08/03/2026
I admit it. I used to have a terrible scrolling problem. Before I brushed my teeth in the morning—I needed to see what transpired overnight. Work breaks? Gotta check in on who's doing what, where. In the evening? A scroll appetizer before dinner and then some scroll dessert before bed. Sometimes even one last peek as I turned on my sound machine and set my alarm for the next day.
Then...let the scroll games begin again.
Y’all. I was out of scroll-control. Tired of reading the word? Yeah, me too. About as tired as I was of thinking that time on social media was giving my system a rest. Nope. In fact, all that interaction with information and input put my system on high alert and was causing havoc on my body and my mental state. Here I thought scrolling was helping me recover from stress. Come to find out, it was helping create it! What I believed was giving my nervous system a break was secretly keeping it on high alert.
Whew! Now that we got that out in the open…
Maybe you’ve been through a phase like that in your life too.
In 2025 I took a six month course in polyvagal theory, a framework for understanding how our nervous systems respond to safety and threat. Think of your nervous system as your own personal safety patrol. When it senses safety, you feel calm and connected. When it senses danger, it prepares you to fight, flee, freeze, or shut down in an effort to protect you.
That's when the dots connected for me. I finally understood why I felt the way I did after spending so much time on social media. Here are the top 3 lessons I learned both from the training and personal experience:
- Our nervous systems are constantly asking “Am I safe or am I at risk?” as a part of their protection mechanism. I can’t always predict what I will see on the next swipe… Within minutes, I might see a funny video, a tragic news story, vacation photos, political conflict, and a gardening tip. This Emotional whiplash keeps our nervous system activated and requires our nervous systems to fully settle.
- Our brains are constantly processing new information. Every swipe introduces a new image, opinion, headline, or video. Our brains must rapidly decide what's important and what to ignore and it’s doing most of this underneath our conscious awareness. Meanwhile, our bodies don't always distinguish between physical effort and mental-emotional stimulation. So even if we're curled up on the couch, our heart rate, breathing, muscle tension, and alertness can all increase without us even realizing it.
- Activities that require little effort don’t equate to resting. True rest requires less mental input, more quiet, and intentional moments where nothing is demanding your attention. Slow nature walks, gazing out a window, breathing deeply, sitting in silence.
It’s been just over one year since I made this change. Some weeks I go days without ever swiping a screen except to answer a text. I experience better equilibrium in my moods, I feel more content, my thinking is clearer, and my creative instincts are more readily rising to the surface. I sleep more soundly and wake up feeling fresher. I feel more present, connected, at peace.
Looking back, I realize my sense of peace wasn't determined only by what was happening around me. It was deeply influenced by what I was taking in every single day. What we repeatedly consume plays a big part of what we repeatedly feel.
So I’ll leave you with this…
What are you turning to for rest that really might be keeping your nervous system awake?
A note: I am not anti-social media (obviously!). I just no longer expect it to do the job that rest is designed to do. 🩵