07/02/2026
Music and singing are powerful tools for building trust, fostering connection, and helping the nervous system experience safety.
Music engages the limbic system—the network of brain regions involved in emotion, memory, and motivation—which is one reason it can help us feel understood without words. Gentle, soothing singing also signals safety through tone, rhythm, and predictable vocal patterns, helping calm the nervous system and reduce amygdala activation—our brain's threat detection system.
As a music therapist, I've sung to people across the lifespan—from premature infants in the NICU, where I also taught parents to sing to their babies during skin-to-skin contact, to children, teens, adults, all the way to individuals at the end of life.
I've also sung to all three of my children everyday. And now, our little hedgehog, Bumju, also seems to enjoy it! 🦔🥰
No matter what you think about your singing voice, to your child, it is the most familiar, beautiful, and comforting sound in the world. ❤️ So don't be afraid to sing. You don't have to sing perfectly. Simply humming softly or singing your favorite songs together can become a powerful way to create safety, build trust, and deepen connection.
I hope you'll invite more music into your everyday life. Let music become a language of presence, co-regulation, and deeper connection. ❤️