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05/08/2026

What Is Your Daughter (or son) Learning From Watching You?

One of the things I didn’t do so well at with my girls was in the realm of body image and the comments I made while they were growing up. I made many mistakes in this area. Oh… so many mistakes.

Comments like, “Don’t you want to lose some weight so you can get a boyfriend?” Or, “You should dress up more,” or “Wear a little makeup.” Ughhh… it honestly hurts my heart now to remember some of the things I said.

And then there was the way I talked about myself in front of them.

“I hate my body.”
“My thighs are too big.”
“I need to lose weight.”
“I can’t eat that.”

At the time, I truly thought I was promoting “health” and taking care of my body. But looking back, I can see how misguided so much of it really was. What I called “healthy” was often fear, control, comparison, and pressure wrapped up in wellness language.

One of the things I notice now is that my girls were actually more free than me back then… I just couldn’t see it. They weren’t obsessing over every flaw or constantly trying to shrink themselves. That was something they were learning from watching me.

And while that realization is hard, I also believe healing is possible. Growth is possible. Grace is possible.

This post isn’t about sitting in shame as mothers. It’s about becoming aware enough to change the story moving forward. Because our daughters (and sons) are listening. They are watching. And the way we speak about our bodies often becomes the way they learn to speak about theirs.

What if our girls grew up believing their worth was never tied to a number, a size, or how attractive they appeared to others? What if they learned that God created their bodies and called them good… muchness good? What if they learned that food was not a moral choice and that they could experience peace with food and peace within their own bodies?

What if they learned their bodies were meant to be cared for with grace, not constantly criticized? What if they learned they were already worthy, already loved, already enough, exactly as they are?

Healing your relationship with your body may become one of the greatest gifts you pass down to the next generation.

“I praise You because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

05/07/2026

Sometimes I think people assume healing your relationship with food means you stop thinking about food altogether overnight.

But honestly?

At first, it can feel terrifying to loosen the rules. Because the rules made you feel safe.Predictable.“Successful.” Even when they were exhausting you.

And I think that’s what people miss about diet culture…it doesn’t just change how you eat. It changes how you measure your worth.

You feel “good” when you’re disciplined.

“Bad” when you’re hungry.

“Strong” when you ignore your body.

“Out of control” when you listen to it.

That’s not peace, sweet friend. God never asked you to disconnect from your body in order to be holy, lovable, or enough. Your body is not the enemy. Your hunger is not a moral failure. And eating is not something you have to earn.

Matthew 11:28 says:“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

Not more rules. Not another tracker. Rest. And maybe healing starts there.

Big hugs,
Nicole 🩷

05/06/2026

Can we talk about how exhausting it is to try to be “good” all day?

The constant thinking about food. The little deals you make with yourself. The “I did so good today” feeling if you make it to dinner without messing up…and then the spiral if you don’t.

It’s a lot. Like…a lot.

And most people don’t even realize how much space it takes up in your head. Sister, I see you.

But can I say something gently?

That’s not freedom. That’s just a different kind of stuck…it just looks healthier on the outside.

Galatians 5:1 says it’s for freedom that Christ set us free…not so we could trade one kind of bo***ge for another.

Because if we’re honest, diet culture feels a lot like a rulebook we can never fully follow. Always adjusting. Always more to fix. Always a way to “do better.” And it keeps you in that cycle of trying, failing, starting over.

Jesus didn’t come so you could spend your life overthinking every bite or trying to earn your food. He came so you could actually live. (John 10:10)

And I don’t think “living” looks like being in your head all day about what you ate, didn’t eat, or how much you exercised.

I think it looks like being present. Sitting down and just… eating. Not proving anything. Not earning anything. Just being.

You were never meant to spend your day trying to be “good.” You were meant to be free.

And if today felt hard in that way… you’re not alone in it. Not even a little bit.

Big hugs,
Nicole 🩷

05/03/2026

🌷 The May ReviveHer Newsletter is here: Nourish & Flourish🌷

This month’s newsletter is filled with encouragement for the woman who is tired of striving and ready for a gentler way.

Inside this month’s issue:

✨ Body image encouragement for spring and summer✨ Intuitive eating truth: permission changes everything✨ A special Mother’s Day message for women carrying so much✨ A yummy May recipe: Strawberry Shortcake Yogurt Bowl 🍓✨ NEW coaching offer for girls ages 10–18: In His Image 🦋

Our girls are growing up in a comparison-heavy world, and I’m creating a faith-rooted space to help them build confidence, body peace, and identity beyond appearance.

And for you, sweet friend…

You do not need to shrink to enjoy this season.You are allowed to bloom exactly where you are.

Want the newsletter delivered to your inbox? Click the link or comment MAY or send me a message and I’ll make sure you get it 🤗

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

The days get longer, schedules get fuller, summer starts peeking around the corner—and sometimes that can bring excitement… and pressure.

04/29/2026

Your body was never meant to be a problem to solve. It was created with purpose. Named good. Given to you not as a burden to manage or a project to fix — but as a vessel to live from.

Chapter 7 of Breaking Free from Body Shame wrecked me in the best way. Jess asks us to consider what it would look like to restore our bodies back to their original purpose — the one God had in mind long before diet culture got its hands on us.

Before the pills promised to shrink us. Before the shots were supposed to save us. Before the creams told us we needed to be smoother, tighter, younger.
Before the surgeries said we weren’t enough as we were.

And yet — even after all of it — the bar just keeps moving, doesn’t it? You do the thing. You try the thing. And somehow you’re still standing in the mirror feeling the exact same way you did before. Because here’s what no one selling you those things will ever tell you:

No external fix can touch an internal wound….read that again.

When your worth isn’t rooted in Christ, contentment is always one purchase away, one procedure away, one smaller size away — and it never actually arrives. The world’s solutions were never designed to set you free. They were designed to keep you coming back.

But before all of that…God formed you. Breathed life into you. Stepped back and looked at what He made and called it muchness good.

Not good enough. Not good once you fix a few things. Not good if you just tried a little harder.
Good.

That’s your original purpose — to carry the image of a God who makes nothing bad. To move through this world as a living, breathing declaration that He is Creator and His work is worth something.
The world has spent a lot of money and a lot of words trying to convince you otherwise. But none of that rewrote what God said first.

True contentment doesn’t come from changing your body. It comes from being rooted — deeply, stubbornly, unshakeably rooted — in the One who made it.

What would change if you stopped chasing the bar the world keeps raising, and started resting in what God already declared over you?

📖 Genesis 1:31 | Philippians 4:11-13 | Psalm 139:14

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

04/27/2026

What if sugar isn’t the real problem?

So many women have been taught to blame themselves for emotional eating. They think if they were stronger, more disciplined, or had more self-control, they wouldn’t reach for sweets when life feels heavy.

But what if that’s not the truth? What if sugar has simply been one of the ways you learned to cope?

When stress rises, when loneliness creeps in, when you’re overwhelmed or emotionally drained, food can feel comforting. There’s nothing wrong with that. It can offer a moment of relief, distraction, or pleasure in the middle of hard things. That doesn’t mean you weak. It means you human.

Instead of asking, “Why can’t I stop eating sugar?” maybe a gentler question is, “What am I needing right now?”

🙋🏼‍♀️Maybe you need rest.
🙋🏼‍♀️Maybe you need connection.
🙋🏼‍♀️Maybe you need to feel your feelings instead of stuffing them down.
🙋🏼‍♀️Maybe you need comfort that goes deeper than food can give.

Food isn’t failing you. It may just be carrying a job it was never meant to carry alone.

Let’s get curious:
What emotions tend to show up before you reach for sugar?

What comfort are you really craving in those moments?

What might support look like beyond food?

Scripture:
“Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28

Sweet friend, you are not broken because you seek comfort. You may simply need new ways to receive it.

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

04/24/2026

Friend, I need you to hear this today.
If being a smaller size requires restricting, starving, purging, or obsessing….it is not worth the cost.

And I mean that with everything in me. Not the physical cost of a body pushed past its limits. Not the emotional cost of every meal becoming a battle. Not the relational cost of showing up distracted, depleted, and disconnected from the people you love. And not the spiritual cost of spending your one precious life at war with the body God carefully and intentionally made.

Here’s what diet culture will never tell you: there is absolutely NO size worth that price.

You are allowed to want health. You are allowed to care for yourself. You are allowed to take up space…in your clothes, at the table, and in this world. But you are never required to destroy yourself to earn your place here.

Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself, which means loving yourself is actually part of the calling. Not as an afterthought. Not once you’ve reached a certain size. Right now. As you are. Rest in that today, sweet friend.

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

04/23/2026

Have you ever told yourself, “I just need to cut out sugar”? At first, it can feel empowering….like you’re finally getting control, finally doing what you’re supposed to do. You make a plan, set some rules, and for a little while, it works. You say no, push through cravings, and maybe even feel a quiet sense of pride like, “See? I can do this.”

But then something starts to shift. Sugar gets louder….not physically, but mentally. You start thinking about it more, noticing it everywhere, going back and forth in your mind: “Maybe just a little… maybe tomorrow… I shouldn’t, but I want to.” And eventually, usually when you’re tired or stressed or just worn out from trying so hard, you give in. And it’s not just a small, peaceful moment with something sweet—it often turns into, “I already messed up… I’ll start over tomorrow… I need to get this out of the house.” Suddenly, the very thing you were trying to control feels completely out of control.

This is the part so many women misunderstand. It’s easy to think, “I just need more discipline.” But that’s not what’s happening here. This isn’t a willpower issue, it’s a restriction cycle. When you label something as bad or off-limits, your brain doesn’t calm down around it. It actually pays more attention to it. It assigns it more importance. Your thoughts start circling it, not because you’re weak, but because your mind is wired to notice what feels restricted.

Your body responds too. When it senses deprivation—whether that’s physically not eating enough or mentally telling yourself you can’t have something, it naturally increases desire for that very thing. Not to sabotage you, but to protect you. Your body’s job isn’t to follow rules; it’s to keep you nourished and safe. So when you feel that intense pull toward sugar, that urgency, that “I can’t stop at one” feeling… that’s not you being out of control. That’s your body responding to not having enough freedom or consistency.

This is how the cycle keeps going: you restrict, you crave, you overeat, you feel guilty, and then you go right back to restricting. And from the outside, it can look like you’re just trying to be disciplined, but on the inside, it feels exhausting. It feels like you’re constantly thinking about food, constantly evaluating yourself, constantly starting over.

And that’s where I want to gently bring in truth. In Matthew 11:28, Jesus says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” If your relationship with food feels heavy, obsessive, or draining, that’s not the kind of life you were created for. You were not made to live in a constant cycle of control and guilt, or to feel like you’re either succeeding or failing based on what you ate that day.

There is another way, and it doesn’t begin with more rules. It begins with removing the pressure. With learning how to allow food again without fear attached to it. Because when sugar is no longer forbidden, it actually becomes less powerful. When your body learns it can trust that it’s not being deprived, cravings begin to settle. And when you stop fighting food, you finally create space to listen to your body instead of battling it.

Freedom isn’t found in tighter control. It’s found in trust. And I know that can feel unfamiliar, maybe even a little scary at first. But what if the thing you’ve been trying so hard to control is actually the place where God is inviting you into something gentler, something freer, something more whole?

You don’t need more rules. You need relief. You need permission. You need peace. And that’s where this journey begins.

Big hugs,
Nicole🩷

04/22/2026

Stop starting over.

For so long, I lived in the cycle of “I’ll do better tomorrow.” Monday would come, or the next morning, and I’d feel this little spark of hope that this time would be different. Starting over felt productive… even comforting. Like I was fixing something. But in reality, I wasn’t moving forward, I was stuck in the same exhausting loop of restricting, craving, overeating, feeling ashamed, and then trying to reset all over again.

And every time I “started over,” it quietly reinforced this belief that something was wrong with me. That I just needed more discipline, more control, more willpower. But the truth is, that cycle isn’t a failure of effort, it’s a sign that the approach itself isn’t working. Your body isn’t the problem. Your hunger isn’t the enemy. And your desire to eat isn’t something you need to fix.

What if the goal isn’t to start over, but to stay? To stay present in the moment instead of escaping it. To stay curious about what’s actually going on inside of you. To stay compassionate with yourself, even after a hard moment instead of punishing yourself for it. Because healing doesn’t come from hitting reset over and over again—it comes from gently breaking the cycle and choosing to respond differently this time.

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning…” Lamentations 3:22–23

You don’t need another Day 1. You need a different way forward….one rooted in compassion, not control. And you’re allowed to learn a new way, one that feels safe, gentle, and sustainable.

Big hugs,
Nicole 🩷

04/20/2026

I’m embarrassed to share this, but it shows where I was and where I am today.

There was a time I couldn’t watch TV or movies without comparing myself. A movie came on this afternoon, one I couldn’t even sit through years ago because I would compare myself to the leading female character.

Back then, comparison was constant. CONSTANT in mean. Today, there was complete PEACE.

It sounds crazy, but it was so bad there were times I had to leave the room. I was a size 6 and thought I was so fat and ugly. It doesn’t matter what size you are if you hate what you see or believe. What I saw in the mirror felt disgusting to me. I even struggled being friends with certain people because I couldn’t stop comparing.

Back then, I didn’t just watch the show or movie it was like a measuring stick against myself. Today, I can simply watch and be present. And be free.

That is what ED (eating disorder) does. It takes you to a deep, dark place, one that feels impossible to get out of. Ohhh, but God. He met me in the pit, and He raised me up.

When I go back and read my journals from that time, it breaks my heart. I can see how much I hated myself… how unhappy I truly was. Back then, my thoughts were filled with criticism.

Today, my thoughts are filled with gratitude.

Today when that movie came on, I was shocked and amazed that it didn’t bother me one single bit. Not even a thought to compare myself. Just one simple thought:

Thank you, Jesus, for the freedom You have given me.

Back then, I lived in a smaller body but felt trapped. Today, I live in a larger body and feel free.

And I love myself now, not in a self-righteous way but in a kind, caring, gracious way. The way God loves me. The way He created me to be.

Knowing He calls me “muchness good.”

Back then, I had to overexercise. I had to earn what I ate. I had to restrict foods. Eat clean. Eat keto. Eat no sugar. Today, I trust my body. I nourish it anyway. I listen instead of punish.

And the truth is… back then, no matter what I did or didn’t do, the bar kept moving higher and higher. It was never enough. Today, I no longer live under a moving bar. I live under grace.

I think God is gently reminding me of where I once was, not to bring shame, but to show me just how far He’s brought me.

He is such a good, good Father. 🩷🙏

04/18/2026

I used to think my issue was food. That if I could just get more disciplined… more controlled… more “on track”… everything would finally click.

But the truth? Food was never the real problem.

It was the way I didn’t know how to sit with what I felt.
The anxiety.
The overwhelm.
The memories.
The pressure.
The fear I couldn’t always name.

So I tried to manage it the only way I knew how—
by controlling my body.

Restricting felt like control. Binging felt like relief.
Starting over felt like hope.

But underneath all of it…was a heart that didn’t feel safe to feel. And maybe that’s where you are too.

Maybe it’s not that you lack discipline. Maybe it’s that no one ever taught you how to process what’s going on inside of you.

So instead of judging yourself…what if you got curious?

What am I actually feeling right now? What do I need in this moment? What would it look like to respond with compassion instead of control?

Because healing isn’t found in tighter rules. It’s found in creating safety—in your body, your thoughts, and your spirit.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18

Sweet one, you are not too much. Your feelings are not the problem. And you don’t have to manage them by managing your body anymore.

Healing starts when you stop trying to control your body and start caring for your heart. You’re allowed to learn a new way….one that feels safe, gentle, and sustainable.

And you don’t have to walk it alone.

Big hugs,
Nicole 🩷