05/08/2026
"...When did our softness, our sensuality, our presenceâŚbecome something we felt like we had to work around instead of lean into?
Because somewhere along the way, especially as Black women, we started treating our feminine âwooâ like it was a disadvantage⌠instead of the very thing that makes us powerful.
And instead of understanding it, we started measuring ourselves against men. Matching their tone. Matching their energy. Trying to prove that we were just as strong, just as worthy, just as valuable.
But hereâs the truthâŚ
We were never lacking power. We just werenât taught how to use the kind we naturally have.
I remember the first time I got slapped by a boy.
And before you say anythingâyes, my mouth was reckless when I was mad. Iâm not even going to sit here and act like I wasnât talking crazy. đEven, though that doesn't justify me getting slapped.
But I remember being called out of my name and immediately jumping in his face like I had something to prove. Like I had to show him I wasnât the one, And my mother used to always tell me, âStop getting in boysâ faces like that.â At the time, I thought she meant, be quiet⌠or donât stand up for yourself. But what she really meant wasâŚ" Check the comments to continue
