09/15/2026
🦋 TALK ABOUT IT TUESDAY: Is the Friendship Genuine?
Not everyone who calls you a friend is navigating the friendship with genuine intentions.
Healthy friendships should feel like a place where you can grow, celebrate, evolve, and be fully yourself—without constantly questioning the other person’s motives.
Sometimes, though, we overlook behaviors that tell us the friendship may not be as authentic as we thought.
Pay attention to:
✨ Competition — Everything doesn’t have to be a comparison. A real friend can celebrate your win without feeling like it diminishes theirs.
✨ Gatekeeping — Genuine friends don’t intentionally withhold information, opportunities, resources, or connections simply because they don’t want to see you advance.
✨ Monitoring spirits — There’s a difference between someone being interested in your life and someone constantly watching, tracking, comparing, and collecting information without genuinely supporting you.
✨ Lack of growth — Friendships should be able to evolve. If one person grows and the relationship requires them to stay who they used to be in order to remain connected, eventually the friendship becomes restrictive.
And here’s the important part: before pointing the finger, check yourself too. Are you showing up as the kind of friend you expect others to be?
Authentic friendship isn’t about perfection. It’s about mutual respect, reciprocity, genuine support, honesty, and the freedom for BOTH people to grow.
Some friendships need a conversation.
Some need new boundaries.
And some have simply completed their season.
The goal isn’t to have the most friends.
The goal is to have friendships where you don’t have to question whether the love is genuine.
🦋 Talk About It Tuesday