06/07/2026
My mom sent me a photo of baby me, and my first reaction was “wait, my face has always looked like that?”
Here’s the realization that hit: my face isn’t round because I’m fat. It’s just my face. It looked like that when I was a baby, it looked like that at my lightest in high school, and it looks like that now. Same face the whole time, at every size.
But growing up, I had round face filed under “fat” so hard that even at my thinnest I felt enormous — because the thing I was reading as fat was never going to change. It’s bone structure. It’s just how I’m built.
Millennial women got trained on this: round face = fat, fed to us through shows, movies, magazines, right when we were forming our whole sense of self. No wonder so many of us still can’t look at a photo without flinching.
I’m fat now and I’ll say it plainly. But the kid in that baby photo wasn’t. She just had this face. The same one I’m still wearing today.
What did your brain get trained to read as “fat” that was just… your body?