The Both/And Way

08/21/2026

https://thebothandway.substack.com/p/wwjd

08/19/2026

Our November Retreat is just 12 weeks away ✨ I only have four private rooms available if you are interested in joining!
Get all the details at the link in my bio or send me a message with your questions.

08/10/2026

Join Kerry at my home this Wednesday. You won’t regret it! Link in story. Or check out Kerry Martinez

08/09/2026

Yes, it’s hot and humid! Yes, after a walk in the woods, I feel like I’m drenched completely through. Yes I have to take time to get the dog cleaned up after the walk in the woods. And yes, it’s all worth it. I hope you sit through being uncomfortable to find something beautiful. It’s worth it. 💗🌧️🍄

07/30/2026

Here’s a question I ask myself often, and one I’ll be asking of all the wonderful ladies who join me on August 29th for the One Day Retreat:

What if the struggle with aging isn’t simply personal?

What if so much of what we carry around our bodies, our faces, our productivity, our worth - belongs not to us, but to the culture we’ve been swimming in our entire lives?

I say this as a therapist who has sat with women in every decade of life, and as a woman doing this work myself: none of us arrived at our fear of aging on our own. We inherited it. And what’s inherited can be examined, questioned, and - when it’s not serving us - set down.

At the one day retreat next month, we’ll use Internal Family Systems to do exactly that.

Together, we’ll get curious about:
➡️ the part that fears becoming invisible
➡️ the part that grieves what’s changed
➡️ the part that’s still striving to stay relevant, attractive, capable, needed

We won’t try to silence these parts. We’ll meet them with compassion, and get curious about what they’re actually protecting.

The day will move through guided meditation, experiential IFS exercises, movement, ritual, journaling, and rich conversation with women across every generation - 20s to 80s. Every stage of life has something to teach, and something to receive.

Get one of the last spots at the link in my bio 💕 hope to see you there!

07/22/2026

Check out my latest post on Substack!🥰.

Can you tell the truth about someone and not betray the love you have for them? I wasn’t afraid of telling the truth. I was afraid of telling only part of it.

On a recent visit, my brother pulled out a box of old family pictures.

07/21/2026

I don’t say “life changing” often. But meditation has absolutely changed my life. The Power of the Pause is real. Not perfection, but an incredibly useful tool!

07/16/2026

Have you ever found yourself. . .

“Why do I keep doing this?”

maybe one part of you wants to set healthy boundaries, while other worries, you’ll disappoint someone. Maybe one part belongs for rest, while mother insists you keep pushing.

For years, I believe these conflicts meant something was wrong with me. Learning Parts Work changed that.

Instead of asking, “what’s wrong with me?“ I began asking, “What part of me is trying to help right now?“

that simple shift change the way I relate to myself and the people I love.

This online course is an introduction to Internal Family Sysytems (IFS), also known as Parts Work. Together will explore why these different parts of us developed, how they’ve been trying to protect us, and how we can begin relating to them with curiosity instead of judgment.

You don’t need to be a therapist. You don’t need any previous experience. You simply need a willingness to become more compassionate toward yourself.

I’d love to have you join me.

Understanding YOU
Begins onnSeptember23
Wednesdays from seven to 8:30 PM Eastern time.
Live on Zoom.
Registration is open. Link in bio or go to.Thebothandway.com

07/15/2026

Isn’t this just so cool! If we keep showing up, surprises do happen! Meditation changed my life dramatically many decades ago. And I used to sell myself short thinking there’s no way I could meditate because I could never clear this busy mind of mine. Luckily, I learned early on that meditation has nothing to do with clearing our mind. But every once in a while, like this morning, my mind is clear. The spaciousness was so beautiful. I literally felt present moment awareness, like I don’t think I’ve ever experienced before. Keep going. Even if I’ve never had this experience, meditation has been a real gift. A real friend.

07/09/2026

This isn’t just another weekend away. This is a weekend to come home to yourself. No decisions to be made, no laundry to be done, no meals to be planned or cooked.

This Retreat is an invitation to slow down.

To step away from the constant doing.
To reconnect with yourself.
To spend a weekend surrounded by nature, meaningful conversation, laughter, rest, gentle movement, and creativity.

Over four days will gather for mindfulness, Parts Work, a splash of the Enneagram, gentle movement, yoga, time and nature, creative expression, nourishing meals, a spa afternoon, quiet mornings, and meaningful ritual.

This absolutely is not about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you already are.

Our shared rooms have now filled, and there are just four private rooms remaining.

This will also be my last public room to breathe Retreat until November 2027. Moving forward, I’ll be hosting private retreats throughout the year and offering one public Retreat each November.

If you’ve been thinking about joining us, now is a wonderful time to reserve your space. Payment plans are available.

I’d love to welcome you!

Link in bio or DM me for any questions.