06/17/2026
So I've been having this debate since those morning about how a blk woman who doesn't work and stays home still adds value and worth to her household.
Now, I don't necessarily disagree with LeBron because I do believe his comment was taken out of context. I can't imagine him taking issue with women who stay home when him and Savannah have been together since high school and I'm sure she wasn't working while he was in the NBA.
He might have implied that he wouldn't be interested with a woman who doesn't want to do anything but sit on the couch and that's understandable. I don't necessarily believe he was saying all women who stay home do is sit on the couch all day.
However to much of my surprise their were blk women in the comments justifying the notion that women who stay home aren't adding or contributing to the household unless they have children.
As a woman who does stay home and has for majority of my marriage and relationship, this thought process that other blk women have about blk women who don't work isn't unfamiliar. It's actually rather common in my experience.
However, it's unfortunate because while we as blk women preach and advocate about a soft life. Or we advocate about no longer being in survival mode.. we're the same women who will equate a woman's worth and value based on working, how hard she works, how much she's accomplished, how much she does. All the things that keep us in survival mode.. equating our worth to what we do, how much we have, how much we do, how far we're will stretch ourselves to do.
Our value as women isn't based on the quantity of life we survive but the quality of life that we live. And a quality life isn't about proving, pushing and performing. It's about knowing your worth and not equating it to validate others. You're valuable and worthy before you prove anything.
