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Mindful Miss K 🧠 School-based OT | Parent Coach
Mindfulness • Movement • Regulation

Supporting neurodivergent families with connection & confidence 🌱

If your child has ADHD and sensory processing challenges, you may have noticed that their reactions sometimes seem much ...
09/04/2026

If your child has ADHD and sensory processing challenges, you may have noticed that their reactions sometimes seem much bigger than the situation.

A sound.
A clothing texture.
A transition.
A demand.
A small frustration.

And suddenly you’re seeing yelling, running away, shutting down, refusing, crying...or completely losing access to the skills they normally have.

At this point, their nervous system has moved into protection mode.

When sensory input or other everyday experiences become overwhelming, the brain can interpret them as a threat. The autonomic nervous system responds automatically with fight, flight, or freeze.

And here’s the part I want parents to understand:

A dysregulated child cannot simply reason their way back to regulation.

In that moment, telling them to “calm down,” use their coping strategy, think about their choices, or explain why their reaction isn’t necessary may not work because the higher-level thinking skills you’re asking them to access aren’t fully available yet. Remember that regulation pyramid? We need to start at the foundation: supporting the body and nervous system first.

Regulate → connect → then reason, problem-solve and learn.

When we understand what is happening beneath the behaviour, we can stop asking:

“How do I make them stop?”

and start asking:

“What is their nervous system communicating, and what support do they need right now?”

That shift can completely change the way we respond to children with ADHD.

And it can change the way they experience themselves, too. 🤍

Save this post as a reminder:
Regulation before reasoning.

You’re not asking, “How was your day?” because you’re doing something wrong. You’re asking because you care. You missed ...
09/01/2026

You’re not asking, “How was your day?” because you’re doing something wrong.

You’re asking because you care. You missed them. You want to know what happened, what they learned, who they played with, and how they’re feeling.

But for some kids, especially during the back-to-school transition, that question can feel like one more demand at the end of an already demanding day.

Think about everything they’ve had to process:
🧠 Following directions
🧠 Managing emotions
🧠 Navigating social interactions
🧠 Processing sensory input
🧠 Shifting between activities
🧠 Learning and remembering new information
🧠 Adapting to a new routine

By the time they walk through the door, they may simply be done.

So when we immediately ask, “How was your day?” We may unintentionally be asking them to retrieve information, organize their thoughts, communicate their experience, and regulate their emotions all while they’re already depleted.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask. ❤️

It may just mean give them a little space first.

Try:
✨ “I’m so happy to see you.”
✨ “Let’s get you settled.”
✨ “You can tell me about your day when you’re ready.”
✨ Offer a snack, water, quiet time, movement, or connection without questions.

Sometimes the most supportive thing we can do after school is reduce the cognitive load, not add to it.

And remember: an after-school meltdown doesn’t automatically mean they had a bad day.

Sometimes it means they held it together all day and finally feel safe enough to let go.

08/31/2026

🧠 INTRODUCING: Mindset Shift Monday

As an occupational therapist and ADHD specialist, I spend a lot of time helping families look beyond the behavior we see on the surface and understand what might be driving it.

So every Monday, we’re going to pause, rethink, and look at common behaviors, challenges, and assumptions through a different lens.

Because sometimes, the biggest shift isn’t in the child we’re supporting, it’s in the way we understand what we’re seeing.

Each week, we’ll use an ❌ OLD LENS vs. ✅ NEW LENS to reframe behaviors we often see in children with ADHD and other neurodivergent children, particularly those with sensory and regulation needs.

Let’s start with one I hear often:
❌ OLD LENS:
“They can’t focus because they can’t sit still.”
✅ NEW LENS:
“Movement may be helping them regulate their attention and stay engaged.”

For many children with ADHD, movement isn’t simply “being disruptive” or “not paying attention.” Movement can be one way their nervous system helps support regulation, arousal, and attention.

So instead of asking:
“How do I get them to sit still?”
Try asking:
“What helps my child’s brain and body stay regulated enough to engage and learn?”

That shift matters.

✨ Same child. New lens. Better understanding.

Follow along each Monday for another mindset shift!🩷

We talk a lot about what children should be able to do:Listen.
Cooperate.
Be flexible.
Manage frustration.
Use their wor...
08/30/2026

We talk a lot about what children should be able to do:

Listen.
Cooperate.
Be flexible.
Manage frustration.
Use their words.
Make good choices.

But we don’t always stop to ask a more important question:

How much capacity do they actually have right now?

Think about yourself.

There are days when you’re rested, fed, connected and feeling good. You have plenty of capacity. You can handle the unexpected. You’re patient. You’re flexible.
You can problem-solve.

And then there are days when you’re exhausted, hungry, stressed, overstimulated or emotionally drained.

You still know how to be patient.

You just have less capacity to access that skill.

Children are no different.
Their capacity is affected by sleep, hunger, stress, sensory input, transitions, disappointment, connection, demands and everything else their nervous system is managing throughout the day.

So when a child is at 10% capacity, asking for the same level of flexibility and self-regulation we might expect at 100% capacity isn’t necessarily going to produce the behavior we want.

The skill hasn’t disappeared. Their access to it may be limited by their capacity.

Because neither adults nor children function at 100% all the time.

So why should we expect our kids to?

❌🛑 “Fix your body.” This is something I hear often when a child is wiggling, shifting, or moving while sitting on the ru...
08/28/2026

❌🛑 “Fix your body.” This is something I hear often when a child is wiggling, shifting, or moving while sitting on the rug or in a chair….especially when their body may actually be asking for movement. And it’s something I wish we would rethink. 😵‍💫

I know the intention behind those words is often to help. But the language we use matters.

Not every body moves the same.�Not every body needs the same movement.�Not every child needs to be pushed toward someone else’s version of “normal.”

Our job isn’t to fix kids.

It’s to listen. To adapt. To support. To create opportunities for them to move, play, participate, and thrive in ways that work for their bodies.

There is nothing to fix about a body that moves differently.

The better question is:
What does this child need to feel supported, included, and successful?

Because the goal should never be to make every body move the same. 🤍

✨ We often ask children to sit still, focus, regulate their emotions, and learn, but these higher-level skills don’t dev...
08/25/2026

✨ We often ask children to sit still, focus, regulate their emotions, and learn, but these higher-level skills don’t develop in isolation.

🌳 They’re built on a foundation of underlying developmental skills.

When that foundation is weak or still developing, a child may struggle with attention, regulation, behavior, and learning, not because they won’t do better, but because they may not yet have the skills to do so.

✨ Before we focus on the behavior, we have to understand what skills are, or aren’t, supporting it.

Because you can’t build the top of the pyramid before strengthening what’s underneath.

08/23/2026

Sometimes the behavior you’re trying to “fix” is actually a clue. 👀

When your child’s behavior feels BIG, it’s easy to focus on what you can see:

❌ The meltdown
❌ The yelling
❌ The refusal
❌ The impulsivity

But behavior is often just the top of the pyramid.

Before asking, “Why are they acting like this?” try asking:

Are they hungry?
Are they tired?
Are they overwhelmed?
Do they need movement or sensory input?

Sometimes, what looks like a behavior problem is actually a body struggling to regulate.

✨ Don’t just look at the behavior. Look underneath it.

This is the first layer of the Regulation Pyramid from the Powerfully You curriculum Powerfully You and there’s more underneath behavior than most of us realize.

Follow for more ADHD + regulation tools to help you understand what your child may really be communicating. 💛

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