that you’re not deserving of great things happening to you, then no matter how hard you strive for perfection, it won’t matter because it’ll never truly be “good enough” in your mind…right? 🤷🏽‍♀️

So, reflect on how you settle. Once you have it in your mind, I then want you to think back to the image you envisioned for your life on Day 1 of the challenge. Then to our final food for thought: how does the way you settle in your life affect you being able to reach that goal?

Always remember, the answers are already within you. Sometimes all it takes is a shift in perspective to make your next steps clearer. 🌻
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20/04/2022

Happy Wednesday, friends! 🌻

We’re switching gears just a bit today, so I want to start by asking these three quick questions for thought:
1️⃣ Have you ever been around someone who thrives in chaos? They talk about themselves, always find something wrong with situations, and when you’re with them you spend most of your time talking or gossiping about other people?
2️⃣ Have you ever been around someone who’s just like a positive light in your life? They’re always finding the good in situations, practicing gratitude, and you both lift each other up whenever you talk.
3️⃣ Which of those people has a more positive effect on YOUR self image and mindset?

I think y’all are catching my drift, but the people we choose to surround ourselves with can play a big role in our own mental health and self esteem.

So today, I’m asking that you reflect on the people in your tribe and really think about how they influence you, both positively and negatively. How can you surround yourself with more relationships that fill your cup instead of taking from it? If you have people you know that do make you feel low-vibe, how can you protect your energy?

I’d love to hear what you all take from this challenge, let me know in the comments 👇🏽 if thinking about relationships in this way is helpful to you! 🤗💛
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